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To wonder where the hell he is?

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TheHeightSupremacist · 14/04/2018 20:59

Been seeing someone for a couple of months, at least twice a week but it’s been nearly every day over the past couple of weeks. He has been really into me, cooked for me, taken me away numerous times and said the l word very early on.

We had plans to go to his friends birthday tonight, spoke to him earlier and everything was fine. Text later to let him know what time I would be over, not read and no reply, we are now 2 and a half hours after we were supposed to meet and I haven’t heard from him since 3.30pm. No messages read, no answer to my calls. Getting a bit concerned, where could he be?!

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Flatpackjackie · 15/04/2018 00:15

I wouldn't ring his mum! He's an adult!

OakIsBetterTho · 15/04/2018 00:18

I wouldn't ring his mother just yet. I'd speak to her in the morning perhaps. This is all rather odd OP

MsGameandWatching · 15/04/2018 00:19

He's with someone else I would think and has thrown himself into it intending to face the music in a day or two I've never done this, not me, no way!

Iflyaway · 15/04/2018 00:24

keep trying the local hospitals & police.

ffs!

Like they have nothing better to do?!

Lj8893 · 15/04/2018 00:27

Could his mum have had an accident or something and he's with her in hospital? That would account for her car being at home and all her lights off.

Ickyockycocky · 15/04/2018 00:33

I really hope he’s okay. 💐

maddening · 15/04/2018 00:42

Hope you get an answer op, how worrying

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 15/04/2018 00:44

Out of interest did you actually go to the meal to check? Or his friends told you he wasn't there? As they could be bullshitting for him.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 15/04/2018 00:51

Any news?

cakedup · 15/04/2018 00:51

How strange...I don't think he has ghosted you somehow. People are jumping to all sorts of mad conclusions. It's normally lost phone or no charger, got drunk and fell asleep or just fell asleep sort of scenario.

Amyerda · 15/04/2018 00:52

It's the unexpected events that confuse you. He will eventually explain himself and you will be relieved as he will turn the tables on you if you question him, so you will stop. Everything will return to normal (except you will always have this with you) Fucking run for your life!

kungpopanda · 15/04/2018 00:58

Is anyone else worried about the cat? If something unexpected/unfortunate has happened, then OP please make sure it is taken care of.

Userplusnumbers · 15/04/2018 00:59

Do let us know when you find him OP - incredibly intrigued about what it is!

cakedup · 15/04/2018 00:59

Yes, I'm also worried about the cat. Could you feed the poor thing through the letter box if you still haven't heard anything OP?

Bouncingbelle · 15/04/2018 01:07

I may be cynical but I reckon he is at birthday meal, there is an ex there he is still interested in, and he is getting his friends to cover for him. Check their fb accounts for photos in the morning!

Flampingu · 15/04/2018 01:13

Found him?

spicerack · 15/04/2018 01:15

any update OP? fingers crossed for you x

Pigeonpost · 15/04/2018 01:25

After the day I've had I would probably blame a dead phone.

strongerthan · 15/04/2018 01:31

Let us know OP.

If he turns out to be a shit I'm sorry for you but not surprised - too many wankers out there.

I hope he isn't thou and he's ok

QuackPorridgeBacon · 15/04/2018 02:08

I’d be worrying I think. No social media activity and missing a meal with his friend makes it seem more sinister. Maybe he’s just fell asleep or is ill and sleeping it off, if I’m really ill I don’t use my phone and will be suffering or trying to sleep. Hopefully it’s something like that.

LagunaBubbles · 15/04/2018 02:14

The obvious answer is usually what has happened. He's drunk and with another woman. Sorry if this turns out to be the case.

SunshinenSparkles · 15/04/2018 02:26

Sorry you're having to worry like this OP, I hope he turns up soon!

Passmethecrisps · 15/04/2018 02:27

Do you know his mum at all? Could you call her in the morning?

sockunicorn · 15/04/2018 03:00

@TheHeightSupremacist I get that you dont know his mother very well but, as a parent, I would fully understand your concern and would WANT you to wake me. I would actually be devestated if my son was missing for hours and missed a friends meal (pretty big deal) and nobody informed me. He may be hurt somewhere with limited time. I would wake her up xx Flowers

Nottheduchessofcambridge · 15/04/2018 03:07

How bizarre, hope he’s ok!

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