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To wonder where the hell he is?

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TheHeightSupremacist · 14/04/2018 20:59

Been seeing someone for a couple of months, at least twice a week but it’s been nearly every day over the past couple of weeks. He has been really into me, cooked for me, taken me away numerous times and said the l word very early on.

We had plans to go to his friends birthday tonight, spoke to him earlier and everything was fine. Text later to let him know what time I would be over, not read and no reply, we are now 2 and a half hours after we were supposed to meet and I haven’t heard from him since 3.30pm. No messages read, no answer to my calls. Getting a bit concerned, where could he be?!

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AnnieAnoniMouser · 14/04/2018 22:26

Some men get off on messing women around like this. If you ditch him, be prepared for him harassing you until you agree to make up. Give him another fortnight and he'll be doing it all over again. And so the abusive cycle begins. Or not, if you have the good sense to ditch him and makes sure he stays ditched

Apologies if you've already found him dead in a gutter somewhere

This made me laugh more than it should have...

Sorry OP, I hope you find there’s been some crisis meaning he couldn’t contact you, but nothing life changing.

HughLauriesStubble · 14/04/2018 22:27

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SirVixofVixHall · 14/04/2018 22:28

That is a bit worrying. Maybe a family emergency ?

Willthisdoo · 14/04/2018 22:30

Hope there’s a very simple reason for this and that he’s okay. x

covetingthepreciousthings · 14/04/2018 22:30

Do you know any of his family? I think I'd try contact them & see if they know, may have had a family emergency.

Does sound worrying, hope you find out soon OP. If he's not even contacted his friends to let them know he wouldn't be there, I don't think that seems like he's 'ghosting' you.

AnnieAnoniMouser · 14/04/2018 22:30

Sorry, badly timed cross post there.

Last time this happened to me I was really worried, really, really, worried. The next day I got a text saying ‘Sorry, I fell asleep’ He was bloody lucky to avoid the patio treatment,

Haggisfish · 14/04/2018 22:31

I hope he’s ok and that there is a reasonable explanation.

stayanotherday · 14/04/2018 22:31

4teensandababy - Yes it was a troll and so was the morally not married.

numptynuts · 14/04/2018 22:32

Hope he's ok OP?

Fruitcorner123 · 14/04/2018 22:33

Ive also known people (men) fall asleep in the middle of the day like this and miss a whole event. Let's hope it's that. If it is you might not hear anything until the morning so try not to worry.

Backtoblack1 · 14/04/2018 22:33

Have you managed to trace him? Hope all ok x

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 14/04/2018 22:33

Have you tried a&e and local police stations? Might've been picked up by one or the other? Flowers

Crazycatladyx5 · 14/04/2018 22:35

He could just be asleep....maybe his phone is on silent. Mine nearly always is but then it's never far from my hand.
If be really worried too. But I'm an overthinker & worry about everything.
Hope he turns up ok with a good explanation.

Tistheseason17 · 14/04/2018 22:36

Ex did this to me. He did not answer phone to his friends either.

He was with OW.

His friends knew but said nothing.

But, as PP said he could have had an accident... Or fallen asleep.... got drunk.

If he says "A&E" I'd want to see the discharge summary!!!

Katyb1310 · 14/04/2018 22:36

I hope he's ok, OP. Very worrying for you Flowers

GimbleInTheWabe · 14/04/2018 22:37

Sorry that you've been left to worry like this OP. I'm sure there will be a simple explanation to it all but the waiting round is awful.
DP once went missing for a few hours after a (rare!) night out with friends. Phone straight to answerphone and not a peep from him all night. Nothing I did could distract me from the worry. He'd rolled in at 6am still rather drunk and had been asleep on his mates sofa. I was so relieved I burst out crying and he said the next day that my reaction was enough to know not to put me through the worry again, even if he didn't mean to.

Hopefully soon you'll hear from him and all will be well.

AlpacaLypse · 14/04/2018 22:38

Possibly a family emergency. But most likely gone on the piss with dear friends from school/uni/work/sport/delete as appropriate met down pub earlier. Disclaimer I'm pretty cynical.

1Violetcream · 14/04/2018 22:41

Sorry... this must be really worrying for you x

WeirdyMcBeardy · 14/04/2018 22:42

Given he hasn't turned up to his mate's meal, I'd be really worried OP. Hope he turns up.

summacummamumma · 14/04/2018 22:43

I would be worried...have you considered putting a welfare call into the police? I hope all is ok!!

KerrdN · 14/04/2018 22:45

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theredjellybean · 14/04/2018 22:45

I'd be worried too.
He didn't show for the birthday meal, so obviously not out on the lash with birthday boy and friends.
No one has heard from him and no online /phone activity.
I don't think he has ghosted you.. Surely he'd go to meal thing if he wS not keen on you going.
If you know any family members I'd get hold of them.
If he has been in an accident you would nit be listed as nok on medical records so no one would call you.
You can ring your local a&e they may tell you if he is there.

snewname · 14/04/2018 22:48

Is this the same op as the one in the tree?

Birdsgottafly · 14/04/2018 22:49

I'd be really worried, tbh. Can anyone get into his house, do you know his Mum etc?

SaltireSaltire · 14/04/2018 22:49

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