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To feel like a bloody fool

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mummabeargrr · 14/04/2018 19:32

My DS called me a couple of weeks ago to invite me to hers for a BBQ for today, my DF would be in the country and staying with her so we could all meet up. I got DD to organise her work so she had the time off so we could all be there. I get a phone call yesterday from DF to tell me how poorly DS was (she has had a cold) and how busy he was and would it be ok to cancel and maybe he would pop up next weekend to see the DGC but we'll speak later. I said of course obviously.

Then 3 hours ago discover via FB that DS,BIL And DF have all gone to the races!

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Haberpop · 14/04/2018 19:34

Have you called them out on it? That is a horrible thing to do to a family member.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 14/04/2018 19:34

Nice family you've got there Hmm
Personally I'd fuck them off but that's me.

Returnofthesmileybar · 14/04/2018 19:35

Ouch, that's not nice at all!!

What baffles me in these situations is who the fuck is stupid enough to put it on FB? Unless of course whoever put it up wanted you to see it

FrancisCrawford · 14/04/2018 19:35

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ScreamingValenta · 14/04/2018 19:36

Eh? If they wanted to go to the races, why on earth not ask you along with them?

franklyludicrous · 14/04/2018 19:36

Eeek that's happened to me before but not such close family members, I wished them a nice day out on FB so that they knew I had seen what they had been doing instead. Horrible isn't it.

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mummabeargrr · 14/04/2018 19:36

So bloody shocked, not said anything yet! Don't know if I can be bothered to be honest!

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FairiesVsPixies · 14/04/2018 19:36

Oh that's so horribleShock

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 14/04/2018 19:36
Shock

You’re not the fool in this story!! Why on earth would you be a fool to think your were being told the truth from family?

Why on earth didn’t they just tell you they were off to the races? What’s the backstory?

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mummabeargrr · 14/04/2018 19:38

It really hurt I have to admit. My DC where looking forward to seeing Grandad. DD has made him an Easter card. Shocked!

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HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 14/04/2018 19:39

Certainly not a fool! People can be so bloody mean, why would they not just invite you and DD along to the races?

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 14/04/2018 19:41

What a bunch of mean arseholes. It's the lying that would have upset me. Sure, I would have been pissed off, but to do that is just really really shitty.

Yabu to think that you are the fool. THEY are the foolish dicks.

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mummabeargrr · 14/04/2018 19:41

@HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone that's what I wondered?

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Spangles1963 · 14/04/2018 19:42

It never ceases to amaze me what awful families some people have. Sorry that you've been on the receiving end of such shitty behaviour OP. Do they have form for this sort of thing,or is this the first time it's happened?

Sequencedress · 14/04/2018 19:44

I’d comment on the FB post exactly that - that DC made him an easter card, but since ‘D’S is apparently so ‘poorly’ that they had to cancel your visit, they won’t be able to give it to him. Let others see what shits they are. But I’m a bitch so I’m sure the correct response is to rise above it. Actually, why should you? Post away OP. I’m sorry they’re such arseholes Flowers

Moominfan · 14/04/2018 19:46

what a shitty bunch of people. hope you did something lovely with your day regardless. next time they invite you don't forget

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mummabeargrr · 14/04/2018 19:46

DS stopped talking to me 5 years ago because I couldn't change wedding venue and date to suit her, we'd just lost MIL and suffered a miscarriage and wanted something to look forward to. We've only been tenuously talking for a year and half. She refused to pass on gift to my DC until I apologised etc.
But I thought we were making ground to repair the friendship. It appears I was wrong.

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Sequencedress · 14/04/2018 19:47

Plus your F lives out of the country yes? So he not only blew you off but his grandkid(s) too, who (I assume) he doesn’t see too often? Please don’t be summoned to visit him while he’s here this time, after this. He doesn’t deserve it Flowers

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mummabeargrr · 14/04/2018 19:47

DF sees them 3 times a year maximum.

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Whocansay · 14/04/2018 19:49

I would have to comment on such a miraculous recovery. And I would be unavailable for the forseeable future. Not only are they nasty, but they are stupid to tell such a lie, and then post on social media. Twats.

Do something lovely with your lot tomorrow.

pictish · 14/04/2018 19:49

That’s pretty dreadful. Make sure you tell them that you know they went to the races, that people rearranged things so they could come along and that your daughter made her grandad a card and was looking forward to seeing him, only to be ditched for a better offer. Tell them you’re hurt.

Why not?

Chapterandverse · 14/04/2018 19:49

I would definitely have to comment.

notsohippychick · 14/04/2018 19:55

How horrible.

I would comment. I wouldn’t have the resolve to hold back!!!

Bunch of rotters. I hope they lose all their money and stand in horse shit.

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/04/2018 19:55

What is your father’s role in the situation. Is he manipulated by your sister or is she his favourite/golden child?

LizzieDarcy1907 · 14/04/2018 19:58

I'd make sure that they knew you knew. And your DC were disappointed. What horrid behaviour from them Flowers

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