So what happens when you have nothing in common with dp & dc?

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Away for a break with dh and 2 x ds. I've hated it and then, what the actual fuck do I do?

My dh says he's too old to do stuff with the boys, bit they don't want to do stuff with me

Well you’ve had a long haul of parenting then. I have fairly big age gaps and i have definitely lost my early zestiness. Still think you should talk to your dh.

What interests do the boys have?

I'm going to bow out now because I'm totally confused as to where you are, who you're with, and what you want to do about it.

I've asked a number of questions none of which you've answered. Hope you get some closure.

What are they doing?
Are they moaning about crap wifi?

Oh OP.

I’ve got two sons with my husband (they are very young though) but when I think about the future I have this awful sense that at some point I’m going to be on the periphery and it will be Them and Me.

At the minute they’re all about their mommy because of their age but I can envisage the teenage years when they inevitably drift towards their father to do all the sporty boys stuff and that’ll be my job done.

It sounds dramatic and I know it’s not necessarily going to happen but I fear it will.

You sound very unhappy OP and you aren’t being unreasonable for feeling like that. You can’t control your emotions and feelings and so all you can do is try and work out how to deal with them and how to act on them

I used to feel same when my Dds were teenage. I just think you are being honest.
If I was you and you say your ds and DH like each other’s company I would leave them to it and spend most of the time doing what I liked instead of playing happy families.
I always loved my Dcs but now they are older actually like them.
DH has improved now life is less fraught.

Zib lol yes depression and early menopause!

I'm going away on my own to Barcelona in the summer hols, they know and don't overly care

Have you been to the GP to talk about how you’re feeling?

Also, do you have your own interests and social life? Maybe if you were spending more time out of the house, with other people, doing things that interest just you, then you might feel a bit happier whenever you are at home.

How are you in yourself? Is it worth seeing your GP to discuss things?

My bf has absolutely no interest in my hobbies but luckily DS is at an age where he's still happy to come to museums and isn't dying of embarrassment when I try out skateboarding and Minecraft so I have an interest in his hobbies.

I can completely understand how isolating it must feel when any mention of something you're interested in or the suggestion of doing something together that you're interesting in is met with boredom and disinterest.

Could you see if you can find a social group or friends to share your interests with and keep hobbies and family separate?

I'm not great, but on meds to help, but a dh who says he's too old and can't do anything else with his adoring sons apart from driving them to sporting activities, is shite

Rather than try to get them involved in something you suggest, how about just getting involved in what they like? You might surprise yourself and find a new hobby/skill (or at the very least get added kudos for being a cool mum ;-) ). Or sit down together and throw ideas about finding something new for you all to do? There must be things you can do together, you just need to find them!

If your children don't want anything from you apart from food and nurturing, it's pretty soul destroying

Just saw your post that said you were going to Barcelona on your own and that they 'don't overly care'. Are you sure?? Maybe they feel hurt and are covering up their feelings? How about suggesting they go too and look out for things you know they like there, that you can all do together whilst you have a little bit of 'me' time there too?

Do you work OP? Are you happy there if you do?

I'm just thinking if you were happier in other areas of your life you could focus on those more and it might lessen the feelings you're experiencing.

Mumo I've got season tickets to see our local premier league football team which has been fine for a few years, but now they won't go with me because it's boring! I keep being told I'm boring

Barcelonaaa! Fantastic. I was about to ask if their interests are so tedious did you do much on your own that you were really passionate about?

Is your dh well? My dh is older than that, our dd is younger but he loves taking her out and eg swimming, running occasionally etc. He does have some health problems or he would do a lot more.
What do your dc say about it all?

Most teenagers think we are boring, little do they know! Are these ds the youngest of your child responsibilities now?

You're saying you can't love someone who doesn't like what you like. That's quite an unusual view

No the OP didn't say anything like that.

Yes I work but from home in a family business.

Re the season tickets if their dad says he's taking them then they will go