So what happens when you have nothing in common with dp & dc?

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Away for a break with dh and 2 x ds. I've hated it and then, what the actual fuck do I do?

Personally I think you are projecting and viewing them as the problem when the problem is you, you're the one that's unhappy after all. Can you afford some counselling to talk through this?

To be happy, what do you feel you need?

What a sad thread. I’ve a DH and three boys I’ve nothing in common with. They are all different to each other too. But I love the very bones of them and love to be with them for who they are. They are funny/odd/make me laugh/make me question. They are interesting.

You sound so self absorbed. Sad.

Where are you and what are you doing?

Also I am a mum of two boys. They are younger and I share two big interests with one of them. The other one is too little to have interests as such. DH and i have a few ‘interests’ in common (food/Politics/travel) but we are very different people. We have been together for 17 years though since our teens and we are a strong team.

I am slightly baffled by your them versus me attitude.

We've done it all over the last couple of years, abroad, beaches/pool. England canal boating and centre parcs etc. It never works

What never works?
If you hate them, you’re going to hate them wherever you are, surely?

Do you hate the DCs or is it your DH and you're projecting it onto them too?

You hate your own children? Why?

I'm not self absorbed, what mother is? But I do know when unhappy and feel like running away to be in my own

Forget about the past and concentrate on now. Are you still away or do you want to end your relationship?

I'm hating my time with them all, not them as my flash and blood, I adore them

I also feel that way too whatthe. I think to a degree it is normal. I can't count the amount of times i've wanted to up and leave because I thought they'd be better off without me.

Have you tried talking to your DH about how you feel a bit pushed out?

Our family (. 3 kids ) apart from v early days have never gone on holiday all together.
We do it in twos !

*flesh

I feel very sad... for your children!

You're saying you can't love someone who doesn't like what you like. That's quite an unusual view.

Your children are independent people and can have separate interests to you. You should celebrate that!

You sound generally unhappy and are possibly projecting. Have you thought of counselling? It might help to highlight your options.

So is it just your holidays you feel this way or all the time? I'm a bit confused

Op you're not answering any of the real questions.

How long have you felt like this? Is ot jist holiday blues or did ot start before?
is there other issues going on?

Please don't feel sad for my children, they have a great life

I guess I do want to leave my dh I can't see a future for us. The boys rill want to go will him so it's all a bit shit really

why not ask your dh to take them away and you get peace and quiet at home?

Oh right, so you don't hate them after all

You're not really giving enough information OP.

In fact you are giving false information so it's a bit difficult to work out what your problem is.

I went on holidays with dh and dss when they teens. They wanted to play golf all day l hate golf. I just read my books and sat by the pool totally chilled. I was just glad teens were happy as not all holidays suit at that age.
My df has 2 boys and both of them plus her dh were obsessed with visiting war museums and such stuff on holidays. For a few years she was jealous of how much they had in common with their dad and felt so left out. But it was great they were happy. She went on yoga holidays with her friends seperately just to stay sane.

Why is it shit if you hate them? Or do you actually just hate this gap?

How long have you been with DH? How long have you not loved him?

Ive said I'm hating my time with them, there is a difference

Why do you hate your time with them? What is so horrible about it?