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AIBU?

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Original poster

To say Dh’s farts spoiled our day out?

168 replies

Snap8TheCat · 12/04/2018 15:55

He obviously thinks IABU.

Yesterday we went on a family day out to a historical building. The children are at an age where they really enjoy this sort of place and particularly love history.

We spent the day looking around the buildings and listening to speakers, enjoying artwork, reading plaques and taking photographs etc.

However I feel the day was interrupted by Dh’s noxious gas. God knows what he’d eaten but my goodness it was so embarrassing. We kept having to move on quickly due to the smell. He doesn’t usually emit quite such a foul stench and I appreciate he did need the loo and couldn’t help it.

Aibu to say his farts really did spoil the ambiance and concentration required of the venue? He says he couldn’t help it and so IABU.

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SneakyGremlins · 12/04/2018 15:56

HmmGrin

Creambun2 · 12/04/2018 15:56

Is he from a middle class background?

Notevilstepmother · 12/04/2018 15:56
Biscuit

Poor man had a bad stomach. I don’t understand why everyone is so pearl clutchy about bodily functions.

ManicUnicorn · 12/04/2018 15:57

Hahahahahahah! Grin

Susanjeffery1984 · 12/04/2018 15:57

Yanbu. That is disgusting. If he needed the toilet he should have gone.
What would he have done if he had been at work?? I’m sure he would have managed to hold it in then...

NorthernKnickers · 12/04/2018 15:57

Was there not a loo he could have popped into? 😂😳😷😂

MerryMarigold · 12/04/2018 15:58

YAbothU for having children who enjoy stately homes.

NorthernKnickers · 12/04/2018 15:59

Oh fgs @Susanjeffery1984 ...it's a trump! He didn't drop an atom bomb!!

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 12/04/2018 15:59

Why didn't he go to the toilet?

minipie · 12/04/2018 15:59

If he needed the loo why didn't he go to the loo?

It is a bit mean of you to go on about it though. Poor chap.

Gileswithachainsaw · 12/04/2018 15:59

Yuck..once might be an accident but after that he could have gone outside or to the toilet.

It's just rude tbh

Jaynesworld · 12/04/2018 15:59

Grin sounds like a day out with my family.

HeedMove · 12/04/2018 15:59

I think you are being silly saying it ruined the day but it makes me so annoyed when my husband farts right near other people and it stinks instead of just waiting till no ones around. He says he literally cant hold it in.

Springtrolls · 12/04/2018 16:00

Grin Sounds like something that happens to me. At work, home, most places I'm fine.
But then I go somewhere that would be really embarrassing and I get let down. Thankfully they are silent but still mortifying. Going to the loo, not an option as they are sneaky fuckers that just descend and no matter how much you try will not be contained.

HeedMove · 12/04/2018 16:03

Spring sounds like you need to do some kegel exercises then.

Springtrolls · 12/04/2018 16:08

Any other time they can be held in.
Just these ones they either come from nowhere which is typical. Or they cannot be held in because of the speed in which they come and erm go.
It's probably a thing you need to experience to understand.

Pinkvoid · 12/04/2018 16:10

Grin.

8SaltandVinegar · 12/04/2018 16:11

It's totally your fault. You fed the poor man some crap that made his poor bowel got mental. YABVU.
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Hope he forgives you.

pepperpot99 · 12/04/2018 16:12

No, you are not being unreasonable. Any adult who needs the toilet should bloody well go. All stately homes etc have toilet facilities so what was his problem? it's disgusting to fart and stink the place out like that. He wouldn't do it in a work meeting would he? Is he a toddler? vile.

BertrandRussell · 12/04/2018 16:13

So you wouldn’t be able to hold in a fart if you were being introduced to, say, your favourite actor? Or at a funeral?

SchadenfreudePersonified · 12/04/2018 16:16

I'm afraid I wouldn't Bertrand

Luckily my almost vegetarian diet means that I am noisy rather than noxious - but I can't hold in my wind.

cloudyweewee · 12/04/2018 16:18

I've never understood the idea that if you fart, it means you need the toilet. I remember being very confused by this as a child when the teacher would sniff a meaty stench and announce "Somebody needs to go the toilet!". No, actually. Sometimes you just need to let rip.

Sparklyshoes16 · 12/04/2018 16:19

Err yuck was at a Museum the other day with friend and her child and someone who was stood in front of us did a massive eggy fart...It stank!!! It lingered around the other rooms too as he'd obviously been in the other areas! When we went to the cafe he was sat two tables away...after 5 mins eggy fart/shit smell came over our way! Other people kept looking at him (as in to go to the loo) but he just sat and kept drinking his coffee like nothing was wrong Hmm We couldn't take the smell anymore so we left once my friends child had finished! As we were leaving a family went up to the desk asking if the window next to them could be opened (some sort of pole thing to get it open) the man with the fart problem sat with his back to the family oblivious of getting evils from the parents! YANBU your DH should have gone to the loo!

Ps this was not an old man (we probably would have had more sympathy for some reason) I would say early 40s.

Takfujuimoto · 12/04/2018 16:20

Maybe he doesn't like these type of outings and this was he silent but deadly dirty protest?

Maybe he's trying to condition you with his farts Shock Grin

YANBU to be annoyed by it, he should have just gone to the toilet fgs.
YABU if you keep mentioning it.

Original poster
Snap8TheCat · 12/04/2018 16:20

Haha he has a job where he can probably let a few go whilst on his own.

He won’t go for a poo out of the house. He’d rather fart all day. When I suggested he should have gone before we left home, this was also unreasonable since he didn’t need to go then.

He bagsied first in the toilet on the way home.

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