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AIBU?

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To say Dh’s farts spoiled our day out?

168 replies

Snap8TheCat · 12/04/2018 15:55

He obviously thinks IABU.

Yesterday we went on a family day out to a historical building. The children are at an age where they really enjoy this sort of place and particularly love history.

We spent the day looking around the buildings and listening to speakers, enjoying artwork, reading plaques and taking photographs etc.

However I feel the day was interrupted by Dh’s noxious gas. God knows what he’d eaten but my goodness it was so embarrassing. We kept having to move on quickly due to the smell. He doesn’t usually emit quite such a foul stench and I appreciate he did need the loo and couldn’t help it.

Aibu to say his farts really did spoil the ambiance and concentration required of the venue? He says he couldn’t help it and so IABU.

OP posts:
Sparklyshoes16 · 12/04/2018 17:54

When I say go to the loo after farting I mean when you can't stop and they smell really rotten...I was always taught that meant the poo was working it's way out of you...a couple of farts here and there is nothing...the person who was sat near us started to have a shit smell! I personally don't have a problem if it's done discreetly or if it's done loudly the person apologises that's just basic manners!

SunnyTikka · 12/04/2018 17:56

Am I the only one who is falling about in childish laughter at these stories??

I love MN.

Applejack70455 · 12/04/2018 17:58

It's entirely possible not to fart in public. Anyone who does this is asking for whatever they get.

KurriKurri · 12/04/2018 18:00

My XH used to fart extremely frequently - again sheer laziness - couldn't be bothered to go to the loo, wouldn't make any attempt to hold it in or confine it to the toilet. I can easily believe that your DH's farting ruined your day out - I've been that wife !!

There's nothing pearl clutchy about not wanting to be around someone who is stinkily farting. My XH used to do it while we were eating as well as whenever we were out anywhere. He also did it continuosuly at work (as my DD found out when she did work experience at his workplace and was extremely embarrassed by him.)

It is really anti social and nothing to do with being squeamish about bodily functions - I have no problem with the idea that people have to fart or shit either - I just don't want them to do it in front of me while I am having a meal, or going round a stately home. Since toilets exist, why not use them ?

I can excuse it in small children (note to self - never go back to the dinosaur section of the Natural history museum during Easter Hols without a gas mask) but not in adults (again obvious exceptions for people with bowel problems, etc) Although having said that, my sister has severe IBS and she doesn't go around stinking out the joint, if she needs the toilet she goes and finds one, like a grown up.

BertrandRussell · 12/04/2018 18:00

Accidental public farts can be funny. Deliberate public farts are unpleasant and rude.

ToadOfSadness · 12/04/2018 18:03

Charcoal tablets, buy them in bulk and be sure to always have them to hand for him to take.

Ivorbig1 · 12/04/2018 18:04

Get yourself a nosegay. It’s omly a fart, unless he had actually shat himself??

KendalMintCakey · 12/04/2018 18:06

he was ill. have some compassion.

TrappedWind · 12/04/2018 18:07

He should've just gone for a poo!

thegreatbeyond · 12/04/2018 18:07

He is nasally abusive. LTB.

namechange2222 · 12/04/2018 18:07

Am I the only person who has never been married to / had a relationship with/ had friend or family member who farts in public? Utterly vile and such a turn off
We all fart but why do it in public? I honestly wouldn't have anyone in my life who thought otherwise ( unless they were under 5)

HoarseMackerel · 12/04/2018 18:13

Reminds me of a news story about people on the i360 at Brighton, which is completely sealed and goes up in the air to enjoy the view.
A man did such disgusting farts in it that people were being sick on the floor!
They couldn't get away from it.
When finally getting out, there was a riot and they all got vouchers for tea and cake and a return visit!
The best bit was the farter gave an interview to the local paper explaining why his wind was so foul!!!! Why would you?!

Susanjeffery1984 · 12/04/2018 18:14

@HoarseMackerel didn’t see that story but I’m LOLing

DidNotThinkItWouldHappenHere · 12/04/2018 18:16

It's entirely possible not to fart in public. Anyone who does this is asking for whatever they get

Clearly said by someone that doesn't suffer from IBS or other gut related issues..

Tiddlywinks63 · 12/04/2018 18:17

It's antisocial and ignorant. Do you seriously think that anyone wants to smell another person's farts?

I presume you wouldn't crap in front of someone? or perhaps you would

DidNotThinkItWouldHappenHere · 12/04/2018 18:19

Who are you asking that of, Tiddlywinks63?

Sprinklesinmyelbow · 12/04/2018 18:20

My dad used to do this. It didn’t make for sophisticated days out put it that way. Like going out with onslow from keeping up appearances Grin

That said, wind isn’t always related to the need to poo so that might not’ve Helped

Tiddlywinks63 · 12/04/2018 18:23

I suffer from severe IBS and would be mortified if I farted in front of DH let alone complete strangers. Why on earth wouldn't you try to get outside instead of stinking the place ou To?

Gwenhwyfar · 12/04/2018 18:23

"I've never understood the idea that if you fart, it means you need the toilet. I remember being very confused by this as a child when the teacher would sniff a meaty stench and announce "Somebody needs to go the toilet!". No, actually. Sometimes you just need to let rip."

Exactly.
I suppose for some people some of the time it can mean needing a no.2 and both diarrhoea and constipation can cause it, but if I have flatulence, no way does going to the toilet once stop it.
I can't ever stop it happening.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/04/2018 18:24

"Why on earth wouldn't you try to get outside instead of stinking the place ou To?"

Because for those of us who suffer it would mean standing outside all the time. Never going in for anything and not having a job.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/04/2018 18:26

"It's entirely possible not to fart in public."

Not for me it's not and obviously not for many other people.

ForalltheSaints · 12/04/2018 18:27

YANBU OP. He could have gone to the toilet. They are usually clean and well kept in stately homes.

DidNotThinkItWouldHappenHere · 12/04/2018 18:27

LOL - is that aimed at me Tiddlywinks63?

Did you assume from my post that I have gut issues? Sorry to tell you that I am perfectly in control of my wind, comes with years of doing the job I do when I am one on one with people.

But I work one on one with people, some of which DO have issues, and do get very embarrassed and I have to reassure people regularly that it's fine. So hell yeah I am going to stick up for people that don't necessarily get enough warning to remove themselves from the situation.

KittTheCar · 12/04/2018 18:27

he should've gone for a shit fgs

most men i have been close enough to to know, have refused to shit off home turf. it's like a teritorial thing or something, don't know.

then to avoid shitting off home turf they take these marathon sessions just when you're about to leave

Does my head on, men and shitting threads are always very long on here!

FrancisUnderwood · 12/04/2018 18:31

YANBU OP, unless he is ill there's really no excuse. It isn't funny.

I also hate people who announce their burps really loudly. It's beyond crass.