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Because I would rather be overdressed?

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Mamabear1475 · 11/04/2018 19:24

We are having our families photos done professionally this weekend. I have already picked out a dress to wear. But straight after the photos finish we are going to a friend's get together about 5 minutes away. According to dh I am going to look ridiculous because I will be dressed up and nobody else will be. AIBU to not give a shit? I was once massively underdressed for something and spent the entire night hiding in shame

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IAmWonkoTheSane · 11/04/2018 19:26

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Swearwolf · 11/04/2018 19:26

If it was an issue you could just take something to change into. If you're happy then tell him to mind his own business!

Yumyumpigs · 11/04/2018 19:26

Who does he think will care? Yiur friends won't. As long as it's not fancy dress 😂😂🤣

In fact doesn't matter if it is. You like it crack on 👍

IAmWonkoTheSane · 11/04/2018 19:26

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EggysMom · 11/04/2018 19:27

Won't DH and the child(ren) also be dressed up from the photography session?

Crispbutty · 11/04/2018 19:27

I would take something to change into. Nothing worse than feeling out of place and uncomfortable.

Troels · 11/04/2018 19:28

Unless the photo shoot includes some seriously strange clothing how would you be overdressed, it's a normal dress not a wedding dress right?

zeebeedee · 11/04/2018 19:28

As long as you are comfortable, and not precious about your clothes,wear what you want!

A couple of years ago we went to a posh lunch, and afterwards lots of people went to the beach. Everyone was 'overdressed' but those who paddled anyway had a great time, whereas those who couldn't walk on the sand, or let the wind blow their skirt were miserable.

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 11/04/2018 19:30

He sounds a bit weird. Why is he arsed?

PlateOfBiscuits · 11/04/2018 19:30

Go for it.

Where were you massively underdressed so much so that you had to hide?!

NordicNobody · 11/04/2018 19:31

I went overdressed to an event by accident once - NYE party in my friend's home country. He assured me that a posh frock was an absolute must as all the women going were very stylish and it was going to be a smart event. I turned up dressed to the nines, to find everyone else in jeans, eating pizza, and playing board games. My friend was utterly pissing himself, he thought it was the best joke ever, but I felt like a twat and all the girls kept giving me dirty looks. Buuuuuuut, these weren't my existing friends. Given that you know and are close to the hosts, who presumably won't give a shit either, I'd just wear what you're wearing!

amymel2016 · 11/04/2018 19:32

Go for it! Your friends wont care and if they ask you can just explain about the photo shoot!

PinkCalluna · 11/04/2018 19:33

I agree with you, far better to be overdressed than underdressed.

Regardless, if it’s a casual get together at your friends’ home no one will care how you look. If anyone queries it, a 30 second explanation will surely suffice?

Your DH’s insecurities as showing.

TeeBee · 11/04/2018 19:33

I am a big believer that being overdressed is always better than being underdressed. Can't you just waltz in saying 'sorry peeps, bit overdressed as we've been having family photos'. Kick your shoes off and style it out. Nobody will give a shit, surely.

sonjadog · 11/04/2018 19:36

You have a good reason for being overdressed (if you are). So go in your outfit if you want to.

RavenLG · 11/04/2018 19:40

Just take a change of clothes?

Nordic been in that similar situation before. First time meeting 2 of DPs friends (couple who were expecting in a few weeks). We were due to go into town (Dps pregnant friend wasn't going!) but plans changed and DP told me it was a 'party' at theirs instead. Thought it was odd as I'm sure I wouldn't want to host a massive party around xmas time. Got ready, dressed up, make up, hair... got there and everyone in jeans and jumpers, comfy stuff and they had made a meal for us, really casual and chilled. I have never ever ever felt more awkward in my life. I looked a proper clip!

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Mamabear1475 · 11/04/2018 19:41

They will all just be in jeans/t shirts. The friends i mean. Dh and son will just have jeans and a shirt on and apparantly the rules dont apply to them Hmm My daughter will be overdressed but she is 7mo so will get away with it Grin

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Bluelady · 11/04/2018 19:43

Will he be over dressed?

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Mamabear1475 · 11/04/2018 19:45

I was massively underdressed because a friend told me there was a party that was just causaul. I was a teenager at the time. It wasn't. Everyone was dressed up like it was prom and I had ripped jeans and a t shirt Blush apparently she said it because it was funny

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PinkCalluna · 11/04/2018 19:47

So when he says you will look “ridiculous” what he means is “I will be embarrassed because my wife will stand out and I’m not alpha male enough to be able to cope with that” Hmm

KirstenRaymonde · 11/04/2018 19:47

Wouldn’t bother me, my friends don’t care what I wear! Wear what you like OP Wine

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Mamabear1475 · 11/04/2018 19:54

This is the dress, excuse my socks Grin I didn't have any heels to try it on with in the changing room

Because I would rather be overdressed?
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extinctspecies · 11/04/2018 19:56

It's a lovely dress, but i think you might feel the cold.

Annonymiss123 · 11/04/2018 19:57

Why not bring a change of clothes?

LizzieMcTizzy · 11/04/2018 19:57

If your dh and ds are in jeans and a shirt and you are wearing that dress, I don’t think the flow of the family shoot will work.

Sorry

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