Because I would rather be overdressed?

[Mamabear1475]

We are having our families photos done professionally this weekend. I have already picked out a dress to wear. But straight after the photos finish we are going to a friend's get together about 5 minutes away. According to dh I am going to look ridiculous because I will be dressed up and nobody else will be. AIBU to not give a shit? I was once massively underdressed for something and spent the entire night hiding in shame

Sorry op I did one of those photo shoots wearing a dressy dress and it didn't look good in the photos. Friend of mine did hers with her DC's and DH all wearing white shirts and blue jeans and it looked fab, relaxed and lovely not uptight and overdressed (and I love a dress up). I would rethink the photoshoot clothes if I were you.

I think that dress is beautiful, I'd love to be able to wear something like that. I think popping a cardigan over it would definitely dress it 'down' for afterwards but I would still wear it!

It's a lovely dress! I'm sure it'll look great, they're wearing shirts right, smart ones? And if the jeans are black, there isn't much difference to black trousers...

YANBU.

Wear the damn dress and enjoy yourself.

The dress is lovely OP and will look fine with your DH and DS in jeans and a shirt. I wouldn’t bother changing if I was going straight to friends i’m not sure what your DH’s problem is.

OP it is a lovely dress but I don't think it's "too dressy" if you know what I mean? It's not a ball gown. I wouldn't really care what people thought. If women comment about you being "over dressed" then they are jealous

Yes, smart shirts, I struggled enough getting d's to agree to that, he lives in trackies and t shirts every day

It's a lovely dress but honestly will look too much next to others dressed in jeans and shirts. It's a formal dress IMO suitable for a wedding, races etc. If they're casual you would all look better together in the photos if you dress down a little as well.

No, you're not going to look stupid at all. It's a nice dress, so enjoy it, enjoy the occasion and I agree with other posters who suggest you take a cardi to throw on if you feel chilly later. Stop worrying.

You could always take a change of clothes and change in the toilets? The dress is fine though, really don’t see an issue with it.

Gorgeous dress! Take some converse to dress it down and you're sorted.

I went to a library rhyme time dressed in a dress for a family photo shoot that we were heading to afterwards. I really didn't care. Now your husband's comments are making me wonder if I am weird 😂😂😂

Dress is gorgeous BTW

I do absolutely love the dress, I found it in the sales for £15. I just wish I was going to the grand national for ladies day

Beautiful dress. And as long as the boys shirts are neat and smart it will look fine.

I often wear nice dresses when my dh is in jeans and shirt. Never looked odd to me.

I would put some spare clothes in the car then when you get to your friends if it's cold or you are uncomfortable for any reason just excise yourself to get changed. If they are good friends they will understand.

People should dress up more. Bugs me how people wear scruffy clothes to the theatre (but then I like to be traditional)

I'm always overdressed. Don't give a shit if everyone is in jeans, but if you will feel uncomfortable take a change of clothes

Lovely dress. Wear what you want, so long as you feel good it will work! BUT I love the luxe skirt/ oversized jumper/spiked heels look. Effortlessly cool: bring a jumper!

Your dress is fine.Not sure what people are on about. It's not a ball gown with a tiara.

I'm a bit more concerned about the lack of support and appreciation and validation your DH is giving you over something that clearly matters to you.

Sorry but that looks like a dress you'd wear to a wedding. I really think you'd feel a dick wearing that out in the evening with everyone else in casual clothes. But then I'd always favour being underdressed to overdressed.

I'd def take a change of clothes or rethink the whole thing. Sorry!!

I'm sorry also but that's a very dressy dress. I'm surprised people don't think it is. I do think it will look a bit mismatched with the guys in jeans and shirts, but I'm not sure why you wish to wear it to your friends. Is it because you like it so much?

Personally I'd shove a pair of jeans and a t shirt in a bag and change. If you want your friends to see it, why don't you go in it then get changed in their loo if you start to feel uncomfortabke as the evening goes on? At least you've then got options.

Given the choice of ways to get it 'wrong', I'm out of step with most of thread in that I'd always prefer to be underdressed than overdressed!

Nice dress OP. Wear it if it makes you feel good. Get changed for the thing afterwards. It only takes seconds!

SurferRona anyone over 45 with tits is going to look like a right sack of spuds in that get up.

Surfer, that wouldn't work, that models dress hangs very different, the ops is more 50s prom like and sticks out. With a baggy jumper over the top, irrelevant of her age, I don't think it's going to look good. She'd be better just changing.

Your DH sounds embarrassed either of your dress or in front of his friends. Surely he and the friends are all grown adults who can see it's just a dressy dress for a photoshoot you've just come from. YANBU, there are far more embarrassing/"ridiculous" things in life to bother over. I would add a fascinator, pearls and white gloves on the way to the friends, just to rub it in all the more

I think I would take a change of clothes for after the photos.