To wonder wtf people do without childcare??!

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How the hell do people with 0 childcare options cope in life??

Obviously you can get around some things but there are others that taking your kids along just isn't an option!

What the hell do you do??!

Basically for background, I've found out today that family have an issue with having my dd, apparently it's a problem for them!

So I've decided to stop using them as an option in future.

Sat here wondering wtf my options are??

Child's father isn't on the scene at all, neither is his family. I don't talk to many family members of mine.

I've 0 options.

Yes pay for professional or pay local teenager or student. Any friends at all? Can you trade childcare for other childcare or ironing or anything someone would be motivated into swapping?

get to know friends of child. Start slow, play dates? see if parents keen on odd babysitting exchange?

But I mean, if I have to go somewhere like an app for my mental health. Can I not just explain I've no childcare and take my child with me??

You need to find a babysitter you trust and plan your appointments around times that suit them

I’m constantly flabbergasted on here that people rely entirely on family for childcare.

Why if family are willing to help? I know my family are happy to help as they regularly offer. I also know that I will be happy to help DCs with childcare when/if they need it in the future. There is nothing wrong or immoral with having grandparents help with childcare although it doesn't work for everyone of course.

What age is LO? Pre school is a good option and if you’re on certain benefits you get 15 hours free from 2 years old.

I don't go to things where I can't take my children. Simple. And luckily for me I work 7-2 and then dh works 3 til midnight.

Babysitter or take kids.

Leisure centres often have creches.
Some childminders can offer ad hoc.
Sitters is a babysitter agency.
Can you find another single parent for childcare swaps?

My child is 1 years old.

I've always used paid childcare. I'd just take children along to most healthcare appointments, haircuts, etc though, so maybe you're assuming that you can't take children when in fact most people do?

My family (and dhs) are in a different country. I use school wrap around care, I have asked friends on occasion but mostly they come with me.

They have been to bank appointments, solicitor appointments, even my smear appointment. It's far from ideal but it is what it is. I am not proud i bribe with sweets and screen time for good behaviour .

If they are one tbh most things in a healthcare appointment will go over their head???

If it's a doctor's appointment I always take my DC. If its actually therapy and you will be talking about your mental health problems I doubt it's appropriate to take DC.

But I mean, if I have to go somewhere like an app for my mental health. Can I not just explain I've no childcare and take my child with me??

Probably not if you need treatment. Who would look after your child while you're having treatment?

Option a) Fuck all - no nights out, peaceful shopping trips, whatever
Option b) Pay for it

But I mean, if I have to go somewhere like an app for my mental health. Can I not just explain I've no childcare and take my child with me??

Yes, you take the child with you.

Everyone seems to be over posting your updates but if you put a clear set of financial circumstances in your OP then they'd have a full picture to start with

I always take my baby to every appointment. Didn't realise they were so young. Just take them.

How many MH appointments? If they are essential for your health can Social services not offer help with a childminder so you can attend? I know they can find care if parents are struggling and need support. But would need assessments and the like and work on your behalf. Which is probable not what you feel up to if you are not well. Have you asked MH team what they can do to help?

Some babysitter agencies such as sitters offer one offs

I have no family who provide childcare, I've always paid for either a nanny, Childminder or nursery.

Take them or don’t do stuff. Hospital things are tricky but iPads are great! It’s crap but you just get used to it. On the plus your never let down as you’ve only yourself to rely on

Sorry! Forgot to put in op.

Filing for bankruptcy.
Child is 1

I attend a weekly group session on an evening

Pay for it.

We have 0 people to help out so we pay for it if we need it.

Probably not if you need treatment. Who would look after your child while you're having treatment?

Same as anyone else who gets admitted to hospital with no support - temporary foster care

At 1, take your dc everywhere possible e.g. medical appointments.

Same as anyone else who gets admitted to hospital with no support - temporary foster care

I've not thought about that before!

Do they ship you to hospital whilst calling police/SS??!