8 day old baby...

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i've seen that a woman i know has gone off for a night down town 8 days after giving birth!! aibu to think that this is crazy?!?!

I mean there’s a ready supply of nappies and sudocreme from the garage

I went to a concert two weeks after DD was born. I'd bought the tickets the previous year, before I was even pregnant, they cost a lot of money and I really wanted to go. I felt fine, I had a section and my recovery was very straightforward. By that point I was feeling pretty much back to normal. DH was and is perfectly capable of doing feeds and changes for a few hours plus he had my mum on hand, so I went. And had a great time.

If she felt up to it and the baby is being well cared for by someone else then good for her. I hope she had a good time.

You said this....

Biology doesn’t predetermine that only a mother can look after a baby

I'm making the point that biology absolutely says that only a mother can look after a baby. Modern life and society stepping in to help are the things which actually mean other people can take care of a baby.

Very suprising but prob could have with ds2. Easy delivery as these things can be, virtually no pain - I was out doing shopping the day after.

I have 250 euro tickets to Ed Sheeran concert (runs and hides) for 2 weeks after baby is due. Yes I am going. Very capable loving nana is babysitting.

4 pages in.. no update from OP. Yawn...

I think it’s irrefutable that op was on the wind up

Probably a troll or a PBP being a goady twat.

Thankfully most of the posters on the thread were sensible, understanding and intelligent enough to not be judgy arses.

Is the OP coming back?

going to the supermarket, being in hospital, popping out for a coffee is not the same as a “night out”....also anyone justifying it by saying the woman could have PND, I doubt a night on the lash is a form of prescribed therapy. Also if there is no problem with going out in OPs scenario, just say that- having to justify with a medical reason says it all.

Coming back?nah.
I imagine she expected a v difference response as in,that’s outrageous, why have a baby and leave it Ya-Ya

You invented the on the lash bit there OnlyFoolsnMothers. It wasn't in the OP.

Actually, I don’t think it matters whether the OP is a troll or not. I think this is an important discussion.

going to the supermarket, being in hospital, popping out for a coffee is not the same as a “night out”

Quite. No one is saying a new mum should be confined to her house but it's truly sad that someone at would choose a night out over being with their baby when it's so young.

Yes it is BR but I doubt that's why the OP started this thread. Pretty much backfired.

hello wasn't expecting so many responses just read through them all, i appreciate that a lot of people disagree with my being shocked, but that's my opinion and i'm not arguing with anybody about it, would just like to say that, yes she was out in a club, and yes i would be just as shocked if it was the man.. i don't think 8 days is really enough to warrant needing a night out and if that's how soon it takes to need that what does that say for the future? i understand that a majority of you don't think there's an issue and that's fine yet a lot of the comments are followed by 'i wouldn't do it myself though'. Which says a lot, anywho thanks for the replies.

How does the baby know whether its mother is out for a virtuous lunch or a night out?

I must be the worst mother in the world then former because I went to Ibiza for 4 days when my baby was a week old and went back to work when he was 4 weeks old.

i don't know how anyone could willingly take themselves away from their newborn for four days

Well I did. As I said, he’s still alive.

I must be the worst mother in the world then former because I went to Ibiza for 4 days when my baby was a week old and went back to work when he was 4 weeks old

I'm not going to call you the worst mother in the world...but, I am wondering how any mother could bear to be apart from her week old baby for four days...it would have torn me apart.

Because he was with his equally capable parent, who also stayed home with him for a year while I worked. I went on a trip that had been booked since before I found out I was pregnant and had a fucking great time!

Because he was with his equally capable parent, who also stayed home with him for a year while I worked. I went on a trip that had been booked since before I found out I was pregnant and had a fucking great time!

Not being goady...it's a genuine question..but did you not miss him? It would have caused me actual physical pain to be separated from my newborn. It seems highly unnatural for a newborn and its mother to be separated. Of course it wouldn't have harmed your baby but I think you'd have to agree it's an unusual thing to do?

Yeah I missed all of my family, but it didn’t “tear me apart”. Some people’s kids are the be all and end all of their lives. Mine aren’t, and both are fine.