8 day old baby...

[guierrla]

i've seen that a woman i know has gone off for a night down town 8 days after giving birth!! aibu to think that this is crazy?!?!

The women being judged on this thread are the ones who aren’t meeting the required Madonna standard.

Bingo! Next we need why have children if you don’t look after them yourself
For the record Shitty is neglect,no clean clothes,no nappies,unsafe environment
Shitty is not making social arrangements to go out

Nothing against people having a night out when they have DC but a week old baby?! Seriously?! Its selfish behaviour.

No it’s not selfish in The least
You seem to have an internal guide as to when mothers can go out socially
Why don’t you abide by your own beliefs about what constitutes selfish behaviour
And leave the other mum to it

Irl, I honestly don't know any mums who'd have a night out a week after giving birth.

Seriously?! Its selfish behaviour

So what if it is? Woman puts herself first shocker! And it isn't anyway. 8 day old baby doesn't give a fuck who is feeding it and changing its arse for a few hours as long as someone is. What does it matter?

And that proves nothing
I don’t know any astronauts in real life but I know it’s a fact

Why former? My kids were FF so they didn’t need me to be there. At a week old all they do is sleep and eat. I’m not the type to sit and stare at them.

No it’s not selfish in The least
You seem to have an internal guide as to when mothers can go out socially
Why don’t you abide by your own beliefs about what constitutes selfish behaviour
And leave the other mum to it

What do you mean 'leave the other mum to it'? Well, obviously...it's not my business but this thread was asking for opinions so I'm giving my opinion.

Ahh yes the mn I don’t know anyone who does x,y,z therefore can’t be true

So what if it is? Woman puts herself first shocker

If you can't stop putting yourself first when you have a newborn, that really is shocking. I'm not saying never go out again but fgs, 8 days old!

from the normal function of our uterus after birth, just like a period. I don't think it's worth all the melodrama.
That's was your experience Sleeplikeasloth, others have had different experiences (check out the post partum injury thread). They are talking about their own body following significant trauma, not indulging in melodrama.

Men do it all the time, what's the difference? I wouldn't want to but there's nothing wrong with it imo

Oh ffs not another one

If you can't stop putting yourself first when you have a newborn, that really is shocking

If you find that shocking you must be very sheltered. Everyone should occasionally put themselves first.

I don’t know anyone in real life who has rabbits.genuinely I don’t
Does this mean no one has rabbits because I’ve never observed or experienced it
That’s the flaw in such simplistic propositions,they only draw from a limited unidimensional sample and don’t reflect what others actually do

So you not knowing a mum in rl who’d go out, it’s a nonsense to apply it as a norm or a rule

Women’s post partum experience, both physical and mental, varies hugely. However, we very rarely read on Mumsnet about those women who recover quickly and easily, and there are plenty of them. For the sake of pregnant women reading the site we should hear from more of them.

You’re not allowed to find things easy on mumsnet bertrand

You’ll just get called a twat.

You’re not allowed to find things easy on mumsnet bertrandYou’ll just get called a twat

Oh really? So why is almost all this thread telling OP to mind her own business and women can do what they want?.

Women’s post partum experience, both physical and mental, varies hugely. However, we very rarely read on Mumsnet about those women who recover quickly and easily, and there are plenty of them. For the sake of pregnant women reading the site we should hear from more of them

I recovered quickly...home two hours after giving birth. Felt fine. I could have physically managed a night out but I found myself able to forgo it and stay at home with my baby.

Mumsnet the place where every mother who shouts at her child should be reported and every mother who leaves her chile should be applauded. Of course it’s selfish, if a man with a newborn went out everyone on here would call him a CF and say his wife should leave him.
Still she could have a hidden disability that requires her to leave her kids for nights out...Danielle Lloyd suffers from that I think

repeal I was referring to Bertrand’s previous comments about mumsnet in general, not this particular thread.

However, we very rarely read on Mumsnet about those women who recover quickly and easily, and there are plenty of them.
Just as threads about great relationships are few and far between. People tend to post more if they are frightened, in pain and at home and need advice, knowledge and reassurance.

I think it depends if it's the first baby, how well the dad or whoever at home is coping... I mean, i would've been pissed off if my husband did this. It's not the baby that needs her home, unless bf or whatever, it's the partner.. Unless they don't. I think with most new parents, the couples in it together and even though you might give the other one a break to sleep etc you dont want them out of reach because everything's so new and you panic over everything and might need them. But maybe its a second, third of fourth baby, and her partners got it nailed, or she's going out with partner and grannys looking after baby and knows exactly what she's doing... As long as she's not leaving anyone in the lurch, it's fine.

I was referring to Bertrand’s previous comments about mumsnet in general, not this particular thread

This thread is mn in general, in that all of them are. And there are different people answering all the time. Its nonsense to suggest there is any one opinion on anything