To expect a seat whilst waiting to see midwife

[Littlewreck]

I’ve come to see my midwife for my 41 week appointment. I’ve been told there’s an hour wait at least. There’s no seats left in the waiting area. Am I been unreasonable to expect some of the non pregnant accompanying adults to give up there seats for pregnant woman?

FrancisCrawford

Yes, I saw yesterday but couldn't bite my tongue when the issue reemerged today because some of the stuff she is coming out with is absurd e.g "Do you deliberately seek to exclude the disabled?" - wtf. Some people just like to be offended.

If I needed a seat and none was available, I’d sit on the floor.

At 41 weeks pregnant I doubt I’d have got back up!

Re the OP YANBU I can’t believe there were people, who lets face it, despite all the “hidden disabilities” comments were probably largely younger able bodied men, sitting while heavily pregnant women stood. Such bad manners. My husband would have stood without having to be asked or prompted.

peacheachpearplum

The level of your pedantry/virtue signalling leads me to believe that you are a wind-up merchant.

Littlewreck Absolutely YANBU!! I can't believe they expect you to stand for over an hour. Did they run out of chairs and why are the appointments running so late?

captainbrickbeard great post. You said what I think loads of us want to but can’t articulate.

Of course pregnant women in an antenatal clinic should get the 1st priority over the seats. I think there’s only a few people who don’t think like this.

sockunicorn you’re odd and sound like a bit of a martyr.

Well you show very little understanding FrancisCrawford but some people only consider themselves.

Own goal? Because I have explained why men who don't jump up might have more need of the seat than some of the women sitting down? Right.

Yes there is room for spare chairs, hospital waiting rooms have space for wheelchairs and buggies and all sorts.

I will leave you to your horror about men and I will back any woman who copes with pregnancy and caring for a disabled partner and wants their partner to be with them.

willynillypie I have been my husband's carer for 30 years, I was pregnant when an accident that worsened a congenital condition and I couldn't care less what you think.

The casual prejudice against men and the disabled is staggering but I will leave you to your righteous little party.

It’s rude and those who aren’t pregnant should vacate the seats. My clinic had a sign up which states this

Well, this thread went in a weird direction.

Crikey! I didn't realise there was a debate about who got the chair, the disabled person, the pregnant lady or whatever... I'm disabled but if I were at the ante natal clinic I would assume the waiting room chairs were first and foremost for the expectant mums. If, for some reason I did go there and couldn't sit down I'd just have to go elsewhere. The clinic is for the pregnant people and you need to sit down when you are pregnant. Especially if you have to wait an hour! It's simple.

willynillypie You said:

"HOWEVER, in an ANTENATAL clinic, everything SHOULD revolve around a pregnant woman and her future offspring!"

That is:
Absolutely right!

(I'm disabled by the way)

At the hospital a couple of weeks ago for a consultant appointment there were a few seats left when I sat down but they were quickly taken as the clinic was running late and some ladies that were clearly further along than I was were stood up looking uncomfortable. I happily stood straight away to give my seat to one of them only for the partner of someone else to sit down in it. I felt no guilt in saying quite loudly that I am pregnant and I gave up that seat for one of the ladies that were clearly further along than myself. He ignored me until someone else made a comment then reluctantly moved. I could not get my head around his behaviour at all!

Generally the nurses at our hospital used to come out and shout out for people to give up their seat if they could, that would have men/ accompanying adults scuttling out of there!!yanbu!!!

FrancisCrawford

We must not discriminate against pregnant worms either!

I have a hidden disability (spinal stenosis) that means I can stand for about 2-3 minutes before I'm in pain, which gets steadily worse until I sit down.

I would still give pregnant women at an antenatal clinic priority over me, as a non-pregnant disabled person. She needs to be there, and I don't.

Shame on the non-patients who let a 41-week pregnant woman stand - even the ones with hidden disabilities.

Totally and absolutely typical of our rotten NHS. You wouldn’t get this treatment in almost any other civilised country. Why oh why can’t people see our system is an expensive dinosaur that needs to be put out of its misery (and ours!)

CaptainBrickbeard YESSSSS!

I'm a bit late at this party but you are quite right, imho, to say that being pregnant is a necessity to the continuation of the world. There is a mood about that likes to say that people choose to become pregnant as if it's planning a luxury holiday. It's actually more like performing a difficult duty to humankind in my book. OK, I sincerely hope all the joy does abound for everyone. Let's not forget the responsibility, monetary commitment, pain in childbirth, worry when children are ill, the loss of freedom etc. It is something that I loved and am so glad I did - being a mum I mean, but people sometimes treat mums as if they are just having an easy ride. It's the opposite! It's actually the most important "job" in the world. We should be proud of and look after mums and mums-to-be!

Actually worms are haemaphrodite so both male and female I would give my seat up for one though

Can somebody please provide some brain bleach to stop me giggling about the pregnant worms and wondering how they got that way?