Do you think it’s a bit odd when some people completely engross themselves with their child school, to the extent that

[LardLizard]

They even get jobs there, and all there social interactions and friends become people they know through the school other parent friends

And all they post or say they’ve been upto
Is doing things with school friends

I tend to think surely you’ve hit some other friends and also think I wouldn’t have liked that as child, there just no breathing space

Hen plus if there’s every any problems or fallouts it’s like it the end of the world to them

Oh yes! I think class WhatsApp/Facebook groups etc are fucking weird too, managed 7 years if primary school without one funnily enough 😂😂

You sound a bit nuts. And way too invested in what other people are up too. And a bit bitter. Are you one those people who thinks there is a school gate clique that you're not in?

Well tbh people can become friends with whoever they want I have never got that involved with either child's school 8n a social sender but people do make friends with people they have something in common with .

And you care why?

Not really, you become freinds with who you socialise.

What? So is being so invested in people too invested with their child.really much different?

If you weren't on face book as you were bored you'd have no idea what they are doing anyway

You make friends with the people you are around a lot. So at work, at activities, with other school parents. Seems perfectly reasonable to me.

You might well think I was one of them. I volunteered then worked and am now part of the furniture I've been there that long although my children have moved on. I've also made wonderful friends with some of the staff. The thing is though I only volunteered as my dc have autism and I wanted to see how they were coping. It was incidental that I had a flair for working with children so sort of fell into that line of work and no one's more surprised than me how it's panned out.

It was never about the social side for me.

@BertrandRussell

That's what I said.

I think it's weirder to worry about what complete strangers are doing and start a thread about it on mumsnet.
When people are feeling lonely the advice is often to join in an activity related to their child's school - when people struggle to get childcare they are advised to see if there is work going at their child's school........... and yet.................

It's not so unusual to become very involved with an organisation and do your socialising through it. For some people it's church, some people it's a sport, for some it's their workplace, and looks like for some it's a school.

Great minds!

It’s only in Mumsnet where people take pride in never having exchanged a word with other parents at school.

Of course you soclise with the people you see, it’s just when thats their whole world I find it rather odd
I suppose I think for the kids it’s orobaky not great, constantly having mum around if she say works at the school
As yes let’s face it is usually the women going for jobs as ta’s etc
I think as a child that would have been suffocating, then they get extremely upset about any fall outs

I think it’s too many eggs in one basket
Really

lardlizard I know exactly where you're coming from.

There are loads of these mums at my DC Primary School.

None of them seem to have a proper circle of friends outside of the new ones they make at the School gates.

Once you realise why they are so heavily invested and really quite unpleasant it's quite comical really esp when played out on FB for all to see as well as irl.

For anyone making bitchy comments (I'm guessing you are one of these mums) it's just an observation OP is making that's all.

You sound a bit nuts.
No she doesn't.
Overinvested cliquey people exist (and they are often the drama llama types who turn any disagreement into some sort of big deal)

I have suspected ASD. I struggle to make friends and don’t really have any. However, when dd1 started at school it became so much easier for me and I now have....well, not bosom buddies but people I can have a coffee and a laugh with. And I now work there too. Sorry if it doesn’t suit you. It suits me very well.

Yes a term time job where they don't have to worry about childcare as they are there anyway ...stupid idea isn't it...

@Lardlizard

How do you know that they engross them in the school so much?

I know someone like that. She got a part-time job at her dd's infants school. When dd moved to juniors, she switched and got a job there. Now her dd is at senior's, guess what?

It isn't for transport/logistics, all the schools are within walking distance from one another, and their house.

@Tantpoke

As a teacher you see all different types of parents,staff and children. That is the way of the world.
How do you know the parents don't have other freinds outside that circle?

The school is their child’s educators, their Work place, their entire social life

It’s just a lot of things in one basket
Plus the fact if the children missing out on that sense of independence

I do think some people at First School did volunteer to help at the school just to keep an eye on their child and have a nose at everybody else's progress. And hope they would get a TA job from it.

Yep then some of them gossip about what’s going on at the school and even gossip about things about the children
Even though they shouldn’t, they don

But they aren't usually placed on the same class as your kid

And kids of staff is on many an admissions policy so it isn't that unusual.

In fact many people take use of staff reductions on school fees etc

What's the problem

They do