Do you think it’s a bit odd when some people completely engross themselves with their child school, to the extent that

[LardLizard]

They even get jobs there, and all there social interactions and friends become people they know through the school other parent friends

And all they post or say they’ve been upto
Is doing things with school friends

I tend to think surely you’ve hit some other friends and also think I wouldn’t have liked that as child, there just no breathing space

Hen plus if there’s every any problems or fallouts it’s like it the end of the world to them

Are they not inviting you, OP? That's unkind

You're obviously referring to some specific. What's your beef with her?

To be fair as long as they are not interfering with how I run my class and in every day complaining, I couldn't care less.

My mother was a teacher at my elementary school. My brother even had her as his 3rd grade teacher. Somehow we survived perfectly well.

Yep, we had the gossips too that were doing the volunteering. All about what was being said in the staff room and what happened on the school trips.

Parent helpers are really important to. They listen to kids read assist on trips, pull together for maintenance etc

Run the stalls at the fates

These parents you despise so much, They are vital to the school

Probably people would think this about me I’m in the class WhatsApp and socialise with the mums, also on pta, I know a lot of the Mum of older kids st the school because I help out at rainbows so to some it would seem like my whole life revolves around the school and in some ways as a sahm it is a huge part of my world- it’s almost a workplace in that sense and the school mums are my colleagues BUT I also have many interests and causes that I’m passionate about and friendships that have lasted from when I was at school so if people did make this assumption they’d be wrong

For anyone making bitchy comments (I'm guessing you are one of these mums)

I don't see any bitchy comments, just people with slightly different perspectives.

What the hell ? I never said I despise them !!! Don’t make things up

I simply said it’s odd

@Gileswithachainsaw

I have a parent helper in every Tuesday. I don't have a T.A, I love it when she is in tbh.

I know lots of people who do this. Sounds fine to me, no childcare problems too.

Do teachers not worry where the Parent helper's loyalties lie and them blabbing all the school gossip about?

Actually I think despising is no where near as bad as thinking you are superior and starting this kinda thread.

If you despised me you'd probably take no notice of who I was and what I'm doing anyway.

But this whole superiority thing and keeping tabs just so you can feed your ego..its worse so don't play the offended "never said that" card

“If you despised me you'd probably take no notice of who I was and what I'm doing anyway.”

What the hell ?

@Sparklingbrook

I made it clear what I say goes in my class and stays in the class. I also make it clear she will not influence how I deal with their child.

Wildlady, but there's nothing to stop them telling anyone about anything and you wouldn't find out.

@Sparkingbrook

Can you give me an exaample of something they could inform someone else about that would bother me?

Something personal about your health?

@Sparklingbrook

Mine or the children's? Couldn't staff members do that too without you knowing?

You're obviously referring to some specific.

That's the impression I get too. Your picture is not one I recognise from my DC's school, but I suppose I can see how a person as you describe could be irritating if they are also gossiping and getting involved in children's squabbles and posting about it on Facebook.

Not really. Maybe they didn't have any other friends before their child started school and are happy to have a purpose in life.

Parent helpers are really important to. They listen to kids read assist on trips, pull together for maintenance etc
Run the stalls at the fates
These parents you despise so much, They are vital to the school
No no no... parents who help out and don't go around gossiping are awesome.

Parents who get too involved in school, gossip about the children and get into cliques are bitchy and a massive PITA.

Staff should never discuss anything sensitive in front of volunteers.
Any parent who is also a member of staff is bloody unprofessional if they are sharing that information beyond staff who need to know.

OP it sounds like an environment with no boundaries.

You can be very involved with the school but have other things in your life. I'm chair of the PTA at the school but I don't really socialise with any of the parents outside of school because I'm too busy with work, family and friends outside school. I don't think I've ever mentioned the stuff I do with the PTA on FB or to my friends and family because who would be interested?
Yanbu it does seem strange to invest everything in just one area of your life.

Well obviously no one should be gossiping but that's down the the person. They'd gossip wherever they were.

Plenty of people can work in a school and not gossip. In fact there are many many jobs that included which gossiping woykd get you fired

Yes, it's a valid observation OP. Can understand it suits some parents for childcare and so on, but balance always helps as you get other perspectives.

The primary school I used had a very real 'local community' v 'teachers' staff thing going on and I think it drove some of the better teachers away. It was like 'this is our patch'.

By P4 my DD wanted distance from me hovering over the school, so I gladly backed off but kept a hand in here and there. Didn't miss it when she left.