To tell MIL to speak ennglish

[Pokemonlovepower]

So I have a Europe MIL who would always talk to me in English (husband's first language is English ) but since my baby has been born she's speaks only in her own language. My husband doesn't around the baby and we've mentioned that the bi lingual route isn't a big must as we speak English at home. She accepted this but more and more when I visit she speaks in her own language around me (even if the baby isn't present) to my husband, so I can't understand a thing. I offered to try and learn but my husband didn't see the point as he only speaks it too his mum!

AIBU to find it a bit rude ?? X

i thi8nk it rude to do it when just you and dh are in the room-its like they can say whatever they want and youve just got to stand there looking like a dick

I didn't get what language MIL is speaking but it's not widespread language and OP and her DH decided that English will be their family language. It's their decision and GPs should respect this.
Yes, it's good to learn different languages from the early age but you need to use it and to have language environment, otherwise it will be waste of time. Occasional exposure to a foreign language for a small child will get nothing.
I'm talking from experience , I'm non-British, English is not our home language and my child is bilingual. But OP'a family has very different set up.
Also I can see her point of view about feeling excluded -- it's not right.
A few words to defend MIL . It's VERY tricky to talk with a baby not in your mother tongue. It's just impossible!

I think you are being very ignorant. You should be greatful that your child might get the chance to understand another language - even if it's just few words. Also your MIL is the child's grandmother and she has the right to speak in whatever language she wants to. YABVU to want someone to speak English just because you do not understand whatever language she is speaking.

@Leggylavender did you mean to be so rude?!

My MIL speaks to us all in the language of Passive Agressive Martyr. However I refuse to answer to it and don't let DH speak it in our home

leggy
Why post when you havent bothered to read what op has said properly?

Suddenly talking in a language the hostess doesn't understand in her own house, excluding her from all conversations when previously english was spoken is not nice, deliberately excluding someone is rude and petty.

Op has no problem with mil talking to child in her language but she has the right to be spoken to in a language she understands in her own home when the other person is fluent in it.

Tbh, if you bothered about your MIL not speaking English with you. Maybe you should talk to her or your husband about it. I think your MIL might have felt left out since your hubby only interested in speaking english and now her grandkids might be ended up the same. So its understandable. So maybe speak to her suggesting you would like your baby to learn her language i think she will be happy.