To not want a stranger asking my daughter if she thinks she's a boy

[moonmaker]

Really cross about this
My daughter is at an all girls secondary
She said they had an lgbt workshop at school yesterday but it was predominantly about gender identity .
Some of the things said were :
Are you sure you're a girl ?and why do you think you're a girl ?
You have a choice , you can choose to be male
Don't worry about your religion getting in the way , you can b x religion and trans
A good percentage of you , statistically speaking , are going to be trans
Being a boy / girl is a 'feeling ' so you can change

Am very unhappy about this. Why should 12 year old girls be forced to speak with a stranger about their sexual identity and orientation ? In dds words 'it was like he was forcing us to admit we are trans' 'I had to go along with it or get a detention'
Would it be acceptable for adults to be made to speak with someone they don't know or trust about something like this ?
I believe it's dangerous telling girls they can be men if they want to . And irresponsible .
We're supposed to be telling our young women that they can do anything as women, pursue whatever interests, hobbies or career and that makes them no less a woman . Wtf is going on ?
I want to call school today and discuss this . What should I say ?

Looking forward to hearing their reply OP.
Good luck.

Let us know how it goes, OP.

Hope you get some answers Moonraker.

moonmaker - apols!

DH suggested the whole thing was an elaborate psychological test - like the stamford prison experiment - trying to prove kids will believe any old shit if they are told it is bigoted not to.

This is what I think is going on with some of the "philanthropist" funders, but not just with kids, all of us.

Was your daughter confused or upset by the lesson? Was there any harmful impact on her? If the answer is no, then why make a big issue out of it?

any update?

Absolutely ridiculous that this sort of thing takes place

What the actual fuck? Agree with DamnDe.

Speak to some other parents of children who were there before you go in and see if they want to as well/get some more information.

I'm basically supportive of trans people living the life they want, but I do think the whole thing's got overblown. It is a very small proportion of people. We have the internet and live in a country where people are open about it, so I think it's a bit OTT for there to be specific workshops about being trans going into schools.

By all means mention it in the context of sexual identity and LGBT discussion, but I fear there is a bit of 'trend' being created whereby it's 'cooler' to come out as trans than gay, especially as it's much more marked in girls than boys, if the anecdotal evidence I've heard is true.

I also think it will blow over in time and I don't think anyone is herding masses of kids towards hormone treatment as some say. But honestly, it's not like kids will never find out about trans unless there's a workshop on it.

I'm a bit conscious of this as DD (9), who like me at her age has short cropped hair, has asked to have 'more boy style smart clothes' rather than dresses (eg a suit). Happy to do that, and she'll look very cool... but I'm aware that in the current climate it'll give some people an idea that I am either a wonderful or else terrible parent supporting my child to be trans, rather than the mother of a girl who happens to like short hair and suits. We seems have lost that non-judgemental space of kids to be kids regarding gender expression.

Did you ever get a response OP?

I may be unpopular for this but this is everything that's wrong with society right now! I'm very open minded and I'd encourage my children to be so too but this is just going way too far. I'd be furious. I feel like 12 years old is too young for that kind of discussion. At 12 you don't even really know who you are never mind wholly knowing your sexual identification.