Or is she going ott?

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I'm a member of a class group on Facebook for parents to share information, school trips, clubs etc. Last week there was a class trip to a local castle and the weather was really terrible. One of the mums posted on the morning of the trip saying 'Welly weather then' and I commented below saying 'looks like it, as long as they are well fitting as there are lots of twisty narrow stairs in the tower which are slippy when wet'. I wrote this knowing a notification would go out to other parents, most of whom won't have been to the castle and might not know about the twisting stone stairs.
I received a message from the mum who had made the original post and it said 'I've brought up an 18 year old on my own successfully so don't need your input. I was embarrassed and patronised by your comment and no longer feel able to post on the page'
I replied saying it wasn't directed at her but to warn parents who hadn't been there before, and that I didn't mean to be patronising at all. She then replied saying 'don't like being told what to do? No you wouldn't like that. I put up with this the first time round but not any more. My daughter has an unconditional offer to uni and I'm a great single mum so I don't need your advice'.
I should add that I've never had direct contact with this woman before. I can't help but feel tense that she thinks I was deliberately trying to patronise her... AIBU or is she reading too much into it??

Ugh, she's a twat with baggage, so her ramblings mean nothing.

Give her a wide berth from now on.

To be honest I'd probably be a bit about your comment too, as it does come across a bit patronising. But she is massively overreacting. I would've just rolled my eyes and then moved on! I certainly wouldn't have contacted you about it. It sounds like she is a bit sensitive about her parenting for whatever reason and is taking that out on you.

Massive chip on both shoulders and her head firmly up her bum from the sounds of it. Could perhaps understand her thinking you'd been a bit condescending if your reply had been directed at her but to carry on after your explanation? She's not interacting, she's looking for things to be offended by.

She's being very touchy and defensive and reading way too much into IMO. I would (like to think I would) have replied along the lines of "Oh good point - thanks for that." I'm not sure you'll get anywhere by continuing the conversation tbh....

Well she has a massive chip on her shoulder.

I think your comment was a bit patronising, but she went well over the top in her reaction. I wouldn't, personally, advise people like that if I didn't know them well.

I don't think OP was patronising. She's just warning parents (most of whom have never been to the castle) that it has 'twisty narrow stairs in the tower which are slippy when wet'.

And wearing wellies that are too big would hamper a child more on twisty steps than in a muddy field.

You were patronising. She overreacted. Just a case of who’s going to be the bigger person and apologise first.

She's making far too much of something extremely trivial.

Your comment was patronising and I can understand why she took offence. Her reaction was excessive.

Wellie up her arse would be grand......

I can see why she thought it was a dig tbf.

Your comment would have pissed me off but I would have put an equally annoying reply.

She's just warning parents (most of whom have never been to the castle) that it has 'twisty narrow stairs in the tower which are slippy when wet'.

Ah yes, I’m sure all the other parents needed to op to tell them that old exposed stones are slippy when wet. Or what type of shoes are appropriate, especially when the comment sounded more lighthearted that a serious question, I would guess most of the kids weren’t wearing wellies regardless,

She overreacted but I think your comment was completely unnecessary and rather strange.

I wcan you have found it a tad patronising.....it’s a castle. They are not known for their wide open staircases or being bungalows. I would assume most people think castle and think dank and windy with several levels. However the reaction was extreme. I’d be joining the eye rollers who move in in the corner personally at your comment, not call you out.

Really it's a lesson to mind your own business. People often don't want or like advice they didn't asked for been thrown at them. You should have left it to the organisers or messaged them to pass the info on.
She is over reacting though but no doubt it'll stand to her, people won't be as quick to give her advice in future.

Urgh is class parent Facebook groups a thing now? Great.

She's way ott. I know the type.

She's nuts. Ignore the batshittery.

She was OTT but your comment was massively patronising! I would have been a bit too.

She's a twat.

The OP wasn't patronising. She was chatty and helpful.

I wouldn't have taken your comment personally at all but I can see how it's possible some people might perceive it that way.

She massively over reacted though.

Your comment was a bit patronising mostly because of the way you phrased it. However her reaction is a bit OTT too. From what she says about “the first time” it sounds like you have inadvertantly done the same thing before and that’s why she’s got the huff.

Do any of you know just how stupid parents can be? If it is not spelled out clearly, in letters home and on the website several parents will send kids in shorts and ballet pumps!

It's all well and good saying "oh it's patronising" but some poor sod has to sort out little Jimmy when he arrives in sanders.

OP - you made it clear, well done. She is mad.

Never spoken to her before, in person or on Facebook