Or is she going ott?

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I'm a member of a class group on Facebook for parents to share information, school trips, clubs etc. Last week there was a class trip to a local castle and the weather was really terrible. One of the mums posted on the morning of the trip saying 'Welly weather then' and I commented below saying 'looks like it, as long as they are well fitting as there are lots of twisty narrow stairs in the tower which are slippy when wet'. I wrote this knowing a notification would go out to other parents, most of whom won't have been to the castle and might not know about the twisting stone stairs.
I received a message from the mum who had made the original post and it said 'I've brought up an 18 year old on my own successfully so don't need your input. I was embarrassed and patronised by your comment and no longer feel able to post on the page'
I replied saying it wasn't directed at her but to warn parents who hadn't been there before, and that I didn't mean to be patronising at all. She then replied saying 'don't like being told what to do? No you wouldn't like that. I put up with this the first time round but not any more. My daughter has an unconditional offer to uni and I'm a great single mum so I don't need your advice'.
I should add that I've never had direct contact with this woman before. I can't help but feel tense that she thinks I was deliberately trying to patronise her... AIBU or is she reading too much into it??

Hahahahaha who is this twisted bitch?

She is an arsehole

She sounds off her chump.

She's probably got form for this OP, let it go, steer clear !

Your comment did sound patronising to me. Her reaction was completely over the top.

Why couldn't she just have said, "Oh I hadn't thought of that. We've only been there a few dozen times"?

Sanders - what are they?

Sandals.

Sanders 😫

She is VERY touchy for someone who describes herself as a great mother, sounds like she is trying to convince herself but she is not fooling anyone.

I don't find your comment patronising, it reads just as a comment, she is ridiculous. You don't need to "warn" the other parents, but it was a reasonable thing to say. People are offended too easily these days, and take things way too personnally.

Facebook group for parents are great, much less intrusive than a whatsap group, I have one for each of my children. If the professionally offended mother decides to stay away from it, who cares? No one cares about her being a single mother or a daughter amazing Uni offer either!

Whenever I get shitty replies like this I just know this is about them, and their lives and nothing to do with me. Clearly it isn't going well or she would be more relaxed and chilled. Anyone that spiky has under the radar stress going on.

Be nice, be cheery know deep inside this is about her shit and not yours.

I assume your comment was a direct reply to hers? In that case it seems like you were telling her about proper fitting wellies and what castles are like.
Maybe next time post it as a separate post?
So I think it probably did come across as patronising and she was embarrassed but equally she shouldve accepted your apology so you could both move on
50/50

Your comment was patronising, I'd have rolled my eyes if I saw it and thought you were one of 'those' parents.

I certainly wouldn't have taken it personally like she did though, she seems a bit nuts. I'd have just laughed to myself and thought nothing more of it.

You made a dick comment, she over reacted. Two wrongs.

Your comment was a bit patronising mostly because of the way you phrased it. However her reaction is a bit OTT too. From what she says about “the first time” it sounds like you have inadvertantly done the same thing before and that’s why she’s got the huff.

I assumed first time round referred to her 18 year old, and that a younger child was going on the castle trip.

"Massive chip on both shoulders and her head firmly up her bum from the sounds of it." Exactly what I think - ignore her she's the one with the problem.

I wouldn't have reacted the way she did at all. Definitely OTT.

I wouldn't have been particularly impressed with your comment, but I wouldn't have felt the need to tell you or cause any ongoing bad feeling.

All very silly.

It's a facebook group, not her private page. If she reads the comment as a private dig, she should learn how to use FB. Attention seeking drama Queen, good luck OP, but you can always delete your comment and make that idiot feel better about herself, problem solved.

She’s being a silly cow. Just ignore.

dear god do things like this really happen

Your comment was patronising.
Telling parents to make sure their children's wellies are well-fitting is quite cheeky and also redundant since presumably no-one had time to nip out and buy new ones if they didn't meet your criteria. It made you sound like the wellie police

I didn't find anything patronising about your post at all op so I wouldn't worry.
I always give people the benefit of the doubt over text communication anyway because a lot of meaning gets lost or twisted/misunderstood without being face to face.
If they really do mean it in an offensive or patronising way it's their problem not mine because unless I ask for specific advice I get on with my own thing or use my own common sense and ignore the unsolicited self important ramblings of whatever nosey shit has found its way in front of me.

Your comment did not come across well, her response was over the top. You both sound as bad as each other.

She’s totally OTT but your comment was a bit

Big eye rolls for both of you.

reading the replies on here, over-reaction is spreading over the professionally offended. You can't say anything nowadays without someone being outraged by it. Who cares, they need to get a life.

I don't think you were patronising either, just helpful to the other group users who might not have thought about slippery steps or whatever. I would just let it go over your head. She was rude and confrontational unnecessarily !

I think you were a bit patronising, sorry .

BUT her reaction was way ott. I would probably have posted a smiley face or something in response to you and left it at that.

No need to get cross. I don't think youmeant to be patronising but sometimes a person just posts a throw away comment like she maybe did and when someone.appears to pick.it apart it's a bit annoying.