Or is she going ott?

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I'm a member of a class group on Facebook for parents to share information, school trips, clubs etc. Last week there was a class trip to a local castle and the weather was really terrible. One of the mums posted on the morning of the trip saying 'Welly weather then' and I commented below saying 'looks like it, as long as they are well fitting as there are lots of twisty narrow stairs in the tower which are slippy when wet'. I wrote this knowing a notification would go out to other parents, most of whom won't have been to the castle and might not know about the twisting stone stairs.
I received a message from the mum who had made the original post and it said 'I've brought up an 18 year old on my own successfully so don't need your input. I was embarrassed and patronised by your comment and no longer feel able to post on the page'
I replied saying it wasn't directed at her but to warn parents who hadn't been there before, and that I didn't mean to be patronising at all. She then replied saying 'don't like being told what to do? No you wouldn't like that. I put up with this the first time round but not any more. My daughter has an unconditional offer to uni and I'm a great single mum so I don't need your advice'.
I should add that I've never had direct contact with this woman before. I can't help but feel tense that she thinks I was deliberately trying to patronise her... AIBU or is she reading too much into it??

I would have found your comment patronising and twatty and might have had a gentle bitch about you to my pals.

seriously? Do people get really that worked up? You can't see the face of the person who wrote that, you can't hear their tone, and you are simply projecting massively some back stories.
At worst, maybe a comment is patronising, maybe it's badly worded and the author meant something completely different. People need to get a life honestly.

Her reaction was OTT, but maybe reflect before you post - other people aren't necessarily stupid and don't need your unsolicited 'advice', however well meant
talking about patronising and smug..

I didn't read it as patronising at all.

People need to get a life honestly.

I have a life, which is why I would't have bothered replied to the patronising twatty comment, but next time I saw a mate would maybe say something along the lines of 'did you see that patronising twatty comment' .

Thanks for calling me patronising and smug BTW - do you feel big and brave having a wee pop at a faceless poster? Go you

I don't see much, if anything wrong with your comment OP. Maybe a bit nana-ish but I'd have welcomed it if I hadn't been there before. She sounds scary.

I’d have been and labelled you as That Parent but I wouldn’t have reacted like that!

Your comment was a bit patronising but completely without malice and she’s hugely overreacting to respond like that on a group chat.

Have you made other similarly ‘helpful’ points in direct response to her posts before?
This could either be her final straw after a tough day or she’s generally a bit of a stroppy bugger. Hard to tell without more info.

Either way, the take home from this is to only offer advice if people directly ask for it.

If you haven’t been offering lots of well meaning advice before then she’ll have made herself look a bit of a loon flouncing about wellies though so I wouldn’t worry too much.

do you feel big and brave having a wee pop at a faceless poster? Go you grin

are you 12?
You are absolutely proving my point, you insult someone who asks a question, but you react like a sulky teen when it's pointing out to you that your post was smug and unpleasant.
I repeat, do get a life my dear.

I don’t think you were patronising OP. You weren’t telling other parents what their children should wear. You made a helpful observation. People are extremely touchy aren’t they ? I should think the other mum has made you feel you are no longer able to post on the page. Silly woman.

All the comments about being patronised - it's like to want to be offended. Someone reminding you of something is not patronising.
People are searching for offence.

That doesn't sound patronising at all to me. So glad I'm not on Facebook to deal with stupid shit like this. AIBU is enough for me to experience drama vicariously

I would have found it a bit patronising if I had written a light hearted weather post and been given parenting advice. But I wouldn't have made a big deal and just laughed with my friends about it. She massivly over reacted.

Plus if she goes that crazy on a (public) facebook page then god knows what she is saying to the other mums about you and this episode. sorry op, horrible situation.

I'm surprised more people aren't hypothesising she might simply have been having a bad day which made her grumpy.

She was OTT, but if it had been me, I would have rolled my eyes and thought, “oh, she’s one of THOSE parents”and done my best to avoid you.

Agree with TheNavigator - who made it your role to remind everyone to wear wellies that fit? Why would you assume otherwise? It’s pretty patronizing to imply that other parents can’t get the right size footwear for their children, OP!

She has a massive chip on her shoulder and she took it out on you.

The woman sounds like a complete psychopath. Her reaction to your comment is ridiculous. Life is too short to let it get to you.

'Massively patronising'? You are massively overstating the case. Get a grip.

I think you meant the comment to be helpful and I would have taken that from the tone of your post so I would not have found it patronising.

This woman sounds bonkers and any woman who brags about "successfully bringing up her 18 year old" and describes themselves as a "great single mum" is an idiot.

Some people can start an argument in an empty room. Move on and thank your lucky stars you will not have to deal with soap opera Wannabes in the future.

most parents buy things for their kids seasonally. You don't buy a winter coat in May, you buy it in September. Ditto, you get the a swimming cozzie in June ready for summer (swimming lessons aside).
This particularly applies to footwear which you grow out of.

Therefore, you buy wellies in Sept/Oct. There's been an analogy upthread of an arm in wizard sleeves. Forget that. More likely an elephant's foot in a zebra's slipper. Mincing along when your feet hurt.

How many children have been woefully under-dressed in the recent bad weather?

Your comment would have elicited the "yes dear, of course dear, thank you so much dear" response from me.

Honestly - you were well intended and she took offence - you apologised....please do not give this anymore of your time. You are a good person - if she can't see that then please do not waste your time on her. It sounds like she has a massive chip on her shoulder.
If it helps - I would not have thought of the windy steps so your comment would have been helpful to me!

I would have thanked you for your helpful advice. Patronising?? Lol