People who don't make an effort with their appearance.

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What do you think of people who don't do anything to look attractive?

I don't mean washing and basic hygiene. I mean those who don't dress well, wear make up or keep themselves healthy.

Why don't people want to be pleasant to look at?

OK, I will bite ;)

In my view, it is more important that you are good inside. My time and money are better spent on my family.

The ones who seemingly can't stop 'looking after their looks' are often to be pitied, though.Layers and layers of make-up, cracking or sliding south, scent so powerful to make hyacints wilt, hair extended to the next county and nails that could cut cheese. Scary and sad at the same time

Your lack of self awareness is staggering. The way you judge someone so harshly and negatively in your statement here. That's what's scary and sad.

As many people said on this thread, it's not ok to judge on appearance, it's what's inside that counts. I agree most people do judge on appearance but not as harshly and horribly as you just did. So yes, I am judging you. And harshly. For what you just wrote. I'm judging you to be a bitter envious person.

I honestly don’t think about them. Unless it’s to vaguely consider what I’d spend the money on that they use maintaining their exterior. I have friends for whom it is important and others that are more like me; clean and reasonably fit. I like them despite their choices.

That confused me the first time I heard it, Frequency I thought the whole point of a Brazilian was that there was nothing left to blow dry. You can see how barmy I think many beauty procedures are in that I truly thought there were women paying to have their vajazzled, brazilianed nethers blowdrued by a professional.

Because I couldn't care less what people think of me. I get lots of exercise and get my hair cut and coloured every six months. That's it. The less attention I get the better for me and there are so many things I would rather be doing then spending hours on make up and selecting outfits etc.

My ex told me he cheated because I "let myself go" after I had children. I was thinner after kids than ever before and always wore nice but comfortable clothes. I have no regrets, I am glad to be rid of him.

Dear Blunt..., we all judge, all the time. Why is it acceptable to judge the poor sods who can't be arsed to 'look after their appearance' but not OK to judge the ones who over-do it?
Do you feel personally attacked, in which case I apologise profusely of course.
It seems so, as lady doth protest too much.....
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You know full well my point is it's not ok to judge either end of the spectrum in that manner. If someone said people who don't wear make up or good clothes have to be pitied in the way you did, there would be an outcry.

How's this.

Rolls of fat, grey hairs fully on display, eye bags and sallow skin, nails chewed to thr quick.. Sad and scarey all at the same time.

And no I don't feel judged. Because I have none of those things going on, but if I did, I wouldn't give a shit what you thought, becayse you came across as bitter and nasty. I'd shrug and move on. It's inside what counts. You just displayed what's inside you.

You can see how barmy I think many beauty procedures are in that I truly thought there were women paying to have their vajazzled, brazilianed nethers blowdrued by a professional

TBH, when I had it done, I had no idea what it was. SIL suggested it. It did feel like a waste of money at the time. £65 for something which would be gone in three months or less and required the use of many, many expensive products to maintain . It lasted around four weeks for me because ex wasn't willing to pay £6 for a bottle of sulphate free shampoo.

Fortunately I am now rid of the ex and able to buy keratin treatments using my trade card so save myself a fair a bit of money too.

Despite working and training in the industry, most of it passes me by unless it's something I can do myself. Saying that, I had my brows done last week and loved them. I'm thinking of getting them done again when they grow out/wash off but I'll be getting them done at college for £6. I still can't justify paying someone £15 to wax and colour in my eyebrows when I can buy tweezers and a brow pencil for £2.

What do you think of people who don't do anything to look attractive?

Firstly you need to define “attractive”.

I know lots of women who do a hell of a lot to make themselves attractive. Fake tan, hd eyebrows, duck face pout, hair extensions, belly tops and skinny jeans. Do i think they look attractive? Quite honestly, no.

I see women who spend hours on subtle make up, grooming, clothes. Then they won’t have time one morning and will rock up in jeans and a ponytail and i’ll think they look so much better.

Some cultures massive lip plates are attractive.

I do nothing. No make up, comfy clothes, easy hair. And i think i look far far better- more confident and comfortable in my skin.

I’ve seen rock chicks in layers of eyeliner and think they look really cool, and wish i had the gits to make a statement like that.

Thank you, Blunt..., most grateful. I don't mind being judged one bit, despite being bitter, poor, twisted moi that I am.
Quite happy with the old package .
I often feel sad for people who are clearly deluded over something quite obvious.
C'est la vie, eh.

Maybe because they own a horse and have better things to do with their time than beautifying themselves. I used to spend time getting ready for a meal out or whatever. Now I just fling on some smart ish clothes at the yard and I’m good to go. Make up wise I put mascara on once a week if that. 😁

I'm more concerned about people who don't mind their manners and are shallow

And to add.. I actually find superficial beauty very unattractive... Each to their own..

It's interesting, because to me the fake plastered in make up look is not pleasant to look at, yet some people would think that anything less than that is not making an effort - there is no right way to look, so why do people care?

I keep myself healthy for health’s sake but I think I look fine without makeup and I don’t need fancy clothes to look nice. I dress in what I feel comfortable and happy in and if other people don’t like my wonky ponytail, tunic with purple leggings and husband’s huge socks they can lump it.

In my younger days I was probably quite attracti. I wore make up and dressed wellish.
Now I am older I have gained a few stone and have less time for make up.
But you know what J am much happier now than I was than.
It's what's. On the inside that counts.

People prioritise different things OP, that's all. Some people have low self confidence too I think and maybe don't see the point in making an effort as they feel the end result will be unappealing whatever they do.

I don't think I'm especially appearance focused, yet I do wash and blow dry/straighten my hair daily, have it done (dyed and cut) every couple months, shave, I wear a full face of makeup every day (primer, foundation, blush, brows, shadow, liner, mascara, highlight, ranging from subtle to heavy) which I love and find super creative and enjoyable. And I only wear clothes I feel fit and look nice/stylish, though I only buy cheap. Always topped off with a perfume and jewellery.

But for the people I know that's just normal and par for the course. The amount of makeup differs but it would be unheard of to leave the house without being clean and hair done, face made up and nice clothes.

I don't honestly even notice/register when people don't 'make an effort' with their appearance as I don't care. Although there must be social conditioning going on, I don't feel that I do all of this for others or to look good for other people, I feel as if I do it for me. Because I enjoy looking my best, I find makeup and clothes fun and creative, and why wouldn't I want to look the best version of myself I can possibly be?

Maybe as life progresses my priorities will change, but maybe not. To an extent I think it can be passed down through social learning. My mother would never leave the house without mascara, foundation and lipstick and freshly washed hair and i've wound up the same.

Silly cow alert. By this definition all men are scruffy because they dont slap up.

I used to think appearance doesn't matter but most people are shallow so you kind of have to conform right

Time to stop watching Towie and Love Island OP.
Try the news or something intellectual instead.

Because I do not exist to look attractive for anyone, as I am not an ornament. What I look like is no one’s business.

I do however, do things that are beneficial for my health and well being.

I rarely wear make up. I dress ok ish but nothing special (mainly shop at M&S, Next etc). I'm slightly overweight.

I don't care very much about my appearance because I value lots of other parts of myself above my looks. I have a lovely DH and lots of friends, as long as they love me I don't really care what strangers think!

Try not to compare yourself to those who always “done up”. You are you.

I can see why your ex is an ex! Some men really do think we exist for them, don’t they?

I'm pleasant enough to look at without any effort. Thankfully, because I'm allergic to most make-up, all nail polish and hair spray makes me wheeze.