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To make him wash his own trousers

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Firstimefreaked · 24/03/2018 10:04

Last night my OH went out it was the the 10th anniversary of the bar so the drinks were flowing free, I don't mind that he got super drunk if I wasn't BF with a young baby I would have loved it, however when he came back he informed me drunkenly he had peed his trousers I made him wipe himself down (too drunk to wash) and go to bed after inspecting his clothes he had sh*t himself royally it's a mess!!!

Do I bag it up and make him wash it when he comes back from work at 1pm even though he is warmed up death today?

What's the worse state your partners been in?

OP posts:
Vandree · 24/03/2018 11:03

Well yes, get him to clean his mess up like a very "naughty boy" if he has some sort of humiliation kink, was that the answer you were hoping for?

sleepyjane · 24/03/2018 11:05

Of course he washes his own trousers!! He is two. Why isn’t he washing his own trousers anyway?
I certainly think in this case he should wash his own trousers, but i don't understand what the big deal would be if the Op usually washed them. Surely if you're putting a wash on you sort it out into darks and whites, rather than his and hers? So you'd put a small load on rather than bung your dhs stuff in? Childish and uneconomical Confused

lynmilne65 · 24/03/2018 11:08

italian missed the point

MrsXx4 · 24/03/2018 11:09

Ewwww he wiped himself down and got into bed after shitting his trousers?! I'd be throwing my mattress and bedding out along with the trousers!

Onlyoldontheoutside · 24/03/2018 11:12

He may be ashamed at being drunk but he needs to clean his own trousers for it to have real impact on him.

italiancortado · 24/03/2018 11:12

italian missed the point

Still missing it, perhaps you would care to explain?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 24/03/2018 11:14

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ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 24/03/2018 11:15

So you'd put a small load on rather than bung your dhs stuff in? Childish and uneconomical

Hmm no, I have enough of my own stuff to make a full wash. Nothing uneconomical about it. Childish? Washing my laundry? I guess so, considering my 8 year old child can do it.

WeAllHaveWings · 24/03/2018 11:16

Ok, he went out and got pissed as a one off, no big deal. But to get pissed to the point you crap yourself shows an immaturity and disgusting lack of self awareness that is very unattractive and would make a lasting mark on the opinion I had of someone.

If that someone was my dp/dh they would be getting the riot act today when they got home from work and would know how disgusted I was with them to ensure there was NEVER a repeat performance.

Didn't he even try to clean it up this morning before he went to work or did he just walk out and leave you to his disgusting mess?

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 24/03/2018 11:17

Really really really don’t understand why people do his and hers washing. That sounds absolutely ridiculous.

TheRagingGirl · 24/03/2018 11:17

Sounds like you've got two babies there. Yuk

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 24/03/2018 11:19

Be TOLD, OP... you are letting womankind down with your sense of humour and lack of frothing. Your lack-lustre (or completely lacking) anger has fated you to be determined someone to be thought 'less of'. Hang your head in shame... a chatboard (well, some of it) has judged you and found you wanting... Shock

NutElla5x · 24/03/2018 11:20

I frigging love a drink as do most of the people in my life and we've got into some right states on nights out,but I can categorically say none of us have so much as pissed ourselves let alone shat(not that anyone's admitted to anyway).That's a pretty disgusting state to get into op,especially with a young baby in the house.I'd be more worried about that than the bloody laundry.

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 24/03/2018 11:20

I'd be furious that he was out getting that drunk when he had a small baby at home, but I really don't see the big deal with a bit of poo? It's pretty grim whether self inflicted, or caused by illness but it's the same product! Surely with a small baby there's plenty of poo covered clothes anyway? or maybe it's just mine

WatchingFromTheWings · 24/03/2018 11:20

My ExH did his once, years ago. Not only did he shit himself before getting to the house it ran down his legs and he left a trail of it from front door to bathroom at the back of the house. It was all round the toilet too. He showered, put a wash load on then went to bed leaving the shit trail. I had to drag him out of bed (still horrendously drunk) and force him to clean it up. No way was I doing it.

Greenglassteacup · 24/03/2018 11:20

Ugh, I couldn’t be with someone who got so drunk that they were doubly incontinent, that is horrendous

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 24/03/2018 11:21

ThroughThick - I do that. I use all kinds of 'smelly' perfume stuff for my clothes. My husband doesn't like the 'pong'. His clothes whirl around with the kids' clothes. Mine languish in the basket awaiting their pampering sesh.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 24/03/2018 11:21

That sounds absolutely ridiculous.

Yes, far more ridiculous than not knowing if you’re allowed to not wash another adults shitty grundies. Grin

MrTumblesSpottyHag · 24/03/2018 11:24

Um, if it was a one off I'd wash them for him tbh. Then I'd bask in the gratitude for a few weeks 😄
But then my DH only gets drunk about once every 2 years and never has to that extent so if he did get so drunk that he shat himself I'd feel sorry for him!

InspMorse · 24/03/2018 11:25

Okay offensive trousers bagged, bed striped and in wash, now does anyone have any funny drunk stories?

Is this your 'funny' drunk story OP?
Did he see the state of the trousers the next morning? Did he laugh? Hmm

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 24/03/2018 11:26

Would love to be a fly on the wall and witness his return from work.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 24/03/2018 11:28

I wasn't always though, OP. Dancing on tables days are far behind me know though (thankfully).

Blaablaablaa · 24/03/2018 11:29

@throughthickandthin01 why is it ridiculous? My DH would never expect me to do his washing . He's a grown man who is capable of figuring out when he needs clean clothes.
I'm not saying I never wash his stuff and vice versa if one of us is particularly busy but the general rule is you sort your own stuff out. Otherwise the likelihood is it would become one person's responsibility.

As soon as my DS is old enough he'll be doing his own too

HildaZelda · 24/03/2018 11:30

OP, your DH got so drunk that he pissed and shit himself and you feel sorry for him.

You're blaming his work colleagues for 'goading him into it' and it didn't occur to you that the sheets would need changing.
You eventually threw the trousers out and ordered new ones for him.

Do you not actually realise that none of this is normal behaviour?

I'm not sure which is worse, your DH getting so drunk that he pissed and shit himself, or your blase reaction to the whole incident.

If my DH came home like that, I'd be absolutely fuming , and I'd have every right to be, as would he if I did it.

AskBasil · 24/03/2018 11:32

Jesus
I don't want to be a snob, but fuck me some people have got low standards.

If you think pissing and shitting yourself is a funny drunk story, you're berserk.

It's absolutely horrific and terribly sad. Unless there's an underlying health issue that hasn't been diagnosed, it's just not something anyone should ever do. Like ever. It's really very horrible.

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