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To make him wash his own trousers

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Firstimefreaked · 24/03/2018 10:04

Last night my OH went out it was the the 10th anniversary of the bar so the drinks were flowing free, I don't mind that he got super drunk if I wasn't BF with a young baby I would have loved it, however when he came back he informed me drunkenly he had peed his trousers I made him wipe himself down (too drunk to wash) and go to bed after inspecting his clothes he had sh*t himself royally it's a mess!!!

Do I bag it up and make him wash it when he comes back from work at 1pm even though he is warmed up death today?

What's the worse state your partners been in?

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italiancortado · 24/03/2018 10:34

feel more bad for him thN and upset,

That fits with my earlier comment about the balance in your relationship.

Why on earth do you feel bad for him Confused

Plenty of people drink without having dinner and manage not to leave some one else to literally clean up their shite.

snewsname · 24/03/2018 10:34

He needs his nose rubbing in them as well as washing them himself.

Astrid2 · 24/03/2018 10:34

In this situation yes he washes his own trousers. Put them in a bag out side the back door for when he gets home.

But for the poster who asked why he doesn't always wash his own clothes, do you only wash your own clothes?? And leave you DH yo wash his in a desperate wash? That's mental.

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 24/03/2018 10:35

Surely being so drunk you shit yourself should be some kind of punishable crime? I've never heard of that in all my years.

Don't do a single thing to help him today. He can deal with his own shit (literally) and I'd be royally fucked off at seeing a grown adult lose control in such a way. It's just revolting and he needs to have a think about how he can make sure it never happens again.

Queenio24 · 24/03/2018 10:36

He was so drunk he shit & pissed himself then still went to work at 8am???
Do you even have to ask if you should wash his pants!?

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Firstimefreaked · 24/03/2018 10:37

Cmagic7 I'm so glad someone else would find it amusing! I wasn't sure if it would be mean to force him to clean it like a naughty boy. Drinking can make fools of us all, he is very ashamed of himself.

I used to work in a care home I would have been over joyed if this was the worst thing I saw that day. I'm pretty sleep deprived to the point where I put the ice cream in the fridge.

Okay offensive trousers bagged, bed striped and in wash, now does anyone have any funny drunk stories?

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Holycrapwhatnow · 24/03/2018 10:37

I'd be disposing of the trousers and of him.

MagicFajita · 24/03/2018 10:38

Does he often drink too much and have accidents op?

DullAndOld · 24/03/2018 10:39

frankly no, I don't have any funny drunk stories, stop trying to deflect.
But then I don't think that a grown man and father should be drinking so much that he shits and pisses himself.
OP, you are married to an alcoholic.

Blaablaablaa · 24/03/2018 10:39

Off topic slightly but why doesn't he do his own washing generally? If he did maybe he'd have more respect. I can't believe you're even considering cleaning up after him

SpringNowPlease2018 · 24/03/2018 10:39

I'd bin them
Good that he is ashamed
I know two people who did this at work parties and weren't embarrassed
I refused to go to any more parties at that work place because the level of drinking was way beyond funny.

Emmageddon · 24/03/2018 10:39

He must have been incredibly drunk - didn't he even realise he'd shit himself? I wouldn't feel sorry for him, although I'd be concerned about his loss of control due to drinking. As for the soiled trousers - they'd be in the bin.

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Firstimefreaked · 24/03/2018 10:40

Not an alcoholic first time he's been drunk in months, he is a good man who let go too much lol

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Queenio24 · 24/03/2018 10:40

It's not really a funny story though is it OP? He lost control of all his bodily functions through drink, that's bad. I'd be thinking he should be drastically reducing his alcohol intake tbh.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 24/03/2018 10:41

But for the poster who asked why he doesn't always wash his own clothes, do you only wash your own clothes?? And leave you DH yo wash his in a desperate wash? That's mental.

Grin I’m very happy to say I don’t wash any of DH’s clothes. Because I don’t have a DH. I do have a 12 year old who does all his own washing though and an 8 year old who washes his school uniforms. Because they have arms and brains and nothing unmoveable between themselves and the washing machine. Imagine that.

MagicFajita · 24/03/2018 10:43

Does he get this drunk every couple of months?

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 24/03/2018 10:44

I wasn't sure if it would be mean to force him to clean it like a naughty boy.

Hmm err no, you would be leaving they for him to clean like a person who had made a mess. why would that make him a “naughty boy” I’m getting a lot of insight into your relationship.

YorkieDorkie · 24/03/2018 10:44

I'd love to know if he would be considering washing your trousers if you got blind drunk and sh%#t yourself!!

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 24/03/2018 10:45

Any chance had more than just drink?

italiancortado · 24/03/2018 10:45

used to work in a care home I would have been over joyed if this was the worst thing I saw that day.

That's great OP, but why are you comparing your marriage to work, care work at that!

Your partner is supposed to be your equal, not someone who is ok because you have seen worse at work Confused

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Firstimefreaked · 24/03/2018 10:46

For those interested he puts the laundry away, does the dishes,cooks lunch,buys shopping and generally picks up breakfast in the morning from the cafe. He takes the baby out on Sunday's so I can rest and when he's up before me in the morning and he has time he changes the babies nappy and gets her back to sleep, he also works full time.

There were people from work there it wouldn't surprise me if they goaded him on to drink more, but it's all done now.

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DullAndOld · 24/03/2018 10:47

there are different forms of alcoholism OP.
you don't need to be shaking for a drink daily to suffer from it.

One form of alcoholism is that you cannot stop once you start.
Sounds like your partner suffers from this.

Honestly, shitting oneself is NOT a 'funny drunk story'.

the only person I have ever known who did it, EVER, and I have known a lot of heavy drinkers, had serious issues and later became a needle junkie. Just saying.

VodkaAndRusschian · 24/03/2018 10:48

I don't think there are any funny drunk stories that involve rendering oneself doubly incontinent.

Blaablaablaa · 24/03/2018 10:49

I don't my my DH's washing. He's been doing it since he was 13 and that doesn't stop just because he gets a wife! And for those who will comment that he works - how did he manage when he was single but still working?!
I do mine, DH does his and we share communal - DS, towels, bedding etc.

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 24/03/2018 10:49

Surely it's as easy to pick them up and put them in the washing machine as it is to pick them up and but them in a bag to leave outside the door??
Tbh I'd just wash them and have it over with.