DS stabbed DD in the head with a fork. Normal sibling stuff?

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DS (7) stabbed DD (5) in the head with a fork at the dinner table.

I didn't see it, but her head was bleeding when I came into the kitchen. They fight like cat and dog and it's usually six of one and half of a dozen anyway, so I told him to say sorry and dinner carried on.

Told DH just now when he got in from the pub and he think it's terrible and not normal.

But I think all siblings fight and they're only little. AIBU?

OP you are a shit journo. HTH.

so this didn't happen then?
OP, fuck off.

And stick a fork up your arse.

:) all the way up ...

If I were stabbed by an older sibling and they were just told to say sorry, I would have been thoroughly hurt and my status diminished. It's a terrible shame. Your daughter is learning that she isn't that important, suck it up. Awful. It's not normal or acceptable.

So your daughter was stabbed in the head with a fork and you think that was all over with after he apologised?

Did you take her to the hospital or call 101 for advise? How did you know that she didn't need medical attention?

He could have SEVERELY hurt her.

I'm with your DH, he needs to learn this behaviour is NOT NORMAL and NOT OKAY.

My sister and I faught like cat and dog. She has a scar where I pushed her down the stairs. We're now civil to each other but not best of friends sisters

My DC are 7 and 6, and a bit feral sometimes. Even I think that stabbing in the head with a fork merits immediate banishment to one's bedroom and revocation of any special privileges for at least a few days. That is awful!

If true, although bad, not as bad as the brother that shot his sister in USA because he wanted the games controller!!

Yeah, so just let it go then eh

My brother stabbed me in the ankle with a pair of scissors. 30 years on, it's still damaged and causing problems.

He was the fave child and got away with it. I didn't.

I was going to post on here after seeing the title that it's not too far from the realm of normal sibling arguments - if spur of the moment and accidental/done without thinking. I could imagine of our lot doing ot when we were small - however DM wpuld have cone down on us like a ton of bricks, and made it bloody clear just how serious it was. And drawing blood isn't normal - it would take a lot of force to injure someone with a normal fork.
At the very, very least your DS needs a serious talking to.

Re the Sun - the same author has at least two other Mumsnet articles, one recent. Not exactly aspirational journalism, is it? Even less so if either of the recent threads turns out not to be genuine.

Shit journo, shit article.

It's not unusual for kids to lash out, but it shouldn't be tolerated at all. Your DS needs to do more than just say 'sorry'. My DD1 has violent meltdowns and hurts her little sister and hurts me too. I always separate them and give DD1 a sanction, she loses £1 a time, and sometimes ends up with no pocket money by the end of the week. Sometimes I can calm her down before she lashes out with a warning, but it is alarming sometimes.

I'm always conscious that DD2 needs to see me dealing seriously with violence, which is what I'm doing. It's also damaging their sibling relationship, and in their case they are full birth siblings, of 6 and 9 next week.

We're pushing for help deal with DD1's behaviour. It sounds like you might need to do the same with your DS. You need to take it seriously; it will get worse as he gets bigger and stronger and when he turns 10, he can be held criminally liable.

You will need to explain to the school how the injury happened as well. They will be concerned and rightly so.

Ohhh

My sister literally chopped my head off with a rusty grapefruit spoon when I was six. Mum and dad told her she was naughty and she wasn't allowed to watch Tizwaz for a month.

So there were no consequences for your son's awful behaviour at all?

Your poor daughter must feel so let down by you! I think you might benefit from parenting classes because the way you handled this was completely ineffective.

Thank you for your comments. DH and I are reading and will discuss them later.

As for the sun, they must be having a slow news day. I wouldn't write for that rag if it was the last job in the world.

Mine (11 & 9) have drawn blood on a few occasions. Usually with 'weapons'. Always started by dd (youngest) Not great it'll be the death of me but it doesn't happen often. They have impeccable behaviour at school and with friends.

yeah right op (hannah)

Oh my, so The Sun is reading this? I have something funny for you.... a few months ago my village's convenience store started offering copies of this rag FOR FREE after each customer had paid for their purchases. It happened a few days, on fairly busy days too. Just take a wild guess at how many people took up the kind offer...😁😁

You told him to say sorry? He'd have had a stern lecture from me about never stabbing anyone with anything! After dinner he would have had to stay in a different room from his sister for the rest of the evening. And given plastic cutlery for the next meal.

I have on older sister and we fought like cat and dog but we never stabbed each other with anything we knew better than that. That's not normal sibbling fighting I agree with your DH on this one.

Use of a weapon and drawing blood should mean a serious consequence. Normal doesn’t mean acceptable.

As for the sun

Make him use these.

www.clasohlson.com/uk/18-Piece-Disposable-Bamboo-Cutlery-Set/34-3064?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI_aHyvpaF2gIV9hXTCh0j-g92EAkYESABEgIOcvD_BwE#moreinfo

Pretty sure that they can be washed up a few times if not soaked.

my kids are always bickering and are not averse to pushing or the odd whack, but I would go ballistic at this Stabbing someone with an actual implement is too far. What the hell had gone on up to that point?

I came on to say normal, but not at that age! My two can fight but they are 4 and 2, and actually I would be horrified if the 4 year old did this as he knows better. The 2 yo definitely would, but that’s why he doesn’t get proper cutlery!