DS stabbed DD in the head with a fork. Normal sibling stuff?

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DS (7) stabbed DD (5) in the head with a fork at the dinner table.

I didn't see it, but her head was bleeding when I came into the kitchen. They fight like cat and dog and it's usually six of one and half of a dozen anyway, so I told him to say sorry and dinner carried on.

Told DH just now when he got in from the pub and he think it's terrible and not normal.

But I think all siblings fight and they're only little. AIBU?

Well I mean it’s not “normal” as in it shouldn’t be just another part of daily life but it doesn’t necessarily mean your DS is going to turn out to be a psychopath either. My brother and I (similar age gap, I am older) has plenty of incidents like this. There was a stabbing with a pencil (me to him aged about 3 and 5 ish), he once threw a pencil at my face missing my eye by millimetres (aged about 13 and 15) and he punched me in the nose multiple times causing it to bleed. More often I was on the receiving end of it but I would purposely wind him up and he would snap. I have no idea why I did it - he was always bigger and stronger than me even though he is younger. I’m not scarred by this in the slightest. However, we ALWAYS got punished for behaviour like this - confiscations, groundings, extra cleaning/chores, whatever they could come up with I suppose. Our parents are not violent people at all so it wasn’t learned behaviour in the slightest. We turned about 16 and 17 and just sort of became really good friends. We are still good friends and never fight now. He cried when I went off to uni.

If you are not going to punish him for this behaviour, you really need to question your parenting skills!

Aw well, OP, at least you’ve now got a lovely collection of stories about children injuring each other. Do you feel better now? 😒

I started a new nanny job, day 6 the 6 year old stabbed me in the arm with the fork because I asked her to stop getting down from the table. Her parents said “say “sorry Lego” then told ME to apologise to HER for upsetting her enough that she did it...like fuck I did. I walked out that day and didn’t return.

Your attitude reminds me of these parents, the kids will be kids attitude stinks in situations like this and you are doing neither child a favour with the blasé attitude.

Thank fuck your DH is more sensible

Your husband is 110% right. A 7 year old stabbing someone is the furthest thing from normal. Sorry but I'd have grave concerns.

How sharp are your forks? I struggle to get ours through dense pastry.

I can’t believe all he had to do was say sorry, for stabbing his sister in the head.

What would it take for you to actually discipline him? A stab to the eye with a knife? A punch to the nose?

I can’t believe you don’t think this isn’t a big deal...

My 7 & 8 year old argue but they know violence is NEVER ok.

Hold on, First post OP? Which paper are you writing for?

Is this for real?

I call bullshit.

If true, although bad, not as bad as the brother that shot his sister in USA because he wanted the games controller!!

How bad was the fork stabbing. Was it properly embedded with blood gushing everywhere? Or just a mimsy scratch?

That sounds like my childhood.

So you have the message to your recently stabbed daughter that this was NORMAL? She deserves to feel safe in her home FFS.

Not normal no. You should have given a harsher punishment at the time (and that would have showed your DD you’ll keep her safe) but it’s not too late to address this again.

Normal?! No it’s not normal for god sake and you only made him say sorry!
He stabbed your daughter in the head enough to draw blood! WTF!! Give your head a wobble!

Wow! Great parenting ... not! Of course it’s not bloody normal! Get a grip!

That is Bloody outrageous op.

Your Poor daughter.

How sharp are your forks? I struggle to get ours through dense pastry.

Are you mad? No, seriously? On what planet is this acceptable? On what planet does this mean your stabby 7 year old only has to say "sorry"?

I'm serious, this is unbelievable.

not really normal tbh, my B/G twins used to scrap a lot but nobody got stabbed in the head. or anywhere.

" Was it properly embedded with blood gushing everywhere? Or just a mimsy scratch? "

sorry this did make me laugh.

Sorry, I’m another one who doesn’t think it’s normal. My DD’s (8 and almost 6) argue and fight, but neither has attempted to stab the other with a fork or anything else In our house that would warrant more than a forced apology.

Normal? No, of course it's not normal.

My sister and I fought constantly, my own two DCs fight constantly, that is relatively normal. Sorry, OP but what your DS did is definitely not usual.