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Moustache shadow .. with photo :-(

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Glitterzzz · 15/03/2018 09:21

I know this might not sound a big problem to a lot of people but I have a constant female moustache shadows on my upper lips. I don’t even have a problem with hair it’s juts this constant blue/ grey tinge that has got worse and worse over the last couple of years.

I don’t smoke I’m not on birth control and don’t have any hormone issues I’m aware of. I’ve tried home remedies, chemical peels and led light treatments, vitimans and every expensive covering foundation on the market from £6 to £45 and nothing hides it.

I’m so so self conscious of it now. I’m not making eye contact with people even walking to my car all I can think is of the shadow. I see people staring at the area also.. when I cover it I use peach/ red liostick then concealer and then foundation and it still is there ...

I’m getting desperate. My partner hasn’t said a word but I seem him looking at it almost in shock .. I didn’t have this a couple years ago when we met. I’m so sick of hiding my face with my hands, not having confidence to even look people I know in the face.. and worst all I cannot even cover it and go about my day... please help! Does anyone have this problem ? Could my Gp help!

Moustache shadow .. with photo :-(
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ScattyCharly · 15/03/2018 13:33

OP I've checked all of your photos. I have great eyesight and I do not see anything other than someone who is extremely pretty.

macnab · 15/03/2018 13:42

People are looking at you because you're pretty. Guaranteed. They are not staring at your lip. You are striking looking - that is why they stare.

^^ this, in spades

This is definitely a psychological issue and I hope you can get some help with it asap OP, you're still so young and it would be such a shame to waste any more of your precious life worrying about something that really isn't there Flowers

TitaniasCloset · 15/03/2018 13:50

I hope you get some psychological support OP, I really don't think you are well. You are a beautiful woman and I can't see anything wrong with your face Thanks

picklemepopcorn · 15/03/2018 13:55

If it helps OP I used to have days where I wore loads of make up, not too look pretty but because I felt I looked criminal, frighten small children, scary. Not every day. Some days. Obviously, I couldn't have changed that dramatically from day to day.

AgathaF · 15/03/2018 14:50

last week a guy smiled when he walked past my car at a zebra crossing and I was convinced he was laughing at my moustache - no, he was interested and wondering if you were single.

Roussette · 15/03/2018 14:52

Glitter you know deep down this is out of hand, you've said it and you know it. Please make the most of your beautiful looks. I'd love 24 hours looking like you! old gimmer here who has just embraced her grey hair in the last year and keep seeing my gran in shop windows. Then realising it's me

MrEzraGoldberg · 15/03/2018 14:57

Honestly, can't see anything. Seriously. Looks totally normal.

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Glitterzzz · 15/03/2018 14:57

Thank you thank you thank you :-)

I wasn’t fishing for compliments as one poster said I actually laughed at that. I felt sick posting the first few and only posted a full face one thinking maybe it would be easier to spot if you saw my whole face.... there’s no way I would make up spending £500 on chemical peels and led light treatments ( that didn’t work) and all the countless things I listed that I have tried ( natural
Remedy, make up, creams, even a mouth wash that brightens your teeth I thought it may help... I can see it ...you guys can’t.. so I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s nothing very severe ... I posted how even leaving my house is making me self conscious I even park in a certain space so I don’t have to walk past too many people when collecting my son... I go out with a full make up bag ... even my bloody steering wheel is full of foundation marks 😐😐😐 this isn’t something I made up and without blowing my own trumpet the full face photo was nothing special just a quick snap a few months ago without even putting effort .. I posted it as it’s the most natural one I could find on my phone.

I really DO appreciate your comments and your time and the fact you have all been lovely and reassuring was a nice surprise xox

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MarthasGinYard · 15/03/2018 15:11

You are Bootiful

People look at YOU

Roussette · 15/03/2018 15:12

I don't for one minute think you are posting this because you are fishing for compliments. The reason is... you are SO attractive, no one would have the nerve to make this up!

So it obviously gets to you, but try and put it in perspective and revel in what everyone has said here and know that it is true.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 15/03/2018 15:18

You are a lovely looking woman, I agree people are looking at you because you’re attractive!

I genuinely couldn’t see even a hint of what you are worried about in any of the photos you posted.

seven201 · 15/03/2018 15:22

There's nothing there!

littlecabbage · 15/03/2018 16:36

Just another one adding that I cannot see any kind of shadow. You look completely normal (and very pretty). Sounds more like some kind of body dysmorphia to me - can you ask your GP to point you in the direction of cognitive behavioural therapy or something? I genuinely think this "problem" is completely imagined (no offence).

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 15/03/2018 16:42

Well Glittezzz, all I can truly see, and I've been peering closely, is a very beautiful young woman. Dust yourself down, hold your head up, and get on with your life ! 😄

3luckystars · 15/03/2018 16:44

I don’t see anything at all but if you do and it’s bothering you, have you tried that green make up?

You put it under foundation. It’s green tinted stuff that fixes discoloration.

There is also tattoo camouflage make up that will definitely cover it.

Good luck and I think you are lovely as you are.

3luckystars · 15/03/2018 16:47

Sorry, I just saw your full photo and you are lovely and there is nothing there at all.

mintich · 15/03/2018 17:13

I just saw the full face photo. Honestly there is nothing to worry about!!

ImogenTubbs · 15/03/2018 17:17

Can't see a thing! Honestly OP - you're delusional!

Haircutdilemma · 15/03/2018 18:04

Gorgeous OP! Honestly.

HesterLee · 15/03/2018 18:19

Others have said it but I'll say it again - people look at you because you are beautiful. Men smile at you because you are beautiful. Nobody is laughing at you because there is nothing to laugh at. Don't try and change the way you look and don't hide yourself. Hold your head up high and enjoy looking so good :)

violetbunny · 15/03/2018 18:33

You can't see anything, but if you feel there is something noticeable there, sunlight exposure does make it worse. So make sure you wear sunscreen daily.

packofbaloobas · 15/03/2018 18:40

I agree with everyone that you are beautiful and also I can't see anything in any of your photos.
Betcha there's a lot of posters staring in the mirror this evening!

Roussette · 15/03/2018 19:09

Betcha there's a lot of posters staring in the mirror this evening!

I'm not! I know what my moustache looks like without a mirror Grin

Whatshallidonowpeople · 15/03/2018 19:20

You can see it because you a conscious of it. Nothing there!

Frustratedboarder · 15/03/2018 19:34

You have Body Dysmorphic Disorder, you silly sausage.

THERE IS NOTHING THERE.

HTH Grin
(Ps I'm hyper critical and believe me you're imagining it! Flowers )