Men: do you have standards re. who you would have sex with?

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Or do you not really mind. Say you’d been on a couple of dates with someone, would she have to be pretty/attractive for you to want to have sex with her, or does it not really matter.

Awaiting responses with interest

Ha as if you'll get honest answers

Placemarking as fuck

Surely it's a bit of a tricky question though. Even taking personal preferences into account, people aren't divided into neat categories of pretty and not pretty. It's surely a sliding scale!

Interesting forum to ask this on!

As my husband's friend says "every hole is a goal"
Hes a dick though so maybe some men have better standards than him.

I’d like to know this!

Would someone continue to go on dates with someone they don't find attractive though? I don't think so.

I do believe they'd have sex with someone they're not attracted to, yes. Especially if there's a lot of alcohol involved

I think young men aren't too fussy to be honest - well after a few drinks at least! Not sure if that changes with age. However people don't always fancy people based on looks. I've found people attractive solely based on their personality many times (most of the time probably).

Some men will have standards others less so. Probably also depends when the last time they had sex was....

What a stupid question.

Do women sleep with men that they don't find attractive?

Answer: some do and some don;t.

If you have been on several dates then surely you find that person attractive.
Beyond that even a casual hook up has to have some attraction.

So yeah, if you are on date 2, he might be thinking there’s not going to be a date 3 but if there is the chance of a shag he’ll probably go for it

I should probably name change for this but I won’t...

An ex DP only kept shagging me because it was convenient, despite not actually finding he sex that exciting. He let it continue for months, and each time I said ‘this isn’t working for me, I want w relationship’ he was lazy enough to string me along with ‘let’s see how it goes.’ So yes, I believe that most men will fuck anything that moves.

Psychologists have researched this. Please read the entirety of my post as if I had qualified every statement with "it appears... A tendency.... the evidence supports... A trend that...". I cba to type it out every time.

Women and men both have very high standards for long term partners: they want nice reliable funny people they find attractive. (Although blokes are more prepared to put up with bad personality if the woman is stunning)

Women still have high standards for short term partners - we don't want to have one night stands with ugly dickheads.

Men, however, are much more prepared to drop their standards for a one night stand.

One of the biggest, and most reliable sex differences in psychology is willingness to have sex with a stranger. Around the world, a maximum of about 4% of women ever initiated that they would shag a totally hot stranger. In men, there had been more variability between studies, but anywhere from 40% to 85% would totally go for it.**

**These studies feature a conventionally attractive, unembarrassable volunteer who goes up to individuals on their own in public places, and says "I would never normally do this, but I'm incredibly attracted to you. Would you come to my hotel room tonight?" then reports the response to the researchers.

every hole is a goal
My FIL says this too although he's too vile to have ever made use of this mantra

DH colleagues measure the 'shagability' of a person based on how many pints of beer they need to drink before shagging. So based on this I'd say these particular men would shag anyone. However they all seem to be more selective if theyre after more of a long term commitment.

All of the men I have sled this question to have said as long as they are permitted they will do it. I've only asked 3 men who I thought would be totally honest admittedly they were all single men

Initiated should say indicated

I was once told by a man that the attraction to someone he would not normally find attractive fades "after doing the deed".

In short, to answer the question, they have standards for wives and girlfriends, but not for one nighters.

You've never heard of "pull a pig" then?

Years ago I worked in a pub. A group of local regulars, all married or in relationships, were talking about this one night and they all agreed they would have sex with almost any woman if they were in the mood. They also said they would definitely cheat on their partners if there was absolutely no way they would find out. According to them, most men would.
I found it depressing, especially as most of them were nice guys and seemed to be in happy relationships.

Because of prevailing sexual politics men have far fewer opportunities for casual sexual encounters hence the willingness to lower standards for a casual encounter.

These studies feature a conventionally attractive, unembarrassable volunteer who goes up to individuals on their own in public places, and says "I would never normally do this, but I'm incredibly attracted to you. Would you come to my hotel room tonight?" then reports the response to the researchers.

If I were the male subject, I'd say no, on the basis that there had to be a catch I wasn't seeing. If I were able to take the offer at face value, I'd say yes.

Given that, I'm not results of this experiment address the OPs question.

I think it depends on the man, some would, some wouldn't.

Although I've heard some men say , "you don't look at the mantelpiece when you are poking the fire"

Bound to be true for some. I don't think my husband would but maybe in his younger days he wouldn't have been as fussy.....