To find the term 'child free' annoying?

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Why not just say you don't want kids? Why do people have to make it sound like some dietary requirement? It's as if they see small humans as some kind of allergen or digestive irritation to be avoided.

No doubt OP is probably one of those people who also thinks non-parents shouldn't be allowed anywhere near MN

‘Change 'small humans' to any other demographic and see how it reads.

Not good, is it?’

Are you seriously comparing not wanting to look after children and racism and homophobia etc?

I like it. Child-less implies deprived. Not everyone wants or decides to have kids. Childfree is a better way to describe this as a valid choice and lifestyle rather than a disappointment

Exactly this!

You have yet to make a valid point so i'm going to assume you are just out for a bit of lunchtime goady fuckery.

Of course people have a right not to have kids. What bugs me, is the comparison to something else unpleasant and often the smugness.

It's surely less annoying than people asking "Do you want kids? Why not? Are you infertile? Are you a selfish career woman? Have you had IVF? Do you not like children? When are you going to have kids? Tick tock, tick tock"

etc

I get what you mean OP, some people go out of their way to tell everybody how they are child free when no one actually cares if they have kids or not and nobody asked.
I dotn go running round telling everyone I meet that I have children because nobody cares.
If asked 'I dont have children' and 'I do have children' should suffice.

If being able to go on lovely holidays, lie in until noon if I wish and have plenty of disposable income is smugness then I am pretty pleased to be child free @stuffstuffeverywhere

Jealousy is a terrible thing darling.

It was YOU OP that compared them to something unpleasant.

Allergens are pleasant now, what?

You sound very very angry!

I like the term childfree. "Childless" somehow implies that something is missing from that person's life, but some of my friends have simply never wanted children and are pleased that they have successfully avoided having any.

Also the worst food bores I know without exception have children, and keep trying to give me recipes for "paleo pancakes" which DS is never going to eat unless I throw a box of smarties into the batter.

It's an alternative to the term 'childless' which has implications of wanting a child and being unable to have one.

I am child free.

I find it amusing the way people always react to finding out...it usually goes like...

Colleague/New friend: How old are your children? / What school do your children go to?

Me: We don't have children.

Colleague/New friend: Oh, I'm sorry!

Interesting reaction I always think, and the term 'child free' reminds people that not all of us want a family, and some are very happy without children!

All that time and money that we have going spare...

I’m child free and I am absolutely desperate to get pregnant and have children but I don’t want people asking me about it.

Not everyone who uses the term means they don’t like children. YABU

Of course people have a right not to have kids. What bugs me, is the comparison to something else unpleasant and often the smugness.

You do sound bitter and envious.

Never wanted kids, find kids irritating, find performance parenting irritating, never gave birth to kids, ended up with four teenagers as their parents gave birth but couldn’t be arsed looking after the kids when they grew out of the cute phase.

I’m a vegan that will shit myself if I drink milk so I stick to wine 😬

I’m loving this thread. It’s fucking hilarious.

'I meant child-free hotel, not child-free resort!'

What a marvellous idea though

why are you so bitter OP?

All that time and money that we have going spare I ever gone right off you now. 😢

Because bollocks words and pretentious smuggery, annoy me. As does the comparison of human being to allergens.

So let's get this straight.

You're annoyed because people eat dairy-free "for no reason". So you admit, in that statement, that diets with the word "free" in them are NOT all about allergens, but sometimes are a matter of personal choice.

This puts a massive hole in your argument comparing "childfree" to "dairy free", doesn't it? Because it's not them about avoiding an allergen - it's about a choice.

@stuffstuffeverywhere
Of course not having kids is a valid choice. I'm not the slightest bit interested in other people's reproductive choices. But the term 'childfree' is utter wank.

Surely "I haven't got kids" is sufficient? Anybody then asking inappropriate questions after that, is a tosser anyway.

As you have kids, I am very politely pointing out that you have no idea of the endless conversations, querying and head-tilting pity for your poor unfulfilled life that gets thrown at people who do not - whether by choice or not. By actively stating they have chosen to be "child free", not the sad-sounding "childless", it helps stop that sort of bullshit in its tracks.

Oh, and by the way, my DP and I are neither dairy free, gluten free, of anything else like that.

Wow OP, you sound really angry and stressed!! Are your children causing you concern or stopping you having a good nights sleep?

Because bollocks words and pretentious smuggery, annoy me. As does the comparison of human being to allergens.

No one has done that except you.

literally no one on this thread has compared children to allergens EXCEPT you.