To find the term 'child free' annoying?

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Why not just say you don't want kids? Why do people have to make it sound like some dietary requirement? It's as if they see small humans as some kind of allergen or digestive irritation to be avoided.

I would take childfree to mean they are 'free' of something they don't want, and childless to mean they want children but don't have them (with less being a 'negative/missing' term).

Don't see anything wrong with the description personally. If someone doesn't want children, then they will be trying to avoid them - and children are messy, noisy and time consuming so not far off your description I don't understand why you'd be offended about someone else's opinion of children!

We thought we couldn't have children, and saying the words "childless" or "we don't have children" made me tear up and everyone feel uncomfortable. Saying "child-free" instead didn't upset me for some reason or generate sympathy.

Does it really matter?

Of course it doesn’t imply that children are unpleasant it implies that the person saying it doesn’t want them, not the same thing.

I love kids, I spend a lot of my time around them but I don’t want any of my own.

I don't have kids because I couldn't stand the idea of having them. Is that a good enough answer for you OP? Luckily, I've never been in the company of anyone thick enough to ask why I don't have children. In the same way I wouldn't ask someone why they did have children.

Saying childless invokes sympathetic noises. Saying you are child free is a positive statement that you don't have children and are bloody happy with that decision and no I won't change my mind and yes I do know 'what I am missing'.

Us 'childless childfree' people get enough stick from some people with children that we can call ourselves whatever we like.

I don't think anyone goes gluten free or dairy free for no reason. . You might disagree with someone's reasoning around those choices, or think that it's erroneous, but there's almost always reasoning there.

Op is goady af. Validate her that her offspring are the be all end all of the universe.

I've found that these 'child free' people are often also 'gluten free' and 'dairy free' for no medical reason, other than " it's healthier " or " more natural"

Sorry OP but you sound like you're spouting utter bollocks.

I'm Child Free now thanks & very happy.

You're Child Ridden & good luck to you, I have no desire to infect myself with kids ever again!!

Saying you don’t have kids invites more intrusive questions. Saying you don’t want kids gives masses of judgements and unwanted advice.
Childfree doesn’t cause so much of an issue.
Maybe you should just drop your friend.

'As is describing small human beings as something unpleasant to avoid'

Well that is how some adults feel about children. I don't feel that way myself, but I can absolutely see where they are coming from. And if you feel this way, then choosing to be childfree is entirely sensible, surely?

is fairly wanky

Sums up your opening & subsequent posts TBH.

Now Begone - don't you have sprogs to muck out or something??

For people who are child-free, "small humans" are something unpleasant to be avoided!

I don't find children unpleasant but would rather not go on holiday at all than not be able to go to a child-free resort. Just my preference.

'As is describing small human beings as something unpleasant to avoid'

Well that is how some adults feel about children. I don't feel that way myself, but I can absolutely see where they are coming from. And if you feel this way, then choosing to be childfree is entirely sensible, surely?

Change 'small humans' to any other demographic and see how it reads.

Not good, is it?

Why does it matter to you, OP?

I meant child-free hotel, not child-free resort!

When asked we are 'child-free'- it cuts off some of the head tilts, you'll change your mind-ers, you don't know what you are missing out on-ers.

It is amazing how many people think that your personal reproduction choices are fair game for speculation.

Don't really care what others think, very much live & let live. I would hope we are not smug, the same as we are not judgey of others choices.

I'm am so not a clean eating, dairy free alternative being it is hilarious!

Change 'small humans' to any other demographic and see how it reads

I'm afraid that doesn't work, given that having children is something that is entirely avoidable, whereas interacting with any other "demographic" isn't.

Because comparing human beings to allergens, isn't actually very pleasant and certainly not some positive statement.

As a childfree person, can I say that the only thing "fairly wanky" on this thread OP is YOU. And I'd actually replace the word "fairly" with "fucking offensively".

Oh FFS, you're really scraping the bottom of the barrel now.

People have a right not to want children of their own. It's a valid choice.
It doesn't mean that they are discriminating against kids.

Oh I get it OP, you're one of those parents (tilts head)

C'mon, tell us what dear little Jocasta has done today then? I presume she is the cleverest, kindest child on the planet who is for the in 7 languages by the age of 4