Tight friends taking my tip to cover their meal costs

[alid117]

Just been out for a meal with group of friends & some of their friends for a shared birthday. Lovely evening all agreed at start just to pay for what we have to eat and drink as some driving and some not - quite organised. Four out of the 14 of us worked out our share plus £5 tip added on each (great service from staff) then pasted on the receipt down to next lot. At the end heard one of the girls go to the waiter ‘sorry it’s not a huge tip’ and when asked how much had they left was told just £6!!! WTF!!! I was literally gagged by friend who didn’t want a scene...CF alert!

No, I wouldn’t send this. Staff should be giving excellent service without tips, and it wasn’t wrong to only leave £6 due to their service; it’s more than generous. It is, however, wrong to steal someone else’s designated money and attempt to spend it on something else.

it was mean to leave only £6 for 14 people, but you are right the theft is the bigger issue

Outrageous. But I now understand why I have occasionally had suspicious looks from people when offering to pay by card for a big group ...

Shameless placemarking because i dont see you getting that money. That level of cheeky fuckery knows no bounds.

Whoop money 💰 is in my friends account

Nice one OP! Good show for following it through on pulling up the CF behaviour.

Well done for getting the money back, I suspect this 'friend' may find herself being invited to less events going forward.

Well done OP. Hopefully that CF will think twice before doing this again!

This is stealing.

If you ever find yourself in this situation again, I’d wait until after all the meal is paid for then tip the waitress directly at the end

Well done, OP!

CF will think twice in future before stealing other people’s money.

WhattoDo a £6 from a big group 'more than generous' I pity the staff in restaurants you go to

DingDongDenny There’s no need to be. I am a polite and friendly customer. I do not tip because I don’t agree with it; there is no need to tip in the UK and tipping only certain NMW sectors is hypocritical.

If you feel so sorry for non-tipped staff I really hope you’re not a hypocrite and are tipping retail workers, fast food restaurant staff etc.

it was mean to leave only £6 for 14 people

HiggeldyPigsinblankets I disagree, see above

To the OP, really glad mutual friend received your money. You’d hope it would make the CF think twice next time but you just know they think you’re the unreasonable one

This thread reminds me why I hate the ‘eating out in large mixed groups’ ordeal - have done it in the past for BFFs birthdays, putting in money plus generous tip, only to have to put MORE in because there’s not enough to cover the bill and there’s a table full of blank faces

So a decision was made to take the extra money for a drinks kitty, for a group of people that don't seem to know each other well? But not that last £6 because obviously that would be silly money grabber needs to work on her story's doesn't she

I would be livid if my friend or acquaintance did this.
And how was a drinks kitty decided on as half of the group wasn’t even involved in it

What happens now though? Was mutual friend involved in kitty discussion or will she want it to go back to the restaurant or local food bank (which is a brilliant idea)?

I'd have been really pissed off - a 'friend' used to do this all the time when I was younger I wouldn't put up with it now - such entitlement and cheeky fuckery!

I also went out for a meal once with about 20'people - some cheeky fuxkers ordered shit loads and drank the bar dry then insisted on splitting the bill - Shitty behaviour when some were only eating cheap and 1 course and not drinking due to lack of funds and they were left with a bill for about 35 instead of the £6 they'd actually eaten - it ended up with the poor birthday boy having to sub the meal - shit shit behaviour

Well done for calling out the cfs on their behaviour and sorting it out

SiL has worked as a waiter, it's hard work for low pay and antisocial hours, so when eating out he always tips at least 15% for decent service (and he is not particularly well off). So I'm sure the rest of you can manage at least 10%

SiL has worked as a waiter, it's hard work for low pay and antisocial hours, so when eating out he always tips at least 15% for decent service (and he is not particularly well off). So I'm sure the rest of you can manage at least 10%

Nomorechickens Ok. But fast food staff work hard, are on low pay and also do antisocial hours (much more so than waiters as a lot of fast food restaurants are now 24 hours). Do you tip them at least 10%?

What but as a McDonalds employee you are surely aware that you are not allowed to accept tips, so the point is moot?

What but as a McDonalds employee you are surely aware that you are not allowed to accept tips, so the point is moot?

No, the point isn’t moot. That is irrelevant, as the majority of people won’t have even tried tipping fast food workers to find this out.

If the reason they didn’t tip them was because of that, then fair enough. But it is not commonly known and it isn’t the reason people don’t tip them.

WhatToDo You sound lovely - lets not do anything nice for anyone, because it would be hypocritical and unfair to everyone else

I was a waitress when I was younger and a good tip from someone always made my day.

DingDongDenny Incorrect. I consistently provide my customers with excellent service, have numerous recognitions for my service each week and absolutely love my job.

I do all this without expecting a tip, as everyone should do. What makes my day is seeing my regular customers and having friendly chats with them, seeing how happy the children are when they get their preferred toy or I give them a balloon.

It is hypocritical if you’re tipping certain NMW workers and not others. Carers face a much harder job than waiters ever would, yet nobody ever thinks to tip them.

My point is that if you tip one, you should tip them all. But the fact of the matter is that I don’t agree with tipping at all, so I don’t actually think anyone should be tipped.

flumpybear I also went out for a meal once with about 20'people - some cheeky fuxkers ordered shit loads and drank the bar dry then insisted on splitting the bill

Aah - my SiL does this ALL the flippin' time! As just one example, we went out for a 'family' meal. DH and me (therefore, party of two, our DC didn't come) her family (party of six) Bil and his family (party of five). The bill came to £440 and Sil insisted it was split equally by three families . So we essentially subsidised their families, who ordered lots of extras. And that's just ONE example - it happens all the time. Grr! I have mentioned my disgruntlement several times, and now those in-laws don't speak to me at all because of it, because they claim I'm just being awkward and snidey! WTAF. Really cheeky.

Good on you, Alid for standing up to that thieving person.

I actually thwarted this once. Big group of work colleagues, everyone ordered anything and everything with masses of drink and decided to split the bill. I saw the look of horror on a very broke woman's face (she'd had the cheapest main and a Coke). I said I'd sort the bill out and told them all what they owed but divided the bill by 15 instead of 16. They were all too pissed to even question it and she got a free meal.

Thieves. No longer friends. The only solution to this.