To be fucking pissed off

[MrsMaxwell]

I dunno if I am being a princess here.

DH Mum is a cow, he openly admits it, she never sends bday or xmas cards to us or his kids and never bothers to visit us or show any interest in us or his kids.

He sent her flowers and a card for mother’s day.

His ex wife is a dick and we are currently going for custody of the kids and social care are involved. Today I took them to get a Mother’s day card and gift for her (for them). I (happily) do a lot for them.

My birthday this week. He didn’t organise a card for me from his kids (lovely gift from him).

AIBU to want him to encourage the kids to appreciate me a teeny tiny bit (I would have been thrilled with a card).

@MrsMaxwell coming from a broken home myself, I can appreciate entirely that being a step parent is an incredibly hard (and sometimes thankless) job.

You're completely right about feeling annoyed that your DH didn't actively encourage his kids to get you a card on your birthday. It's just common courtesy, and as you've mentioned, it was him you were frustrated with, not his kids.

You're also brilliant in being willing to change your life entirely to care full time for his children, especially as he works away a lot of the time.

There should definitely be more step parents like you around. Although, get ready for those teenage 'you're not my mother!' years to come. They'll thank you in the end x

I mean it wasn’t the Mum that forgot the card or had the job of arranging it. So why would someone start slagging her off on this thread?

Are you the mum?

I’m out. This OP consistently posts her own modified version of the reality of the situation. It changes according to the responses she gets on her numerous threads. No-one here is hearing the truth.

Exactly my bloody point. The OP started the thread about a birthday card and all of a sudden she's been torn to pieces about "poor neglected children" as if it's her fault

No, you've misunderstood. Getting irate about not getting a birthday card from the poor neglected children is the point.
I seriously worry about people who can't see how inappropriate that is. Beggars belief.

😂 of course, that can be the only reason i haven’t slagged the Mum off. I must Be her. FGS.

Getting irate about not getting a birthday card from the poor neglected children is the point

Irate?...AIBU to want him to encourage the kids to appreciate me a teeny tiny bit (I would have been thrilled with a card)

Hardly irate...you can't just make stuff up, please stop it.

You don't think "fucking pissed off" is similar to irate?

Do you need a dictionary?

No you need a dictionary...

Irate adj
1838, from Latin iratus "angry, enraged, violent, furious," past participle of irasci "grow angry," from ira "anger" (see ire )

Being "fucking pissed off" is hugely different from violent, furious and enraged

I never change any “story” I name change and I change slight details because I vent here and I don’t want to be recognised by people who I know in RL who I know also post here, pretty sure that is allowed or would you prefer me to supply my name and address with all my posts?

The way I am being spoken to here by some posters is as if I myself am abusing children and it’s ridiculous.

Angry.....="fucking pissed off". Yep, there you go. Read it again and it might sink in.

if you don't want to be recognised I suggest you change some more details, because you are very recognisable. I hope for your sake no-one you know is on MN.

The way I am being spoken to here by some posters is as if I myself am abusing children and it’s ridiculous

Ignore them. There's people on here who just like to argue black is white and make things up to suit them. Also, step-mothers on here don't stand a chance in hell of being listened to, it's well known on Mumsnet.

Angry.....="fucking pissed off". Yep, there you go. Read it again and it might sink in

But irate doesn't mean "fucking pissed off" . I posted the definition of irate upthread...you must have missed it.

@blastomama It's mothers day and you are sat at your computer being outrageously nasty to people you don't know on Mumsnet. I feel very sad for you. Maybe take a deep breath, get some perspective, and back away from the PC. If you have children maybe your time should be spent with them today rather than bullying others online.

Please do not call me Sweetheart

Hilarious that I am getting slated for using a parenting forum to moan and vent about parenting

But irate doesn't mean "fucking pissed off" confused. I posted the definition of irate upthread...you must have missed it

you posted that irate means angry, and fucking pissed off also means angry, so the other poster is totally correct?

you posted that irate means angry, and fucking pissed off also means angry, so the other poster is totally correct?

Maybe try reading it slowly...Irate means Irate adj
1838, from Latin iratus "angry, enraged, violent, furious," past participle of irasci "grow angry," from ira "anger" (see ire )

"Fuckin pissed off" does not mean enranged and violent

You know that a dictionary lists all of the synonyms, yes? It doesn't mean that you have to fulfil all of them at once! Lol, you're hilarious!

You know that a dictionary lists all of the synonyms, yes? It doesn't
mean that you have to fulfil all of them at once! Lol, you're hilarious!

I give up. Ok fuckin pissed off is exactly the same as irate ...even though it's not.

Aw bless. I guess people don't know how dictionaries work in the age of the internet! Thank god for being very old!

Ahem.......

here's some and and a for anyone who's feeling pissed off.

Let's not make this thread another reason we feel that way.

My fab step mum did like for like. If we forgot her birthday she did likewise. And as ny dad relied on her we got jack shit. Only forgot once in 40 odd years so far.