To reckon we should just boycott this whole Mother's Day bandwagon?

[NorthernLurker]

Mothering Sunday is a date in the church calendar. Mother's Day is a load of commercial bollocks and it just makes people so unhappy.

I can guarantee tomorrow this site will be filled with:

A) threads from people upset with how their day went
B) answers to a) from people who haven't got their mothers anymore and who are understandably distressed
C) answers to a) from people who have lost children and are understandably upset
D) people pointing out ad nauseam that a persons partner isn't their mother

None of these people will be having a good day. Having just messaged my friends who have lost children, and having added to that number in the last year, I would quite happily have the whole thing just go away. Doesn't mean I don't love my mum nor does it mean I am ungrateful for the tulips dds
have bought me (haven't seen them but pound to a penny it's tulips, it always is 😀)

Does anybody really enjoy it? Apart from the supermarkets, card shops, flower sellers and restaurants who make a killing, usually from sub standard service because they overbook because its Mother's Day!

YANBU.

supermarket driven holiday second only to valentines day.

I send my mum a card. The children or husband rarely remember to get me one and I’m not bothered.
I’ll see my mum at Easter instead for a get together, I’m really not into all this worry about getting extortionately priced gifts and then worrying some more. My dh isn’t even home until late tomorrow so my day will be like it always is on Mothering Sunday, at home, eating at home and no more.

I agree.
My mum is dead, my son is dead.
I just want to hide away tomorrow.
Mothering Sunday has nothing to do with mothers anyway.
And we have to put up with all the hype for weeks beforehand.
Sigh.

I'm with you OP although i started a thread last year about how some people struggle on MD and i pretty much got flamed and was even told i was being patronising (i really wasn't).
MD to me is just another day, yes i will get a card and token gift but other that i will still be doing all the normal shit whilst quietly remembering my own mum who passed 12 years ago.
My owns mums request when i was little was that all she wanted was for me and my brother not to fight for one day...... how times/expectations change eh?

YABU

My younger kids love it, and it's as good an excuse as any to buy gifts or to go and spend a weekend with grand-parents if we can, or make a celebration meal.

Not the end of the world if nothing happens that day, it's only a bit of fun.

The thing is if you did away with all the days that upset someone nobody would celebrate anything .

Are we also to scrap Fathers' Day? You don't get the same angst and self pity over that so is it allowed to remain?
I've never known anyone in real life to carry on over MD the way people do on MNet. Regardless of circumstances everyone i know gets a card, small gift and a bit of appreciation. Only on MN do men refuse to buy for their DW unless i just don't associate with arseholes?

It has got ridiculously out of hand

I used to dread it. Now I have a DS I like it because he gets excited. But showing appreciation could be any day of the year. Maybe I should designate the first Sunday in the month to "Breakfast in bed for Mummy" day.

(Daddy can choose his own)

Father's Day is entirely a commercial invention, I would definitely scrap that.

I love it and don’t think it’s got out of hand at all (it’s no different to when I was a child?)

I do accept it’s a hard day for some people but I don’t accept that their sadness should ruin a celebration for everyone else. Life is hard and all people have sadness and tragedies. You don’t use them to curtail other people’s behaviour

It doesn't bother me. But I don't have a mother, and even before she died, she wasn't much of one.

I think it'd help people to adopt it as something that can be celebrated and can not be; but that doesn't seem to happen. In real life; if you're not doing anything for Valentines Day for example, that's fine. If you are, that's fine too. On here; anything but a major declaration of undying love is not enough - and Mothers Day is the same.

If you get something amazing, great. If you get something that's not really to your tastes; or feels last minute, that's still fine. It's more than you'd get on any other random Sunday and you really shouldn't need a random commercialised holiday to feel appreciated - if you do, you've got bigger problems than Mothers Day!

I'm never a fan of the commercialism that is associated with these type days; Mother's Day, Father's Day, valentines, but then I don't really celebrate my anniversary either. Plus I dislike cards 😂. It just feels like a day when either you have to be very extravagant or risk being a disappointment.

I do find it odd that people get upset over what they got or lack of, just feel a bit grabby 🤷‍♀️ but perhaps that's just me.

I do try and make extra effort with my mother and mother in law, but I always feel I should do more each year which just seems silly.

It's fine when people don't use it as a measure how how much people love them.

I agree OP and all the bragging photo posts on FB from those who got massive bunches of flowers, homemade cards or photos with lovey comments/messages on cards, photos of went here and there and got some extortionately priced gift went here with my mum, Mum in law and DD etc etc.
DH v last minute and isn’t really into all the hype so I start to feel less loved and less appreciated on the day as I didn’t get a card with a long winded gushy verse, didn’t get an enormous lovely bunch of flowers, have an expensive meal out surrounded by a massive family as my mum doesn’t want to go out and isn’t interested in spending any time with us etc etc

I have always disliked the day but after this week I hate it.

Never had a relationship with my mother and resent her. I refuse to celebrate a woman who choose a dickhead over me.
Exhusband never celebrated mothers day and refused to buy me a card or anything
When I was a single parent no one offered and it was often ignored.
Now that I have lost my children and they are going to be adopted I hate it.

I would love to be able to ignore MD due to my son's death a few months ago. However I haven't been able to due to the (very well meaning) messages of how 'sorry people are feeling for me an they'll be thinking about me as it's going to be such a difficult day'

I know they mean well but they are rubbing it in tbh and I'd much rather ignore

We've never done Mother's Day in my family. DS has made a card at school and he will give it to me tomorrow if he remembers, but we won't mark the day in any other way.

I have an amazing mother and we have never bothered with it in our family. Or fathers day. It is commercialism pure and simple.

We do none of it.

It’s a pile of shite.

I agree, it isn't a bandwagon I have ever jumped on. I send my mother a card because she is of the generation who celebrated Mothering Sunday and she may not be around next year, but I don't expect anything from my children. My daughter will probably get me something, I will be grateful for it, but it would not bother me one whit, if, like her brothers, she did not. I am planning a nice meal, but because I like cooking and fine dining and any excuse to cook nice things. I will cook it, not my dh or anyone else. It is sad how commercial everything has become within my lifetime. Surely gathering as a family and being considerate to each other all year round is more important than a gift on one day.

NorthernLurker, you may not recognise my posting name, but I recognise yours. Have I read your post wrong? Were you saying you had lost a child this year? I am sorry to read that, if that is the case.

I personally don't care either way. I have a friend who hates Mother's Day and hides. But you can't please everyone's

Yes I recognise your name Dumbledoresgirl . No you've misread me or I wasn't clear - I had two friends I always got in touch with at this time because they lost children. Now I have three friends with that terrible sadness as another lost a child this year. It's been on my mind a lot today.

I've re-read it. I really wasn't clear. Sorry if that confused anybody else.

I hate Mother's day. It's my 1st without my mum and the 2nd without my dd1.
I will take flowers to the cemetery as I usually do on a Sunday. Dd2 is too young to understand mother's day thankfully.