To reckon we should just boycott this whole Mother's Day bandwagon?

[NorthernLurker]

Mothering Sunday is a date in the church calendar. Mother's Day is a load of commercial bollocks and it just makes people so unhappy.

I can guarantee tomorrow this site will be filled with:

A) threads from people upset with how their day went
B) answers to a) from people who haven't got their mothers anymore and who are understandably distressed
C) answers to a) from people who have lost children and are understandably upset
D) people pointing out ad nauseam that a persons partner isn't their mother

None of these people will be having a good day. Having just messaged my friends who have lost children, and having added to that number in the last year, I would quite happily have the whole thing just go away. Doesn't mean I don't love my mum nor does it mean I am ungrateful for the tulips dds
have bought me (haven't seen them but pound to a penny it's tulips, it always is 😀)

Does anybody really enjoy it? Apart from the supermarkets, card shops, flower sellers and restaurants who make a killing, usually from sub standard service because they overbook because its Mother's Day!

Mothering Sunday is not anything to do with the church per se, but historically was the only day on which servants were permitted to go home to visit their mothers. So yes, YABU to want to get rid of something that has historical significance

@RabbityMcRabbit that's not true.... it was a Sunday that people went back to the church they were baptised in.

for you too mynameisnotmichaelcaine - it’s properly shit! I’m lucky enough to have DD and to be 36 weeks pregnant myself this year, but it’s still not the same without DM here.

Hope you and your lovely kids have a good day - i’m just reminding myself that i’d rather have had 20 odd years with my DM than 60 with anyone else. Sometimes it helps!

and many thoughts to those who remember those they are without today x

Acquiesce it's ok, I haven't lost a child. I said in my op I had added to my group of friends who have this year and they are very much on my mind this weekend. It was a poor choice of words on my part. That said there are lots of posters who have lost children and some are on this thread.

It was an opportunity to return to your mother church. And it was for everyone, not just servants. Although they were obviously rarely given a day off to go home

I have an excellent mother (and am lucky still to have her). I appreciate her year round and don''t do this commercial crap. And she's quite happy with that.

we're not church goers so utterly irrelevant. And a bad day to go out to eat as prices rise and standards plummet.

Depends where you go. We’re going somewhere lovely.

Today is the day, or so I am told
That we celebrate all mothers, both young and quite old.
Many years ago, almost before time began
Young girls travelled back home for “our mam”.
And gradually so, over the years
A tradition of “Mothers’ Day” slowly appeared.
Daffodils, a bunch, they're really quite cheap
And a card-homemade-as something to keep

But somewhere, somehow it’s become much more
It’s not enough to be with the family indoors
A present, some chocolates, a meal and a card
That the baby must scribble in, although it’s too hard.
The flowers must be ordered, not bought on the day
You must plan it all, it’s the only right way
It must be quite perfect, it must be just right
Mum should get everything from morning till night.

Then comes the complains and then comes the moan
“Not enough effort” is cried down the phone
"Flowers too small, the restaurant is wrong
The children were out of tune singing their song
Look at the necklace, not what I’d wear
You haven’t even tried, it’s really not fair.
I wanted it to look like a scene from a book
But the chicken is burnt, the potatoes un-cooked”

Now who gains most out of Mothering Day
The florists, the restaurants, anywhere you pay
The card shops, the jewellers, presents to buy
Money to spent, not your effort to try.

So that is all and it just remains to say
Many happys to you on Hallmark Day!

I actually don't know any mums who complain about a bunch of daffs or handmade card.

I am a mother and my own lovely mum died a few years ago. It's always been a card with nice words and a bunch of daff with a cuppa in bed for me. no big commercial nonsense at all. I don't feel any more sad today about my mum, my heart aches every day. I just feel lucky to have had her.It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.

YABU
"Does anybody really enjoy it? "

Yes. I do. I have a lovely time, Dh makes a real effort. I get cards, flowers, chocolates, a meal, I do nothing all day. I send a card to my mum and phone her.

It's like Valentine's Day.

Or your birthday. Or Christmas.
You won't enjoy it if you have children/partner/husband who makes no/minimal/little effort.

But that's not anyone's else's fault, if they do nothing, if it bothers you, tell them. Don't put up with it. But don't spoil it for the rest of us.

Same here kaytee

We really enjoy it, though don't make a massive thing about it. The kids made me cards, chose a present that DH paid for (so no children were robbed) and I got a cup of tea in bed. What's not to like.

My sympathy to all those who find it a difficult day though.

Where on earth did you find that shite @Witchend ??

I just think do what you want from it really. Presents and cards in my house are always homemade or very cheap (for Granny DS and I go to the local market flower man and pick out a nice planter that's usually under a tenner).I got a homemade card and that's about it, I'm not bothered really, although I would like a "world's best mum" mug at some point, just because really. I think the people with no kids/no mum/a horrible mum/horrible kids/no partner/insert other reason to take issue need to just behave like adults. Let people who want to have their fun. Do you get pissy and annoying at other events? Do you get narky at christmas and easter? What about Eid? Purim? Diwali? Just get a life and do something else if it bothers you, that being said showing off your expensive consumer goods that you have been bought on social media is just tacky anyway so people that do that are equally dicks.

For the record, I have had no dad for most of my life and one of my funniest moments ever was when my best friend who I lived with at the time (and knew everything about my entire life) randomly came out with "What are you getting your dad for F........ Oh." She was mortified but I thought it was hilarious- I have a very black sense of humour and I spent the rest of the afternoon thinking up appropriate father's day presents for a ghost/zombie/corpse.

And. I like the day. Even if I only get a card, or a thank you.
I appreciate it's hard if you've lost your mum. Dh did last year. But that's still no reason to damp down on others joy/day.

Mothers day rocks! Anything that celebrates my awesome mothering skills is alright by me.

I like mother’s day but I don’t have any expectations apart from looking forward to seeing what DD has made me. I expect as she gets older and stops making me cards and presents I’ll feel meh about it too but at the moment it’s lovely.

Yep get rid of it, and Fathers Day, and Grandparents Day and every other "random person so the card manufacturesrs can make shit loads of money off our quilt if we dont send a card" day

For the few days that were the run up to MD I was stressed out and had a low mood. That's because I don't have a mum and haven't had one since I was a child. I am usually OK with it, but come MD I don't like the hype and the reminder that I lost my mum when I was a child. I don't like going to restaurants where I see people playing happy families with their mums and grannies.

We stayed home and made a nice lunch and invited extended family over. I got a card. I don't want anything off my DC. The best way they can thank me for being their mum is to do well at school and be happy so I don't have to stress over them.

I'm a huge fan of any occasion to celebrate anything, though I am of course mindful of those that find today difficult - as a daughter, I hate it. As a mother, it's great.

We've just declared April 21 'Son's Day' in our house. Why shouldn't he get a day too?!

I'd make every day A Day if I could. Breaks up the bloody monotony.

I can’t be arsed with it either. My kids left the card they bought, and both signed, at their dads, and promptly had a fight over who should’ve remembered it. The gift they gave me was a Lush bath bomb (I don’t really like bath bombs and find Lush stuff stinky and overpowering). So the morning was spent refereeing them fighting, so I went out and did some jobs in the garden and then we met up with their step-mum & half sister in the afternoon. It’s all so over-blown and commercialised.

I’d rather my kids were nice to each other and helped around the house a bit on a daily basis rather than them try to ‘pamper’ me once a year.

I'm amazed at how many women get the cards and presents for their MILS? Why?!

It's a day that reminds me how cruel my mum was. I spend the day pretending to be happy for my dcs, so they don't feel like nothing they do is good enough. For me it is a day to mourn a lost childhood. I'm exhausted from pretending to be happy. I'm not, I'm devastated for the child I was.