To reckon we should just boycott this whole Mother's Day bandwagon?

[NorthernLurker]

Mothering Sunday is a date in the church calendar. Mother's Day is a load of commercial bollocks and it just makes people so unhappy.

I can guarantee tomorrow this site will be filled with:

A) threads from people upset with how their day went
B) answers to a) from people who haven't got their mothers anymore and who are understandably distressed
C) answers to a) from people who have lost children and are understandably upset
D) people pointing out ad nauseam that a persons partner isn't their mother

None of these people will be having a good day. Having just messaged my friends who have lost children, and having added to that number in the last year, I would quite happily have the whole thing just go away. Doesn't mean I don't love my mum nor does it mean I am ungrateful for the tulips dds
have bought me (haven't seen them but pound to a penny it's tulips, it always is 😀)

Does anybody really enjoy it? Apart from the supermarkets, card shops, flower sellers and restaurants who make a killing, usually from sub standard service because they overbook because its Mother's Day!

My mothers is great but ive never even given her a card and my kids dont get me anything also.

We dont buy into commercial holidays at all.

We give gifts on days that we want to and when we have money. Not on some random day chosen by who knows? And for some made up reason, thats then been commercialised and hyped to death.

YABU

I love the cards/bookmarks/paper flowers/etc that my children make for me at school and I wouldn't change it for the world.

I don't think you need to do away with Mother's Day because some people don't like it. The same way I don't want to do away with Father's Day just because I had a crap, abusive father.

I do agree things can get too commercial, too braggy, and too much of a performance but the people who buy into that are the same ones who do it at Xmas, for birthdays, for births/engagements/marriages/anniversaries/etc. They are not going to change.

@bigbluebus I am so sorry for the people you have lost. Your son's thoughtfulness really made me stop and think (and cry a little bit)- that is a moment when I can see the point of Mother's Day. It is very touching that he remembered and planned for you like that.

@claraschu Thank you. I'm really proud of DS as he has HF ASD, so getting where he is today has not been an easy journey for him (or us). The fact that he remembered and arranged to send flowers on time is even more amazing as organisational skills is an area he struggles with!

Today is the 2nd anniversary of my DM's death and she was also a great fan of Ken Dodd (RIP) having sat through many of his very long shows. My Dad also lived in Knotty Ash (yes it is a real place) as a child and later went on to work there in his adult life.

As usual I phoned my mother and my children phoned me. And that was it.

Day marked but the commercial concerns made not a penny.

I honestly wouldn't be fussed if I didn't get anything, DC took it on themselves to get me a card, I could have been raving where's my present, but the was super thoughtful. I think to all the women without DC involuntarily or Mums and think how sad it must be for them.

I spoke to my mum, 2 of my DC phoned me and the other two happened to message however not one of us ever mentioned Mother’s Day. The phone calls and messages were just our usual calls. We genuinely don’t 'do' Mother’s Day.

I did however receive a happy mother’s day message from one of my DCs partners. I thought that was sweet of her and sent a lovely message back. It’s not my thing but if it’s hers then that fine by me.

Never actually done Mother's Day - my mum never wanted it and felt it was really a Christian thing (we're Jewish) and I've followed up with this. The kids, well DD, sometimes ask about doing something but I've told them no need.

I'm sure op only meant the whole Hallmark merchandising opportunity cash-in thing?
Lots of people seemingly agree; I was in Morrisons this morning and they had an entire aisle of Mothers Day tat reduced to 50p.
Still no takers

Love the attitude on here that anyone taking their mothers out or being taken out are only playing at happy families, no chance they are actually happy families, that they enjoy each other's company, that they want to spend time together, oh no, it all has to be forced and at the behest of our evil capitalist overlords.

As someone else said, do the day or don't do the day no-one is forcing anyone to celebrate it or to celebrate it in a certain way do what suits you and your families - is it necessary to belittle and begrudge others? There is a nasty undercurrent of "I don't like it/it makes me sad so no-one else is allowed to have that day and be happy".

I love Mothers Day, bah humbug to the lot of yiu!

@RedDogsBeg the whole of MN is made up of a variety of top trumps with these things.

Whether it’s celebrating birthdays, or being left out of things, buying children presents or, god help us all, children believing in Santa.

The competitive sneering is just one of many things the wannabes and try-hard middle class social climbers desperately do. It’s sad. And ridiculous since nobody in my very middle class circle carries on so embarrassingly.

In short, I wouldn’t sweat it. IF you do, you’ll only find someone who sweats far, far more than you do!

I responded first to this thread saying that mothers day is shit - but I did actually manage to have an alright time yesterday. Mostly be means of having no pressure on the day and a snot filled somewhat ill DD.

First time I've had a snuggle say with DD and it hasn't ended with me crying myself to sleep.

not sure I'm entirely converted but maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel.

MadMags very true.

The competitive sneering is just one of many things the wannabes and try-hard middle class social climbers desperately do. It’s sad.

This is completely true, and it's not even what pisses me off so much about it. It's more that while snobs and try hards are competitively sneering over Mothers Day, they are spectacularly missing the point of how the class system REALLY operates in this country and the damage it does.

Same goes for the anti-capitalist rants that only ever appear for occasions like this. The evils of commercialism and consumerism will not be overcome because you nobly refused to buy a £1 card for your mum once a year.

It's worse than ignorant and totally ridiculous.