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To think being blonde doesn’t automatically mean you’re attractive?

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Holdtightwhenyoutiptoe · 10/03/2018 13:19

I see it on here a lot. Because someone is blonde they are automatically gorgeous.

I’m not saying any other colour is better. I’m saying that certain hair colours suit different people.

I look better as a brunette, I wasn’t as attractive when I was blonde. I’m sure others have experienced this the other way around too.

I’m just getting quite tired of the whole everything needs to be light in order for anyone to be considered pretty.

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SnibbleAgain · 11/03/2018 21:17

Violette I think many are.

I am very unquestioning and a bit, don't know what to call it.

Anyway it never occured to me that lots of blonde women dyed their hair, I kind of knew it happened, but I didn't really look closely or anything and tend to take people at face value.

Anyway when I was about 30 I said to someone, it's weird, there are a lot of blonde children boys and girls, but grown up far less blonde men.
And my friend said, well yes, lots of women dye their hair Hmm
And I said, OH, yes, that makes perfect sense, it's obvious now you've said it

So yes I think lots of women dye their hair and yes some people like me just bimble through life just taking everything and everyone at face value!

OutyMcOutface · 11/03/2018 21:22

I’ve always preferred the look of nice dark hair. But obviously blondes can still be attractive and not all brunettes are attractive. It’s just a personal aesthetic preference. No different to some people living duck egg and others hating it.

GameChanger01 · 11/03/2018 21:43

Funny I'm tall, athletic, slim, did boobs, long dark braids, brown skinned... never had any trouble attracting all types of men especially Caucasian. Not a stealth boast though... I guess men like variety.

GameChanger01 · 11/03/2018 21:44

Double d*

squoosh · 11/03/2018 21:48

Tall, slim, DD boobs....

Yeah it's a real puzzle as to why you've never had any trouble attracting men.

logicalmum · 11/03/2018 22:22

"If this was said about black people it would be considered racist

Really?"

If you sent a bunch of blonde supermodels to an isolated tribe and they didn't find them attractive, what then? They're racist?

No it isn't racist at all to not find a certain type attractive. How can you possibly misunderstand what i'm saying. Are you trying to tell me that if a white person said "i don't find black people attractive" it wouldn't be considered racist? But obviously it's fine for that to be said about white people.

TryptoFan · 12/03/2018 06:45

I think you're the one misunderstanding. You said if people said that about black peolple then it would be considered racist. I said it wouldn't be considered racist.

Upsy1981 · 12/03/2018 06:49

I noticed this on the attractive sibling thread. Lots of comments about the one consider more attractive being blonde. I don't necessarily agree, in fact dark hair can look healthier and glossier imo. I'm blonde!

BedtimeTea · 12/03/2018 07:18

My husband has a friend who will not date non-blondes. The friend is 60, lives alone, has lived alone for 40 years, and has never been married and only had one girlfriend for a year or so, 25 years ago.

logicalmum · 12/03/2018 09:11

Tryptofan no you didn't say that, you used the anology of a bunch of blonde super models, and that it wouldn't be racist to say that someone wouldn't find them attractive, My point was quite clear, if someone had said the same about a group of black people it would be considered racist.

Another poster agreed and said the thread would be pulled if someone had said that on here. Most people would agree i'd imagine. Confused

LucreziaBoredYa · 12/03/2018 09:31

I reckon your husband's friend is missing out Smile.

LucreziaBoredYa · 12/03/2018 09:40

I worked with a stunning black woman about 10 years ago who had bright blonde hair. Not sure if it was dyed or a weave but it looked amazing on her. Very striking.

TryptoFan · 12/03/2018 09:49

if someone had said the same about a group of black people it would be considered racist

Thisbis the point I disagreed with you about.

But I wouldn't be racist if someone did say that.

Apologies, I don't think I got my point across Smile

logicalmum · 12/03/2018 10:09

I do sgree with you, Tryptofan, it shouldn't be racist but it often is seen as. People are called out on racism often when not exists. I think it's perfectly fine to say you don't find certain people attractive, the poster up above who said she didn't find white people attractive was doing no wrong in saying that, and no racism was seen, and rightly so. But if someone had said the same about black people im sure there'd have been a bit of an uproar. It should be the same for all.

VioletteValentia · 12/03/2018 10:34

I don’t think it’s racist to say you’re not attracted to certain races. If you say certain races are fucking ugly/disgusting or that type of thing then it’s racist.

kerryweaverscrutch · 12/03/2018 10:35

It is a little bit, since you are saying that you see every member of a race as somehow the same. If you say you don't find black people attractive, you're kind of saying that they all look the same and can be ruled out en masse.

Ketzele · 12/03/2018 10:40

I haven't read the whole thread, but I often see on here people saying their dc are blonde as part of conveying how cute/gorgeous they are. And both my girls found at primary school that the blonde girls were definitely considered the prettier (at one stage there was a 'blonde club' Hmm), and books aimed at little girls seem to feature overwhelmingly blonde princesses and fairies.

I didn't realise how ubiquitous it was till I had a black child. Now I notice it all the time. Parents have a responsibility here.

sophie1972 · 12/03/2018 10:48

I have blonde hair and my hubby said he prefers black hair

VioletteValentia · 12/03/2018 10:55

Kerry I think it depends. I personally don’t find light skin that attractive. I’m not saying all pale or white men look the same, just that often I find the skin (and hair and eye for that matter) colour more attractive if it’s deeper.

kerryweaverscrutch · 12/03/2018 11:13

Thats fine. But " all white people are unattractive" , even as a personal liking, is not great. Because what does that even mean? There are "white" people who have darker skin than "black" people, for one thing, so if its really just about the appearance and attraction, it doesn't even make sense.

VioletteValentia · 12/03/2018 11:15

It’s a generalisation. I’ve found the odd white person I find attractive, but it’s far more common for me to find black and asian men attractive.

logicalmum · 13/03/2018 00:01

If i find a man attractive it's irrelevant whereas i know people who don't find black men attractive, and some who don't like white men Just a personal choice, we're all different. We can't help who we like.

BedtimeTea · 13/03/2018 23:29

He sure is. His one girlfriend had brown hair.

BedtimeTea · 14/03/2018 00:23

He sure is. His one girlfriend had brown hair. I guess she was an exception.

goldenbulldog · 14/03/2018 00:55

women who are less attractive in the face tend to dye their hair blond to be noticed so I agree
if you can pull off dark hair espcially jet black like kim k you are usually more attractive in general

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