To think being blonde doesn’t automatically mean you’re attractive?

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I see it on here a lot. Because someone is blonde they are automatically gorgeous.

I’m not saying any other colour is better. I’m saying that certain hair colours suit different people.

I look better as a brunette, I wasn’t as attractive when I was blonde. I’m sure others have experienced this the other way around too.

I’m just getting quite tired of the whole everything needs to be light in order for anyone to be considered pretty.

I've never seen it on here but I get what you mean OP.
DD1 has beautiful golden curls and of course I dont equate her beauty to her hair but I do think of her hair being more beautiful like it is than if it was mousy brown and straight. People always comment on her beautiful blonde hair and I dont imagine people comment on beautiful brown hair as often, I might be wrong.
Im naturally dark brunette and have died my hair blonde before, it looked awful on me as it was fake and didnt go with my skin or eyes but I wold love to have dd's hair.

So many blondes get negative comments. The whole "bimbo" stereotype makes me nauseous. I'm blonde, a bit attractive (but chubby) and know many very attractive red heads and brunettes. I think believing blondes are more attractive, lucky, etc is outdated. Anyone who is a narcissist is generally a bimbo, regardless of hair colour. I blame cheesey Hollywood films for this shallowness!

It's a standard trope - the female equivalent of tall and dark - ergo handsome.

Blonde and slim ergo beautiful.

There are plenty of women who are tall, blonde and slim who are media categorised as beautiful but facially are anything but. The same is true for brunettes though. It is possible to create a "beautiful" image if you have a couple of a set of basic attributes perceived to be attractive - height, slimness, long healthy hair, large firm breasts, and so on - even if you aren't facially beautiful.

I don't think this is something unique to MN or being peddled here a lot. Sometimes its just short hand for being very attractive - in the same way a depressed dumped man might say "I bet her new bf is tall dark and handsome" women tend to default to "bet she's young blonde and thin".

I love the phrase chill your beans. Never heard that before. Reminds me of Lucy Watson and getting up in my grill.

I did write a post on a recent thread, about how I had seen this happen with a woman I once worked with. She was not a nice person but had amazing long blonde hair and a large majority of the men were completely blinded by it and adored her. I got flamed for saying she didn't have a nice face though I meant her mean expression rather than her looks.

I wasn't saying it's right or understandable - just that it does happen. Have no idea why.

OTOH I have known a lot of men who think Angelina Jolie is the embodiment of the perfect woman, and going further back, Kate Bush. But the blonde thing is real IME.

I think people look better with the hair colour they are born with. There's a reason why you have that hair colour - because it blends well with your skin tone etc. I think I am agreeing with you OP

So essentially natural brunettes look better as brunettes, redheads as redheads and blondes as blondes. I am fair haired (not blonde exactly but not brunette either - sort of light brown with natural blonde highlights) and I dyed my hair black when a teenager. I looked a fright and friends took the piss . When I tried to go very pale blonde it looked okay but not quite right either.

Blonde hair is culturally deemed to be more attractive for some reason (although men suffer the opposite - there is a preference for men to be dark haired - 'tall, dark and handsome'), but in reality in terms of physical beauty alone (I tend to think you need to be appealing as a person too in order to be truly beautiful) this seems pretty evenly distributed among hair colours. I can think of aesthetically gorgeous men and women across a wide spectrum

It's the "are you better looking than your siblings" thread which has many replies saying something like:

'My sister has long blonde hair and is thin, she's definitely the attractive one' etc etc

Essentially the conflation of beauty with blondness.

Boris Johnson?

Just to add - 15 year old dd who is blonde and slim does get unwanted attention, cars beeping their horns at her and leering which apparently gets properly out of control when she is accompanied by her blonde, slim friend. Apparently two of them together is too much for some men

I asked her if it bothered her - she said she mostly finds it funny and ridiculous, but it can be a bit much. It makes me feel a bit ragey thinking about it but I should probably relax and take my cue from her

And Michael Fabricant?

Never heard that being blonde is more attractive. 'Blondes have more fun' is an outdated meaningless phrase and has more to do with a certain type of blonde image rather than looks.
Beautiful hair is not just about the colour but condition and style and whether it suits the wearer.

I'm blonde and was pretty when young, slim etc.

Yes you get attention but not always when and how you might want it. It seems to act as a magnet for street harassment, wankers in pubs etc. I know that all women get this and anything can set it off, but I genuinely think that for blondes (and redheads) it just draws out all these dickheads and stupid comments (does your collar match your cuffs love? - fuck off I'm 12).

Also the idea that "blondes have more fun" and like "attention" - that may be true for some women who dye their hair blonde but for those where it's natural, why would our personality be set in one way?

Blonde jokes really fuck me off as well.

Oh and I had interests that were not very "blonde" from a young age - I enjoy science, maths, scifi etc and all I got was people treating me like I was an ornamental doll and acting incredulous when I said what subjects I liked / horrified that I didn't like "dressing up" (people seem to get really upset when pretty girls / young women don't "make the most of themselves").

OTOH I could pull pretty much whoever I wanted really easily and never really worried about my looks which is something I hope that my daughters inherit.

On MN - no not seen the idea that blonde women are automatically more attractive. You're thinking of porn, not MN.

hmc I'm guessing she has long blond hair?If so I think it's because it's eye catching and then if she is attractive she will get the attention of certain types.

Yes she does MsHarry. That's probably right, it does catch the light etc.

Still, she'll be able to shake off the leering types soon because when she goes to sixth form college in September she plans to dye her hair pink

Boris Johnson must have something going for him as he's managed to pull some classy women for his affairs - can't see it myself so maybe it's the hair ...

Snibbleagain -yes! Ineducated people assume you're going to live up to some kind of Marilyn Monroe fictional character. It gets my goat. It seems to derive from chauvinism.

It doesn’t automatically make anyone attractive any more than being slim or tanned or having big boobs. But if you were drawing a cartoon model you’d probably go for tall, slim, tanned, long blonde hair etc. It’s a stereotype, nothing more.

That said, for some people, having long blonde hair will always outweigh what someone looks like in every other way. Everyone has preferences.

I’m just getting quite tired of the whole everything needs to be light in order for anyone to be considered pretty.

I'd imagine that would be quite tiring. Where do you encounter this sentiment?

Ive seem no evidence of it on her, I don't like putting down other women and commenting on their attractiveness, I find it all very basic.Some people seem obsessed with comparing themselves to other people, giving their opinion on facial features, hair colour, skin tone, choice of clothes.There really is more to life than this.

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Yes it's very wearing.

A lot of men I think expect more compliant / flirty / friendly / ditzy / giggly sort of behaviour from blondes. They expect you to play up to them. When you glare at them and tell them to fuck off, it really really doesn't go down very well.

Luckily I am now in the Age Of Invisibiltiy and by god it is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time!

I absolutely love it and think, wow, this is what most men must feel like when they walk around the place! Lucky bastards

Where OP? I can't say I've ever seen that in MN.

I think it might be true- I don't know what it is. Maybe blondes are associated with that angelic look.

I'm a black woman and NEVER get male attention despite being fit and healthy at 25.

I wonder why I'm seen as ugly as a black woman sometimes :(

I’ve never seen it either.

I’m a near 6 ft blonde bird and if anything it scares men tbh.

Many gentlemen prefer brunettes.

OP can you post just one link to someone on mumsnet saying that all blondes are automatically gorgeous?

There's research to show that blond hair does draw attention and that people respond differently to blonds. I agree that not all blonds are attractive, but I think the blond hair itself draws people.