To tell friend/bride her choice in shoes is terrible

[TheWonderfulCat]

So my friend is getting married in 6 months and has just told us bridesmaids (im the MOH) that she wants us to wear converse shoes with our lovely dresses.

The shoes will look terrible with the dresses and Im dreading wearing them.

Should I say anything? And if so, what?
Or should I just suck it up?

Sometimes I wonder why people agree to be bridesmaids at all if it means spending their own cash on something that makes them feel miserable.

Dowager high heels damage your feet and put your spine out of alignment

@Nomorechickens it was 2 years ago. I was 26. The youngest bridesmaid was 24...

I also find Converse shoes very uncomfortable. I thought I was the only person in the world who had this problem, because everyone I know loves them. Can you explain to her that you find them really uncomfortable but you would be happy to look for a white pair of similar shoes. A lot of high street stores have plain white ‘daps’ for want of a better term, that might fit in with the theme, might be more comfortable for you & should hopefully work out much cheaper than Converse.

Good luck x

I never knew wedding converse was a thing, but found this, and now I think they look great and you should at least give it a try.

Did you have a teddy bears picnic for the wedding breakfast MotherofBeagles? 🐻😂
Nearly typed MotherofBears 🤭😬

Bearsmaids. Oh I hope that's not true, that would certainly look less than optimal.

Altimate are you sure they are not Lelli Kelly?

Dowager high heels damage your feet and put your spine out of alignment

That'd be...

high heels can damage your feet and put your spine out of alignment.

I'm willing to take the risk - middle-aged and it hasn't happened thus far.

Ask her if you can buy Rocketdogs instead - designed for the wider feet, and much more comfortable, but similar looking.xx

You can buy arch support insoles in most chemists and Superdrug/boots stores.

I have to buy them for my steel toe-capped work boots as I suffer from plantar fasciitis.

Just suck it up and let the bride have her way.

Dowager I am still setting myself imagining your friend and his groomsmen all wearing MC Hammer pants. 😂😂😂. Priceless!!

Altimate I was just about to say I couldn't imagine converse with short dresses but those are lovely!

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If she wants specific shoes for a wedding, she's the one who should be paying for them. I hate the Converse and wedding dresses look personally, but at her day I think it's her choice to make and wouldn't upset her by saying it looks shit (but I might upset her by not wanting to pay for the damn things).

I love converse but have plantar fasciitis so they are difficult to wear for a long time. To make them more comfy could you get a size bigger and wear one of those gel insoles. That always helps me.

I think if you are paying for them you should be able to choose shoes that are comfortable and you will wear again. As long as they match with the general theme it won’t ruin the pictures. Converse are too expensive to be bought to wear only once.

altimate
Sorry but those shoes are awful!

Is she short, and trying to make you look less tall by putting you in flats while she wears heels? I know someone who did this to her bridesmaids!

If you have to wear sneakers, Vans are comfier IMO.

Flat shoes with a shorter sort gives you dinner lady calves.

Bummer!

I imagine they are hard to dance in as they have rubber soles. My dancing shoes have a suede sole otherwise it hurts your knees when you spin.

Another one here who can't wear converse. They're too narrow.

There's no way that I'd be forking out that kind of money for shoes which won't be comfortable and I'll never wear again.

I'd ask, if she wanted people in that kind of footwear, that you buy something similar that fits and is comfortable. But then I find the cheaper converse style pumps from places like deichmann are much more comfortable.

I would say her wedding, her choice, but not when you have to pay for her yourself! Just tell her no x

"I (and DH) wore custom converse for our wedding."

Hmm, I wonder if I was at your wedding!

I think it's a cool idea.

We live in the US with regular school dances where the teens wear Formal wear. For one of the first dances one girl in the group thought it would be great and cool to wear Converse with her formal cocktail dress. All the other girls declined and wore heels. Bottom line they are not flattering for even a teenager and she regretted it when she got to the event, they actually made her look dowdy and took away from her outfit. It just didn"t work and she still dislikes her outfit in all the formal pictures taken at the time.

Asking grown women to wear unattractive, flat, completely unsupportive shoes that basically ruin an expensive outfit seems a very bad idea.

There is a reason certain clothes become "classics" and usual for certain events, it's because they work for large groups of people with very different body types. It is clueless to deliberately create an uncomfortable situation for grown adults who are doing you a huge favour by attending your event, and I assume paying for their dresses.

I don't think it's fair she's telling you to spend money on something you don't like and don't want to wear. I don't like converse either because they pinch my toes so wouldn't be wearing them after the ceremony.

I also can't imagine how it'll look, I know a few brides who've worn them but they've had bigger skirted dresses, if bridesmaids are in slinkier dresses they'll be on show a lot more.

I have to say I don’t get this thing about Converse. They look cool, but are not especially comfortable.