To tell friend/bride her choice in shoes is terrible

[TheWonderfulCat]

So my friend is getting married in 6 months and has just told us bridesmaids (im the MOH) that she wants us to wear converse shoes with our lovely dresses.

The shoes will look terrible with the dresses and Im dreading wearing them.

Should I say anything? And if so, what?
Or should I just suck it up?

I think you need to pick one angle I.e. you've tried them on and they don't fit and not mention you think they'll look crap. (Whilst I agree with you) that's her choice and I wouldn't muddy the discussion by mentioning it as you may end up in an emotional discussion vs fact based. You should also try and find something which looks similar but you find comfortable and offer to wear those instead.

Just wear them. It's one day, your friend's wedding. Not a big deal.

Small wide feet here with high ariches converse are only good for skinny flat feet. Is your dress long? Tell the bride you can’t wear converse (no doubt she has ideas about a certain “funny” picture where your all showing off the trainers) tbh I can’t even remember the shoes my own moh wore 3 years ago. NO one remembers anything about other people’s weddings except was therexdecent food and drink so I’m always a bit meh about such things though

converse are only good for skinny flat feet

I have skinny flat feet and Converse make me walk like a duck. I hate them.

As you can't wear Converse, is there another brand which looks very similar which you do find comfortable?

Asking for a substitution (to Superga or Vans or something) might be more productive than expecting her to change the look she wants for her wedding.

Or just warn her that you find them so uncomfortable you'll be swopping to a completely different white trainer/plimsoll after the main photos (you can change for comfort, but it should still be the same type of footwear - because what you like is immaterial on that day)

I messaged her and she said I can wear another brand shoe, as long as it looks similar, so thats a bonus

I just gave her a heads up I'll probably be changing shoes after the ceremony and meal, if thats alright with her

We are wearing short dresses, so i cant hide them or wear something more comfortable instead unfortunately

If she's paying/you already have a pair I'd not say anything.

Converse as wedding shoes is very done though now, the originality factor for that was over a long time ago.

My feet are skinny and flat and I find Converse terribly uncomfortable. They also weigh about 100000000 lbs. But, I like the way they look, so I wear them.

OP, invest in some good insoles and wear them. It's one day.

Honestly I think you should just wear them all day. It's her wedding and that's the look she wants. It's actually quite common, I've seen this a lot in all the wedding blogs i looked at when planning my own wedding.

I've been a bridesmaid a few times and had to wear very high, uncomfortable shoes so it could be worse.

I find Converse really uncomfortable too.

Hopefully she will understand and she's happy enough for you to wear them for the photos and then change into something comfortable afterwards.

You can get cheap Dunlop trainers that look very similar to Converse and are much more comfortable. If you wore the Converse for the photos but switched to those afterwards, it would barely even be noticeable.

I wear converse. But on a Saturday afternoon, shopping or hanging out.

Absolutely not for going out - or to a wedding!

It's her day and her choice, but I'd hate it. Would feel really grim all day. But you know, as long as the Bride is happy.....

Sorry, I took so long to type that I didn't see you had said that she didn't mind if you wore a different brand

FrancisCrawford

Like I said, I don't think it is a big deal.

I'm doing this for my wedding. Have wanted to do it since I was a little girl. Bridal / bridesmaid shoes are hideously ugly and uncomfortable.

I have wide feet and live Converse.

They will look great with a bridesmaid dress. I'm guessing she'll have a bit of a funky theme fling on.

I really don't think you should wear a different brand for the photos.

Am usually a fan of" its the bride's day " etc. Then I saw the dresses were short......
I was a BM and wore heels for ceremony and then we all changed to white trainers with ribbon to match the colours. But dresses were long.

I think it's cheeky, have "trend" like that for your wedding by all means but dig deep and pay for it. I wouldn't wear converse again so buying them for a few hours for someone else's wedding would piss me off.

I think saying that you will wear different shoes after is fine but I think for her photos you should wear converse. I imagine she wants her bridesmaids to look a certain way and it will not be quite right if you wear something different. You won't be the first/only person at a wedding to be uncomfortable in their shoes!

Can we have a pic of these shoes please

If you have to pay for the shoes yourself, I don't think the bride has any right to dictate what you buy.

Just break them in in plenty of time, converse can be a bastard!

Why can't you choose your own shoes? I guess she wants everyone to look 'good' and matchy in the photos....yawn!