Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

In feeling that my friend is being a bit unfair here?

420 replies

WilburIsSomePig · 07/03/2018 20:01

I worked with someone until they left my current employer last year. We became really good friends while we worked together and I was gutted when she left, but she felt it was a good move for her. We still each other a couple of times a month and chat/message every couple of days.

The company I work for is closing down in June and I, along with everyone else, am being made redundant. I've started looking for alternative employment as my redundancy won't be much and my role is not particularly common so I feel I need to get looking asap.

I told my friend about a job that another friend told me about at a great company and that I've applied for it, I have an interview on Friday. It's perfect for me, close to home, quite a bit more money and a similar role that I'm doing now - friend agreed that it sounds right up my street and to let her know how I get on. Another colleague at work that she also keeps in touch with told me today that my friend is really unhappy in her job (she's never said anything to me, she tells me it's going great) and that she's applied for the job I told her about. Now, I know that I have no 'right' to stop her applying and I never would, but I just wish she'd have told me. She knows I need another job as I'm losing mine soon. I feel a bit let down.

OP posts:
iheartmichellemallon · 08/03/2018 23:18

Good luck Op.

She's a complete bitch but ignore her if you can & just ace the interview.

ohfourfoxache · 08/03/2018 23:21

Hope it goes well Thanks

Ariela · 08/03/2018 23:42

Speak as an employer, you may well have the advantage in that you are available sooner than she is as you've already been given notice of closure in June so I'm sure your existing employers would be happy for you to leave with shorter than usual notice.

LexieLulu · 08/03/2018 23:50

I really hope you get it, I hope she doesn't get interviewed or cocks up badly!

Either way you've lost a friend from this, so sending you luck for tomorrow 🍀

TheImprobableGirl · 08/03/2018 23:57

Best of luck OP

CuriousMama · 09/03/2018 00:10

Good luck.

Your 'friend's slyasfuck

cambodianfoxhound · 09/03/2018 03:58

She has prioritised herself and her needs over your feelings, your needs (which are immediately greater than hers) and your friendship. She will always do this, she has shown you who she really is. I would always be very wary around her now if this was me.

MintyChops · 09/03/2018 04:49

Good luck with the interview OP, hope you get the job. Your STBXF is a dick.

Bettyfood · 09/03/2018 04:51

Good luck, Wilbur.

I think not contacting her unless she gets in touch is the best way forward.

HettySunshine · 09/03/2018 06:56

Good luck with your interview op. Hopefully the universe will provide 🤞

lovescarbs · 09/03/2018 07:07

Good luck with the interview Op Flowers

IslaMann · 09/03/2018 07:19

Good luck OP

Monny1 · 09/03/2018 07:27

Good luck for today OP for this morning. I am really rooting for you and have my fingers crossed for you, that you get the job.

Catlover97 · 09/03/2018 07:28

Good luck Op, thinking of you today Flowers

WilburIsSomePig · 09/03/2018 07:38

Thank you, you're all so lovely.

I'm ready, just about to leave so that I have plenty of time to grab a drink before I go in. And if I hang around here any longer I'll make myself even more nervous! 😁 Here goes!

OP posts:
gingergenius · 09/03/2018 07:41

Best of luck. Hope you get it. I'd be backing off big time after her last message.

thegreylady · 09/03/2018 07:48

Good Luck
If you message her I would say,”You may have found a new job but you have certainly lost a friend.”

neverhadanymarblestolose · 09/03/2018 07:49

Good luck today!

DrRanjsRightEyebrow · 09/03/2018 07:54

Good luck today OP!

FoxInABox · 09/03/2018 08:00

Good luck OP

SnowOnTheSeine · 09/03/2018 08:06

Best of luck. Keep calm. If this job sounds pefect for you then you'll probably fill all their criteria.

Fingers crossed

TinyTear · 09/03/2018 08:17

Go get them OP!

Lotsalotsagiggles · 09/03/2018 08:20

Let us know how it goes!

SocksRock · 09/03/2018 08:21

I also work in a very small industry and have interviewed for jobs that friends have interviewed for. I don’t think her applying for the job was out of order, per se, but the message she sent you was downright nasty. Good luck for today and I hope you get the job.

SilverBirchTree · 09/03/2018 08:24

You’re NBU OP.

Of course she has a legal right to apply, but it’s still a hurtful and selfish thing to do to you. You told her about the opportunity in confidence, not so she could use that information against you.

She’s been very sly.

I’m sorry this happened, I hope you get the job anyway.

Swipe left for the next trending thread