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In feeling that my friend is being a bit unfair here?

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WilburIsSomePig · 07/03/2018 20:01

I worked with someone until they left my current employer last year. We became really good friends while we worked together and I was gutted when she left, but she felt it was a good move for her. We still each other a couple of times a month and chat/message every couple of days.

The company I work for is closing down in June and I, along with everyone else, am being made redundant. I've started looking for alternative employment as my redundancy won't be much and my role is not particularly common so I feel I need to get looking asap.

I told my friend about a job that another friend told me about at a great company and that I've applied for it, I have an interview on Friday. It's perfect for me, close to home, quite a bit more money and a similar role that I'm doing now - friend agreed that it sounds right up my street and to let her know how I get on. Another colleague at work that she also keeps in touch with told me today that my friend is really unhappy in her job (she's never said anything to me, she tells me it's going great) and that she's applied for the job I told her about. Now, I know that I have no 'right' to stop her applying and I never would, but I just wish she'd have told me. She knows I need another job as I'm losing mine soon. I feel a bit let down.

OP posts:
Elend · 09/03/2018 18:49

YAAAAAASSSSS slap it up ye CF friend, ya dick

FrogsSpawnofSanta · 09/03/2018 18:51

Congratulations WineGrin

birdlover1977 · 09/03/2018 18:51

Congratulations!!! I’m so pleased for you Star

bonnyshide · 09/03/2018 18:51

Well done! Great to see that nice guys do, in fact, finish last!

Motoko · 09/03/2018 18:52

I GOT THE JOB!!!

YES! Well done OP!

Up yours "friend"!

It must be such a relief to you to know that you now have a job to go to, and good that the new place are willing to wait so you don't miss out on the redundancy. Even if it isn't very much, it's bound to come in handy.

Enjoy your evening with your real friend. Wine

CrustyCob · 09/03/2018 18:52

That is marvellous news, I am really pleased for you. Well done, and have a lovely evening Smile

YaBasic · 09/03/2018 18:52

ah well done OP Flowers

BSintolerant · 09/03/2018 18:54

Congratulations! There's nothing like a bit of poetic justice to start off the weekend.

As for your former friend, it's none of her business is it? Grin

JenTeale · 09/03/2018 18:55

I don't think I've ever been this invested in a thread.

I can breathe again having read your update. Well done!

witherwings · 09/03/2018 18:56

Just rtft, what a rollercoaster of emotions on your behalf op in just half an hour! So pleased you got the job!
As others have said, she isn’t a friend to you. She could have worded the reply back to you completely differently and not offended but she chose to be nasty.

icelollycraving · 09/03/2018 18:56

Amazing, well done!! GinFlowersWine

Crowd · 09/03/2018 18:56

Yay OP! Brilliant news!

lazydog · 09/03/2018 19:00

I am so pleased for you!!!

Sad that your "friend" turned out to be so sly though, obviously... Still, it's better that you know her true colours. I agree with the PPs who have said to just cut all contact. No point in lowering yourself to gloating, but also no way would I want to try to sustain a friendship with someone I knew I could never trust again.

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 09/03/2018 19:00

That's so wonderful! Even without the added extra of giving friend a massive fuck you Smile

ArntNise · 09/03/2018 19:01

Fantastic news :) congratulations on your new job :) xx

FizzyGreenWater · 09/03/2018 19:01

BRILLIANT!!!!!! Grin

Well done OP Flowers

she didn't even get an interview

sweeeeet

Grin

Sorry - I know. Let's be the bigger poster.

BakedBeans47 · 09/03/2018 19:02

Yay!

That’s great news x

IhaveChillyToes · 09/03/2018 19:02

WONDERFUL NEWS - CONGRATULATIONS
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fuzzywuzzy · 09/03/2018 19:03

Congratulations Wilbur. So so so pleased for you.

Been checking thread throughout the day 😆

Freyanna · 09/03/2018 19:06

Fantastic news, so happy for you. X

YellowFlower201 · 09/03/2018 19:07

Yey!!! Well done!

Lillyringlet · 09/03/2018 19:07

Yay! Congratulations!

ChikiTIKI · 09/03/2018 19:11

Well done. I've been in the same boat lining up a new job for after redundancy and it's a great feeling. Not had a friend do something like that to me before though, I'm really sorry that happened to you.

Enjoy celebrating!!!!!!!!!!

halfwitpicker · 09/03/2018 19:13

Good work!!!

Chin chin Wine

SwissSarah · 09/03/2018 19:14

This is brilliant news! I'm so pleased for you. Enjoy your weekend WineSmile

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