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In feeling that my friend is being a bit unfair here?

420 replies

WilburIsSomePig · 07/03/2018 20:01

I worked with someone until they left my current employer last year. We became really good friends while we worked together and I was gutted when she left, but she felt it was a good move for her. We still each other a couple of times a month and chat/message every couple of days.

The company I work for is closing down in June and I, along with everyone else, am being made redundant. I've started looking for alternative employment as my redundancy won't be much and my role is not particularly common so I feel I need to get looking asap.

I told my friend about a job that another friend told me about at a great company and that I've applied for it, I have an interview on Friday. It's perfect for me, close to home, quite a bit more money and a similar role that I'm doing now - friend agreed that it sounds right up my street and to let her know how I get on. Another colleague at work that she also keeps in touch with told me today that my friend is really unhappy in her job (she's never said anything to me, she tells me it's going great) and that she's applied for the job I told her about. Now, I know that I have no 'right' to stop her applying and I never would, but I just wish she'd have told me. She knows I need another job as I'm losing mine soon. I feel a bit let down.

OP posts:
appleblossomtree · 09/03/2018 18:33

Congratulations. What a lovely post!

WilburIsSomePig · 09/03/2018 18:34

'Friend' wasn't one of the other interviewees, but I don't know why.

I'm so relieved!

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olympicsrock · 09/03/2018 18:34

Brilliant! Sadly you will never view this woman as a friend again. Still lovely new job to meet new friends.!

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 09/03/2018 18:35

Woohoo! In you face, ex-friend!!!

Very well done, OP - enjoy your short redundancy too.

scotchpie · 09/03/2018 18:35

Delighted for you OP, I bet your ex mate didn't even get an interview which she will now deny ever applying for (or pulling out at the last minute.

What a 🐄

Slartybartfast · 09/03/2018 18:35

So relieved and happy for a mnetter!
and wonder if your friend went for the job after all?

WilburIsSomePig · 09/03/2018 18:36

I'm not getting back in touch with friend now Wilberforce, there doesn't seem any point really and I don't want to sound like I'm gloating. I don't think there's much else to say now.

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WilburIsSomePig · 09/03/2018 18:38

The friend who told me about the job is coming round and bringing wine!

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StepAwayFromGoogle · 09/03/2018 18:38

Well done, OP, that's karma working at it's best. And 'friend' didn't even get an interview. Marvellous.

Ellendegeneres · 09/03/2018 18:39

Yaaaay! Brilliant! Congratulations!

Mitzimaybe · 09/03/2018 18:39

Congratulations OP! I've never met you but I've got a huge smile on my face, I'm so pleased for you.

Mitzimaybe · 09/03/2018 18:40

Make sure you get it in writing, though - the July start date etc.

GinghamStyle · 09/03/2018 18:40

Congratulations! What a great outcome!!

If "friend" messages when she hears it from your lady at work asking why you've not told her please do remind her it's non of her business 😂

WineAndTiramisu · 09/03/2018 18:40

Congratulations! Glad you got the job, I'd certainly be keeping well away from your "friend" now she's shown her true colours.

EeeSheWasThin · 09/03/2018 18:41

I’ve just read the whole thing, so pleased for you! Congratulations!

snawdays · 09/03/2018 18:42

brilliant - happy to read this - sad your friend turned out to be no friend at all though.

FlyingFordAnglia · 09/03/2018 18:42

I read this when you first posted and felt so bad for you, especially after the response from your ‘friend’. I didn’t realise your interview was today. I’m so pleased you got the job! Well done op!!

aussielivingabroad · 09/03/2018 18:43

That's fabulous news, massive congratulations & 🖕to your friend. Have a fun time celebrating x

Blatherskite · 09/03/2018 18:43

Congratulations op Gin Flowers

Gained a job, got your redundancy pay and lost a frenemy. All in all, a good day

jay55 · 09/03/2018 18:45

Brilliant news. So glad it is all working out.

Nikephorus · 09/03/2018 18:46

Cool Wine

Curtainshopping · 09/03/2018 18:46

Yaaay!! Great news, well done you!!!!

I think you’re right to say nothing to her. It’s more dignified.

gingertigercat · 09/03/2018 18:47

Yes op!!!!

I am thrilled for you! Well done!

ShmooBooMoo · 09/03/2018 18:48

Message your 'friend' the best candidate won...no hard feelings, eh? Then have nothing to do with the sly mare! Congratulations OP! Wine Wine

GinandGingerBeer · 09/03/2018 18:48

Yes! Well fucking done!
I am ridiculously pleased for you. 💐🍾
Now all you need to do is make sure word gets back to her that you got it.

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