Mumsnet Vs Real life.

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Inspired by a comment on an active thread at the moment. The comment was along the lines of
"Only on mumsnet would you be advised this"

I've also seen it on a few threads where posters point out that only mumsnet would you be given this advice and never in real life.

So what advice/tips do you see mentioned on Mumsnet that you just don't think would be said in real life.

I'll start!
You can guarantee a poster will give the advice that OP needs to pack his bags and kick him out, on something really minor. They don't suggest being an adult and have a conversation first, it's straight away pack his bags and show him the door.

What other Mumsnet pearls of wisdom do we have?

OP: Someone sent me a message on Facebook!

MN: Block and blank.

RL: Ok. Is that a problem?

Dalek, I was just thinking that!

yolo
You do realise that that's probably now the beginning of the end of this thread because toilets discussions ruin threads.

Well ladies, if the bun fight turns up it's been a good thread so far.

I agree Yolo, as someone who does have a 'legit' reason to use the disabled accessible toilets.

People fail to realise they're disability accessible toilets. They're not solely marked off for people with a disability, they're designed to be inclusive of everyone.

I wouldn't choose to use one if I could help it but feel zero guilt using it when I need to.

People also forgot how many people have invisible disabilities they may need that space for! For example emptying a colostomy bag, knowing you're going to have an awful explosion due to crohns or IBS, needing the loo and the sink in the same space if you have incredibly heavy periods and know you've leaked and need to clean up, all sorts.

My reason is an invisible one and I'd give someone hell if they tried to have a go at me for using a wheelchair accessible toilet without a wheelchair.

MN: I hate vomit.... I’m unable to deal with it, I’m emetophobic.

IRL: I hate vomit...Much as I hate it, when my child’s sick, I have to steel myself and deal with it.

“People fail to realise they're disability accessible toilets. They're not solely marked off for people with a disability, they're designed to be inclusive of everyone.”

Not arguing the point but if they were inclusive, why would some be locked and could only be accessed with someone with a fob?

Op: My friend posted a (perfectly innocent) photo of her DS and my DS on FB.

MN: How dare she! It completely unacceptable to create a digital footprint for my child as they’re not in a position to object! Who knows what nonces might get hold of it!

IRL: Aww, what a lovely photo of them at the park.

Good point ShiftyMcGifty! I suppose I'm talking about the ones that are clearly open to everyone and don't need a key. A key does clearly mean only people possessing a key can use it. In which case those particular toilets actually are specifically for disabled people only. The rest are for anybody.

Having spoken to people in shops etc about the radar key ones I've been told it's often because of people using them to shoot up and leaving them unsanitary/dangerous for the next user and After enough incidents where someone with little choice but to use those toilets couldn't due to the conditions they decided to implement the radar scheme. Which I think it's sad but totally understandable, I could go find any number of other loos within a mile radius whereas someone in a wheelchair would find that much harder.

Op: A new Mum came up to me at the school gate and started a conversation.

MN: How weird to come up to someone and start speaking! I’m an introvert and Idon’t drop my kids off to socialise. I’d have told the nosy cow to fuck the fuck off and mind her own fucking business!

IRL: That’s nice. What was she like?

OP: My child's teacher has obvious favourites. All the special roles/opportunities/rewards go to a few children, while others are overlooked. (Followed by description of how it happens)

MN: You need to teach your child they can't win all the time / Someone's got a chip on their shoulder / No teacher would do this.

RL: Yeah, it's shit when that happens.

OP: My parents/in-laws favour their other grandchildren over my children. (Followed by evidence.. etc)

MN: That's terrible! Your children will notice. It will really damage them. You need to cut off contact with parents/in-laws.

RL: Yeah, it's shit when that happens.

Surely more people have experience of teacher favouritism than grandparent favouritism. Why is the former so difficult to believe, but no one seems to have difficulty believing the latter?

PoorYorick That thread turned nuttier than a snickers!

Yeah, it's shit when that happens

Always that ^ may be people say in real life about the teacher stuff that doesn’t mean that’s what they actually think^.

I second the decent wage being 40k.
In my dreams 🙄 what jobs do these people have?

The 'D' acronyms also get on my nerves.

In real life, "go NC" is never suggested as an option, especially for close relatives with slightly irritating behaviour.

On MN, 98% of mother-in-laws have narcissistic personality disorder. In real life, it's extremely rare.

Every 'DH' "works long hours in a demanding role."

Only on MN does "admin" and "booking appointments" take up a significant proportion of a SAHM's time.

Ah yes. All that "house admin" that normally takes 5 minutes, takes 5 hours a day....

Yes to household admin!

My house admin does take hours... Because I do fifty bazillion other jobs on the way to the paperwork drawer, only to find the relevant piece isn't in there, so hunt through piles of junk sat around on the side, filing this away as I go, find the disappeared piles have left noticeably clean patches on the unit so wipe down the rest... I could go on, but all this typing is cutting into my admin time...

Areyousureaboutthat sounds like if you get rid of the piles of junk they might stop waylaying you all the time 😂

Household chores in themselves take eleventy billion times longer as a SAHP. Ringing thr Drs takes longer if you make the call at home. Replying to school trip letters isn't school trip letters, it's 'household admin'.

I get chores can take longer having kids around to entertain, but only on MN have I seen SAHP argue that they are a cook and a cleaner and a taxi driver and an admin assistant etc and hear the phrase 'add up what it would cost your DP if he had to pay for all your work'.
I tidy my house... but it's not a cleaner's standard.
I cook meals... but i'm not a chef.

Equally, It's only on MN that I've only ever seen SAHM argue they are only responsible for childcare and that all other jobs should be 50/50 with the WOHP. (Unless the SAHP is Dad, in which case Dad better have the whole house in shape every day otherwise he is a cocklodger)

RL - SAHP sort the kids out, generally do the lion's share of house stuff and anything that doesn't get done gets split. People get on with life.

Not arguing the point but if they were inclusive, why would some be locked and could only be accessed with someone with a fob? I always thought they were locked because due to their size they can be a good location for junkies/dealers to hang out, sex workers to do their business, cottaging etc.

The other thing that happens on S&B is how cutting out entire food groups solves all skin ills. Spots? Just cut out dairy (mine are hormonal, I don't eat dairy at all because I am lactose intolerant), go vegan, drink litres of water.
Cutting out dairy and wheat improves 2 skin conditions I have - I don't give a shit whether it is scientifically proven, it works for me and quite a few others and I am forever grateful to the person who suggested it to me.
Science has no answer for how to put my skin conditions into long term remission without using expensive immuno-suppressant drugs with horrible side affects and that only work while you are taking them. Alternatively plastic surgeons will offer to remove large sections of the offending skin in the hope that the new skin that grows back will be healthy - it isn't always - recovery from such a surgery is agony and can take up to 2 years.....so if you don't mind too much - I'll stick with my diet which works and save the NHS quite a bit of money!

For fucks sake.

How hard is it to understand that disabled toilets are for people with disabilities, unless they have a sign saying that they double up as a baby change (which they shouldn't)?

It's a really simple concept.

Maisy, could have written that myself.

The chidcare comments really wind me up too, it's not childcare but parenting likewise dads don't babysit they parent. You'd never think that it was a choice to be a parent the way some describe it.

MN The school has dared book a visit, trip, visitor etc and actually expect me to pay.

RL How lovely for the children, I've already sent my letter back and paid

Discussions about interactions with people in RL seem exaggerated on here.

"An old man screamed abuse at me on the bus because my child laughed"

"A lady shouted abuse at me because my child dropped her colouring pencil in a restaurant"

Etc.

I'm out and about a lot and have never witnessed anyone being "screamed" at
On public transport for anything.

Or seen anyone shouting at/being shouted at in a restaurant.

Cutting out dairy and wheat improves 2 skin conditions I have
so what? Removing wheat when you are coeliac or injecting insuline when you are diabetic works, it doesn't mean we should advise everyone to do it