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Ridiculous parenting advice

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GreasyHairDoNotCare · 05/03/2018 12:29

Aibu to ask you what the most ridiculous bit of parenting advice that you've ever been given is?

I can think of a few but these stand out to me

'It's good for him to cry like that, gets the air to his lungs, leave him for a while'- DS was screaming with teething pain and wanted comforting

'Can't you just lay him in the bath, he'll hold his breath obviously' - no DS will drown if I do that

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LadySainsburySeal · 08/03/2018 09:04

Late FIL: leave her in her cot with a baby monitor nearby so you can both go to the pub - you'll hear if she wakes
: don't buy baby food/purée food, just feed her a can of soup (!)
Ex MIL : you should leave her in the pram outside the shop and not clutter the shop up
Hmm

jac67 · 08/03/2018 09:37

MIL told me off for letting my daughter play with cars etc boys toys because it would confuse here and let her think she could do what she wanted later in life.

BustopherJones · 08/03/2018 10:33

Early potty training was the norm in the UK/US until about the 50s. Combination of new nappies being available and research from child specialists changed it. The holding of babies over the potty is associated with bladder problems later in life from some research - same as not fully emptying the bladder I think.

It’s coming back in here amongst certain groups of parents - so you get the blw lot who think baby led potty training is nonsense.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 08/03/2018 10:49

Having my 3rd DC with a 12 year gap really opened my eyes. I had forgotten so much about caring for under 1s. I struggled with breastfeeding, when/how to start feeding solids, whilst juggling with older children - the whole lot. And things had moved on in that decade, new information on ways to do things, peanut allergies etc. So I think advice from people out of the loop needs to be vetted. And I'm going to bear that in mind before I give advice about grandchildren (when they ask me for it)

Jadebelfield123 · 08/03/2018 15:45

Told repeatedly by my mil that my eight week old baby had a ‘bad temper’ and she was worried about his behaviour. In reality, Ds had cmpa and bad reflux and must have been in a lot of discomfort as a baby. She now says ds2 is much calmer and puts that down to him being more like his dad than me and his brother (the fact that ds2 does not have cmpa or reflux seemingly doesn’t factor into it)

curlilox · 08/03/2018 17:25

Back in 1982, when my son was a few weeks old, my Mum's next door neighbour said "You're not still breastfeeding are you? Get him on condensed milk and water!" Needless to say I ignored her.

KochabRising · 08/03/2018 17:27

Any advice that begins ..’just..’

Just put them down to sleep
Just leave them to cry.
Etc

gingergenius · 08/03/2018 17:29

@steppemum I understand how that would work in a tropical/warm climate. Northern climates just don't lend themselves to that method I think?

BustopherJones · 08/03/2018 17:38

Kochab JUST tell her ‘No’ - I’d never thought of that!

I know a few nappy free types - they were obviously not blessed with babies who like mine like to poop while I’m feeding them...

Spam88 · 08/03/2018 17:43

bustopher mine pooed every time I fed her for a good few weeks so that would have been messy! As it was she pooed over me, my nightie and the monitors that were still attached to me within minutes of being born anyway.

BustopherJones · 08/03/2018 17:50

What a start to motherhood, Spam!

Wellfuckmeinbothears · 08/03/2018 19:06

@April...seriously cannot get over that...he had never seen or touched a lady garden?!

With my dd 14 years ago;
“Give we some rusk mixed with formula, she’ll sleep through” at 6 weeks old

“You won’t be able to breastfeed, you’re too young and she’s a big baby” I was 15 and dd was 8lb at birth...how on earth did young mothers feed their babies years ago when getting pregnant at 14 was the norm and formula wasn’t invented?!

“She’s crying for attention, just ignore it” dd was born with tetralogy of fallots, letting her cry would have killed her.

Wellfuckmeinbothears · 08/03/2018 19:08

*her not we!

Doboopedoo · 08/03/2018 19:47

HV at six week check, when I questioned the clear liquid that would come out if DD’s mouth - ‘that’s just those adorable chubby cheeks and the saliva building up in them and coming out. Like a hamster!’

Or - it’s actually silent reflux, and later diagnosed with CMPA? Poor wee thing hated being on her tummy until diagnosed at 9 months, must have been in pain.

(HV has been great at helping work out other things, like her poor eyesight, but I can’t believe I believed that one at first!)

kyph09 · 08/03/2018 19:57

Doboopedoo - what was the clear liquid if it wasn’t saliva then? SIlent reflux means that no fluid is brought up

BoobleMcB · 08/03/2018 21:19

Don't vaccinate, it causes autism

kind of sorry kind of not

NinaMarieP · 08/03/2018 21:58

For my 7m old who had only been on solids for 1 month: "he doesn't need so much milk now. Just give him his lunch [solids] and don't feed him [milk]."

Right, I'll just let him cry with hunger for a couple of hours then? Confused

StrangeLookingParasite · 08/03/2018 22:42

don’t tickle his feet you’ll make him into a transvestite

Good. Grief.

kooshbin · 08/03/2018 23:08

These examples are all quite believable, but I got similar "advice" back in the 1970s, so it's somewhat alarming that some stupidity is still doing the rounds, especially around infant feeding.

One thing I recall my mother advising is that I should take a spoonful of castor oil every day, because that lubricated the baby, hence why she had easy births because the baby just slid out.

cheshiremama89 · 09/03/2018 04:45

Had one yesterday off my grandma

If his poos are too green he is hungry

MrsDx · 09/03/2018 06:13

@myimaginarycathasfleas Is this not slightly true though...?

EssentialHummus · 09/03/2018 14:10

I understand how that would work in a tropical/warm climate. Northern climates just don't lend themselves to that method I think?

Ginger MIL did it in Arctic USSR where DH was born, BIL / SIL did it in Russia - it was/is fairly widespread.

LuLutheLobster · 09/03/2018 16:24

I have one!

My DGMs were obsessed about baby's ears and noses.
When DS1 was born his ears were a bit like a bat (in a cute way) as they were unrolling from being squished. It was the first thing she commented on and everytime I spoke to her kept asking if his ears are normal yet "because if they stick out you will have to tape them flat to his head until he's bigger so he doesn't grow up with sticky outy ears" Hmm

Also was told not to squeeze his nose with my fingers too much as her DGF used to do that to her and now she's got a pointy beak nose Grin

cadburyegg · 09/03/2018 16:42

Midwife when DS1 was 5 days old, “you need to move his crib away so he’s not so close to you because he can smell your milk. It’s like me trying to sleep next to a bar of Dairy Milk”

My mother when DS1 was a newborn , “you need to keep him awake during the day and he’ll sleep better at night”

MIL, also at same time “soon he can juice and a bit of rusk then he won’t need milk” FFS.

Aprilmightmemynewname · 09/03/2018 16:58

Would be interested in a poll to see if anybody on here had actually got square eyes from watching too much TV as a dc......

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