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Colleague left me stranded in the snow

469 replies

pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 16:42

Work alongside a colleague, I currently have no car and have been one of the only few people to get into work with all this bad snow. Today, we got the go ahead to go home and she has dropped me off to the closest train station. There is one train showing up as running in the opposite direction, no staff here at the station and no one available to collect me.

AIBU to think she could have driven the 20 minutes to drop me home (she has a 4x4)???

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TheHolidayArmadillo · 02/03/2018 18:53

Good for you. My FIL's 20 minute drive home took him 2.5 hours yesterday.

NSEA · 02/03/2018 18:54

She didn’t leave tou stranded. She took you to a train station to get a train home. That’s a nice thing to do.

thecatsthecats · 02/03/2018 18:54

Electric - just wanted to appreciate the Shap Fell reference!

ButchyRestingFace · 02/03/2018 18:55

You don't have to travel by train to know most of them are being cancelled in this weather.

And yet OP, who does travel by train, didn't know it. As evidenced by her reliance on the train app.

And not a word of objection appears to have come out of her mouth to colleague's offer to drop her at the train station.

So how can you reasonable expect the colleague to know the trains weren't running when the OP didn't? Confused

Appuskidu · 02/03/2018 18:57

You wouldn't be setting foot in my car ever again if I was your coworker and got wind of you acting like this!

Snap. I would be actually requesting not to work/drive with you any more if working with you made me responsible for getting you delivered to your doorstep at the end of a day. I hope-if this thread is real-she reads this and recognises you.

Can you answer the question that many many people have asked-how did you get to work this morning?

How did you think you would be getting home in the snow?

dayandnightshapes · 02/03/2018 18:57

Clearly the colleague didn't want to drive an extra 40 minutes so didn't offer. Assumed the trains were running as it didn't say otherwise, job done.
No one thought to doublecheck trains etc. Just a bit unfortunate. No one is at fault. But yabu for being annoyed at colleague. She probably wanted to get home herself and felt a working train was adequate enough transport for you

MiniEggMeister · 02/03/2018 18:58

Why is no one concerned the colleague herself may have ended up stranded? Or does only the ops safety matter?

MadMags · 02/03/2018 18:59

So, OP didn’t check the trains properly.

OP managed to do her job all day while pregnant.

OP never said anything in response to colleague saying she’d drop her at the station.

Colleague possibly would have had to spent literally hours extra in dangerous conditions on the road after driving all day.

But colleague is unreasonable...

YellowMakesMeSmile · 02/03/2018 19:03

Why didn't your partner fetch you?

How did you get home usually? With that entitled attitude I wouldn't be driving you anywhere.

AJPTaylor · 02/03/2018 19:04

if had spent all day driving and a colleague asked to be dropped at the station i would do so.
if they told me there was no trains i would offer a lift to my house so they can make arrangements

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 02/03/2018 19:04

Home now after an awful journey

1.5 hours between your opening post and your update, including time to get home and settled enough to go on MN. Awful journey, huh?

You really are very entitled.

ButchyRestingFace · 02/03/2018 19:05

Why is no one concerned the colleague herself may have ended up stranded? Or does only the ops safety matter?

Because the colleague isn't posting to AIBU saying that she got stranded/dumped/buried in a snowdrift after being given the evil eye by a mysteriously irate, preggie colleague she'd just dropped off at the train station.

If and when she does, well, there's more than enough humphy wee faces Hmm to go round.

Livelounge · 02/03/2018 19:06

😂😂 at the "I'm pregnant" card!

Appuskidu · 02/03/2018 19:07

You don't have to travel by train to know most of them are being cancelled in this weather.

I don’t travel by train at all but DH has got the train in and out of work most days this week, so it’s not totally surprising that trains are still operating.

It’s part of the job to get the non driver of the day somewhere reasonable/agreed.

Is that what the OP said-is that’s how it’s works?!

I really hope I never have to work in that sort of role as the driver then. Not only do they have to be the one responsible for driving someone around all day, they then have to drop them somewhere agreed (that’s rather open to interpretation and substantial costs!) afterwards.

I hope the driver gets paid substantially more than the one who is driven around, plus additional money for mileage and wear and tear on their vehicle!

Namechangearoo · 02/03/2018 19:09

Loving the “and I’m pregnant” update to try and elicit a bit more sympathy 😂

Agree with most of the others. You’re being unreasonable and childish to think otherwise.

NaiceBiscuits · 02/03/2018 19:10

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TrustNaeFuckerEver · 02/03/2018 19:11

Why is no one concerned the colleague herself may have ended up stranded? Or does only the ops safety matter?

I posted earlier in the thread that I hoped her colleague got home safely.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 02/03/2018 19:11

You are sounding quite entitled and unreasonable OP.

TheDailyMailLovesTheEUReally · 02/03/2018 19:16

Well I am glad you got home safely.

But your attitude is very unreasonable. Is your colleague supposed to be a mind reader and know that the train app was wrong? A 20 minute detour to get you home is a 40 minute delay for her, not including the extra time needed for road conditions today.

And as for the "I'm pregnant" update being dropped in...

OhCalamity · 02/03/2018 19:17

If my colleague had dropped me to where I commute from I'd be grateful. I'd never expect them to sit and wait until my scheduled transport has arrived.

I am an adult, and they presumably have plenty to do other than babysit a functioning adult.

If my transport failed to show up, I would either get a taxi, or ring my partner to collect me.

Your colleague and you both are presumably doing the exact same job, except she additionally has to drive you both to each location. In poor conditions. She then additionally drove you to the train station where as far as you both were concerned, the trains appeared to be running. She had no reason to believe you would have difficulty getting home and probably was more worried that she'd get stranded on a bad road alone. You really can't blame her for this OP.

Do you know if she got home ok?

FrancisCrawford · 02/03/2018 19:19

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Original poster
pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 19:20

I waited at the train station freezing cold for an hour, then got a train to the next train station, where I waited 10 minutes luckily for another, then a 40 minute walk when I’m 30 weeks pregnant. Not great

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Dipitydoda · 02/03/2018 19:21

She prob wanted to get herself home ASAP as it was bad enough to get sent home she might be nervous driving in the snow, it doesn’t matter what she was driving if visibility was bad. Maybe you should have rung a taxi

Nicknacky · 02/03/2018 19:22

Why didn’t you phone a taxi?

FrancisCrawford · 02/03/2018 19:22

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