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Original poster

Colleague left me stranded in the snow

469 replies

pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 16:42

Work alongside a colleague, I currently have no car and have been one of the only few people to get into work with all this bad snow. Today, we got the go ahead to go home and she has dropped me off to the closest train station. There is one train showing up as running in the opposite direction, no staff here at the station and no one available to collect me.

AIBU to think she could have driven the 20 minutes to drop me home (she has a 4x4)???

OP posts:
wrenika · 02/03/2018 19:23

It's not your colleagues responsibility to drive you home. You shouldn't expect her to have done so. You're a grown adult - act like one.

TheHolidayArmadillo · 02/03/2018 19:23

You're not her responsibility though. No, it's not great. But your commute home is your look out. If you knew in advance that the trains would be bad, you could have said "actually would you mind giving me a lift home?". You could have got yourself a taxi at any point. Again, she's not a fucking psychic.

RebelRogue · 02/03/2018 19:23

You could've rang a taxi or ordered an uber. Or rang partner/mum/friend.
If you really want to be annoyed,be annoyed at the train company for not updating their app with accurate information.
She left you at a train station (which supposedly had trains running) not in the middle of fucking nowhere at 3 am.

Original poster
pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 19:23

To the people who are saying I’m unreasonable, I have gone out of my way every day this week to make things easier for her as she’s doing the driving this week. This means I’ve done so much standing around freezing cold just to make it easier for her as she lives 5 minutes from work.

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Dermymc · 02/03/2018 19:24

Calm the fuck down.

Literally everyone is having shit journeys, pregnant or not.

You are alive and you made it home in under 2 hours.

That is more than some people will this evening.

You got out of the car without saying anything. She isn't a mind reader.

TheHolidayArmadillo · 02/03/2018 19:24

But you didn't bloody say to her!

Appuskidu · 02/03/2018 19:24

Not great

Not your colleague’s fault though!

Why aren’t you driving?

Dermymc · 02/03/2018 19:24

Does she always drive?

Mxyzptlk · 02/03/2018 19:25

Not great, but not your colleague's fault.

Original poster
pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 19:25

Yesterday she was 40 minutes late to collect me after demanding I arrive at 8.30am and left me stood there freezing as she was watching television and lost track of time

OP posts:
UnsuspectedItem · 02/03/2018 19:25

YABU. Sorry, OP.

Dermymc · 02/03/2018 19:25

Why was she collecting you though.

RebelRogue · 02/03/2018 19:25

And?
It's not tit for tat. Or did you expect her to drive for every minute you waited in the cold this week?

She was nice back and drove you to your train station! It's not her fault trains aren't running and the app wasn't accurate.

TheHolidayArmadillo · 02/03/2018 19:26

You still didn't say anything. Fucks sake.

Original poster
pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 19:26

No she doesn’t. She crashed her company vehicle 2 weeks ago so is using her car for a few weeks and being re imbursed mileage

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Original poster
pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 19:26

Collecting me? I met her this morning for work

OP posts:
Appuskidu · 02/03/2018 19:27

To the people who are saying I’m unreasonable, I have gone out of my way every day this week to make things easier for her as she’s doing the driving this week. This means I’ve done so much standing around freezing cold just to make it easier for her as she lives 5 minutes from work.

How exactly have you mde her life easier?

How does standing around cold help her?

Original poster
pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 19:28

It doesn’t but she’s treated me like crap this week. I’ve made her life easier by getting the train to the station closest to her house, despite this not being the closest station to our working location (which was closer to my home)

OP posts:
kaytee87 · 02/03/2018 19:28

Drip drip drip

If it was only a 20 minute drive from the train station did you not think to try a taxi?

RebelRogue · 02/03/2018 19:29

All the back story is irrelevant. None of it changes the fact that you weren't STRANDED in the snow.
Or makes it her responsibility to check train apps and times to make sure YOU can get home. She just as easily could've dropped you off at work.

Taylor22 · 02/03/2018 19:29

Looks like it's time for you to adult and get your own car to drive yourself about.

TrustNaeFuckerEver · 02/03/2018 19:30

Not great

Plan better.

Surely you could have got a taxi from the station to avoid a 40 minute walk?

Alternatively get a job with some of the Saint Lift-Home of the Internets posting here who claim they would have taken you home/sat around waiting for your train to arrive etc. Of course talk is cheap, and words on the screen cheaper still, so there's no guarantee any of them would actually have done it in a real life situation.

There's been some good advice here about better ways to check train times than Trainline.

Glad you're home and safe but blaming this on your colleague is very unreasonable. I hope you don't let this affect your working relationship with her, she did nothing wrong.

YellowMakesMeSmile · 02/03/2018 19:30

Is she contracted to fetch you? If not, you've not made her life easier at all.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 02/03/2018 19:30

Oh, one of those.

OP: AIBU
Nearly everybody: Yes.
OP: NO I'M NOT

VenusOfWillendorf · 02/03/2018 19:31

If it was just a 20 min drive, why didnt you just take a taxi?

If you didnt ask to be dropped home, and both of you thought the trains were running, I cant see what your colleague did wrong.

But sorry you had such a miserable journey and hope you get warmed and rested soon.

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