*For example, my parents are dead. I still see friends whose parents are alive. I still enquire as to how they are doing?
I have single (not by choice) friends, they still enquire after their friends partners/husbands.
Please don't throw things at me, but I don't get why the op is getting a hard time and being described as insensitive.*
I have nursed my beloved dying mother, and held her hand as she died
Infertility and miscarriage, and coming to terms with the fact we can't have children, has been far more emotionally traumatic
With my mum, there was a certainty. She was terminally ill, it was devastating, but we had to accept it. When she died she wasn't coming back. We had to grieve and try to find a new sense of normal.
With infertility it's a never ending misery of hope and hopelessness. You can never give up on the dream of finally one day becoming a mother. Or the agony of other people having what you long for so deeply. And which serves as a reminder that they can do what you cannot. We all die. We are supposed to die. We are supposed to be able to bear children if we so choose. Not being able to have a child has ripped through the core of my heart and my sense of self
I unfollowed most of my friends with young children on instagram, as the stream of happy families was too painful. I withdrew from most of my friends, as I just couldn't face interacting with the world. I only wanted to speak to other women going through infertility. It was all consuming. And desperately lonely
As the saying goes, the despair I can deal with, it's the hope that kills me