Neighbour wants me to take her to shops.

[SugarPlumLairy]

So... school is closed, our road got gritted two days ago but it seems to have all gone with yesterday's snow, so now so we're all properly snowed in and iced up with an amber warning for further snow.

Just let dog into garden (we are not going to park in this weather!) and NDN has popped out and said she really needs to go shop and can I take her? Now.

Her husband drives, not sure if he has gone to work as trains have been disrupted, we aren't far from shops, normally I will drop her off but..... in THIS weather? I feel awful for saying no but don't fancy slipping/sliding past the double parked cars for a loaf of bread (ok prob a bit more than a loaf).

AIBU, I mumbled no sorry and at that point dog shot back in having had the world's fastest pee, she didn't say anything just looked shocked/upset ? And I'm holed up watching the snow still coming down and feeling like evil cow for resigning NDN to slow cold death by starvation as I wouldn't take her to shops 🙄😱

So am I Evil Monster (EM) or is she CF ?

Can’t she just walk to the shop and get what she can carry? She’s going to have to get to work somehow - can’t she just do it on the way?

Good grief!! I had imagined a little old lady who is immobile and in diffculties!! Following your updates, they can FUCK RIGHT OFF!! Stupid, lazy and entitled!

What an absolute cheeky fucker. I wouldn't be doing any more lifts to the shop etc in the future either. If she's that desperate, she can get a taxi. They'll be harder to get in shit weather but that's life.

OP had just gone round to her neighbour’s house (presumably dressed) and been told her husband is at home. I wondered if the OP said yes or no!

Apologies for wanting to know the conclusion to a thread.

OP, tell her about this great initiative called online supermarket delivery. She chooses all her food online and a nice driver in a van with thick tyres drives it out to her.

She doesn't get to demand that you take her to get a "batten down the hatches" shop when you've already had the snow for two days, have a child with SEN and she has a driver in the house. Nerve of the woman.

Appuskidu, omg has that name got anything to do with the song about sardines? "In middle ocean, sardines are swimming, appuskiduski, appuskidu...." I have been trying to locate words for that for YEARS !

Re convo with neighbour, got dressed, went round, opened (stupidly) with Hi, look I'm so sorry didn't mean to appear rude etc... she was a bit cold ( not as cold as me on doorstep!) I said I wasn't driving reminded her off the time hubby had a car plough into back of him( in his car ) in snow and that it made me nervous and she gave me a guilt trip about not having supplies, worried about being housebound for next few days etc, and I was starting to feel bad saying well maybe later, if more cars use road it might clear up the snow a bit and perhaps might reconsider and that's when her husband coughs and I look up then at her and said "oh (his name) is home? Is he not well?" And she volunteered the stuff about lie in 😱 I mean omg, if she'd said he was ill that would've been nail in my coffin, I'd have taken her to shops but a lie in?! So ther was a brief silence and I said oh well he'll probably feel able to take after his lie in, the roads will be clearer then, glad it's all worked out for everyone" gave a stupid smile and said my goodbyes.

I am a freaking idiot 😩

She doesn't work or drive, we are both SAHMS, her lad is several years older than my DD with no additional needs, they are nice enough. As far as I know she does the odd delivery shop, walks down or comes with me for shopping. She's very charming/funny a nice NDN, this morning totally threw me .

Sorry if I've left anything out, not meaning to drip feed, just a funny old morning and bit distracted by it all.

Definitely verging on CF territory.
We have snow here, ndn saw me being dragged home by the dog after a walk/ slide round this morning and threw the door open to see if I would " just pop to the shops as I was obviously off work".
I am off work because I'm due to have an invasive cardiac test today.
I'm not driving due to the cardiac issue.
She is 20 years younger than me , fit and well. But y' know because I have a car in my drive it must be my duty to get her shopping

What a cheeky mare! If she needed to go shopping so badly she should have dragged her DH out if bed to take her or walk!

but for most people (ie, people whose husbands work and have cars)

I have neither a husband nor a car and still manage to keep my cupboards jammed with food! (Am on a low income and get panicky at the thought of not having any food in, even without snow, so I buy extra bits of stuff when it's cheap and squirrel it away.)

Just tell her that you wont be driving anywhere in this weather. Not your responsibility. Shes young and able bodied, she can walk there

she is a CF!

Glad you went round and heard the coughing!

What a cheeky cow! I can't believe she'd give you a guilt trip for not taking her to the shops when her DH is taking the day off and having a lie in I think I'd keep my distance in future. She sounds like a cheeky, entitled piss-taker.

Jeeeezus Gertrude, I wonder if she's related to my NDN 😱

My normal meter is broken. I am always happy to help but maybe I need to pull back because my husband pointed out "how many times have you BEEN helped?" And he's right. I need to sort myself out, NDN may not have meant to be CF, I might be giving them reason to feel entitled. 😒

I have had to make some pretty treacherous car journeys in heavy snow out of necessity and I certainly wouldn't do it for this. She's being a CF.

Be careful she sounds all take take take. If the roads are that good then an online order can come out to her tomorrow or she can get a taxi anytime... start distancing yourself

There is also a child in the house? If the school is closed then the child could go to the shop as they’ll have nothing else to do today? Christ - can no-one do anything for themselves anymore?

Seriously some people are unbelievable!

Firstly she knew we were expecting bad weather so more full her for not preparing for it.

Secondly if her Dh can’t take her why can’t she drive, if she can’t drive then maybe she should take this opportunity to start learning to drive.

Thirdly presumably she knows your Dd has asd/additional need, most people who don’t understand the condition wouldn’t have the cheek to ask the parent to take them shopping when they know the child is at home due to school closure.

I’m in Scotland in the red warning area and it’s knee high so nonwaybwoudninge taking anyone anywhere. I actually don’t think
I’d get the car out. The worst thing is i’m Worried about how much supplies I have as the local shops haven’t had deliveries of milk and bread.

This reminded me of a famous MN CF who begged the neighbor to babysit her kids, because that was the only way she could work. Excep that after a while the free babysitter figured out that CF was not working, but having a lie in and shopping instead.

She doesn't work, doesn't drive, has one older dc who could shop with her, presumably has a TV so she can keep up with the weather forecasts - this snow is hardly a surprise - and her well dh is at home.

Ding dong! CF!

Some people are bonkers.

We've had plenty of warning about this incoming weather...... so for someone young and able bodied not to take heed of it, tough cookies. It's like common sense gets blown away with snow..................

Not verging. Several miles into the heartlands! I used to worry that I was too soft but after reading these sort of threads I realise that Im a callous bitch because it would never occur to me to run a taxi service for young, able-bodied neighbours except in cases of medical emergency.