DSD working as a cam girl

[K1092902]

How would you feel about it?

If she is of age, her body, her choice.

Not a cool Mum no, just maybe not raised to a judgy something and view those who do sex work as somehow less.

@ClaryFray it's not the people that do sex work that are 'less' it's the sex work itself that is 'less'. The whole industry is disgusting, it degrades women, puts them in danger and perpetuates the attitude amongst certain men that that's all women are good for.

I'd be absolutely devastated and wonder where I went wrong.

I would do anything to get her to stop.

Hmmmmm. I'd be ok as long as she had taken great measures to assure her viewers couldn't trace her details in real life.

I'd want to know her long term goals. For example being a cam girl to raise the money to go and do a course to qualify in something is different to just thinking you can do it for the foreseeable and will think of something else when your popularity waned.

I'd talk about how this may affect future plans. Would she ever want to be a school teacher etc which may be put in jeopardy etc

Have you discussed her limits? What if a viewer wanted to meet in real life just to take her shopping etc? What if they were offering a thousand £ for a quick kiss.... it's a slippery slope.....

I do understand why girls do it. It's good money from the comfort of your own home. Great if you're broke and got DC to work around. It's just not really a viable long term career

@kaytee87 or in a world where women's body's are used to sell anything from cars to cheese burgers maybe just maybe the women behind it should get to exploit it for her own gain?

Or maybe she is the one being exploited? Money does not make everything all right you know.

I'd be absolutely disgusted and feel her parents had completely let her down.

And the idea that we should not judge, is a rubbish one. We want the best for our children, so we judge all the time what that means.

@crunchymint being recognised really doesn't matter. My mum has done this since I was about 7 years old - I didn't find out til I was 14 because they were very careful about it. I consider myself a well balanced adult at 28 years old and sex is one of the few things I don't have hang ups about.

I genuinely don't understand why woman who choose to work in the sex industry (and why this doesn't apply to men) are said to have no respect for themselves? Every single person I have come across (and I know a lot) has made an informed choice and usually only carry on if they enjoy it.

Enjoy it? Don't make me laugh. And i do know what I am talking about.

The reason being recognised matters is that it can have an impact on future career choices. And some places you can live, although wrongly, if people find out they will judge. Like the pretty conservative village my FIL lives in.

Not a cool Mum no, just maybe not raised to a judgy something and view those who do sex work as somehow less

For many people who have said they would be horrified, that's really, really not the issue and is fairly reductive.

or in a world where women's body's are used to sell anything from cars to cheese burgers maybe just maybe the women behind it should get to exploit it for her own gain?

No. Many people who object are doing so because this ^ HAS to change. You honestly don't see anything wrong with; 'oh well, I'm seen as a sexualised commodity, better make the most out of it then.'

Our society is saturated with the problem of how women are valued and portrayed AND how boys are being brought up to view women. Shrugging and saying, 'yeah, you're 18, make a few quid out of it,' is tantamount to shoving your head in the sand, putting your fingers in your ears and going 'la la la la...laaaa.'

Just don't call other people 'judgy' for wanting a fairer and equal world for women and all of our children.

And yet it has never affected myself or my brother? And most people in our surprisingly conservative town know about it. My brother is quite high in the chain of command at a respected care facility and it has never come up except in passing; in fact they pretty much begged him to take the promotion because he was genuinely best suited to the job.

I never said you didn't know what you're talking about but I really don't understand your attitude towards it when I have seen so much evidence that what I say is true.

Perhaps your personal experience reflects differently but I have met hundreds of people that work in the industry that do enjoy the work; I don't think my DM would have carried on doing it for 20 years if she didn't.

Why can a woman still not make a choice about her own life and body without fear of reprisal? Why are other people's opinions of how she conducts herself still more important than her own?

Blah blah what if it was your daughter blah blah.

Not the point women and men are already sex workers someone's daughter already is. Focus should be on how to keep them safe and create a working environment with standards of practise like any other job. Sex work needs unionising and decriminilising not judgement and scorn.

Sex work needs unionising and decriminilising not judgement and scorn

I'm not actually seeing judgement of sex workers on this thread. I'm not seeing scorn either.

Debate and disagreement isn't the same as judging.

ive seen a fair bit of judgement

'Id be disgusted'
'devastated'
'let down'

I think that conveys more than worry over someones safety and mental wellbeing. It conveys judgement and horror.

Whilst people are debating and disagreeing sex work is a massive industry without regulation or protection. No other industry is so poorly managed and misunderstood. Not all sex workers need a saviour if anything they could do with some serious advocacy and a hr department

If I had a penny for every story of the woman who paid her university fees by lapdancing/stripping/escorting/cam-girling and was now a university professor/brain surgeon/ CEO then I'd never have to work another day in my life.

Assuming she's an adult and it's entirely her choice to be doing it (ie no controlling DP forcing her into it), I don't think it's any of your damn business to be honest.

You can't expect women to make every single decision in their lives based on good feminism though, can you. It's hypocritical for a start because I bet even the best feminist among us shaves their legs, wears makeup, does more than their fair share of housework or something that could be considered "part of the problem".

So why shouldn't a not-exploited competent woman choose sex work for her own financial gain, or indeed any other reason at all? Or should she martyr herself to Feminism where even most feminists wouldn't? Her choice may not be a feminist one, but whilst it's a legal choice it's hers to make. She may even believe sex work isn't an acceptable occupation and campaign to abolish it, but in the meantime choose to do it anyway. People are complicated like that.

As I have previously work as an ‘exotic dancer’ I’d be pretty bloody hypocritical to be disappointed if my adult step-daughter wanted to do the same.

I'd be devastated.

All those acting as if they wouldn't be bothered by aren't being honest.

The sex industry is controlled by criminal gangs. Lets get real here folks.

The sex industry is controlled by criminal gangs

Is it? All of it? Struggles. Stringfellows? Spearmint Rhino? Babe station?

Don't know how the word "struggles" got in there - typo

In general, yep.
And stringfellows is struggling to exist. It is barely surviving. Look at who is actually making the money. Criminal gangs don't waste their time on vanity projects, they go where the real money is.