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Trunkisareshite · 27/02/2018 19:58

I would be devastated.

I’d be wondering where I went wrong and how my daughter or step daughter ended up with such a low opinion of herself. But then I’ve no interest in appearing ‘cool’.

kaytee87 · 27/02/2018 19:59

*The cool mums are out in force I see. Or maybe just women who don't have daughters.

No sane, caring, responsible, loving, intelligent mother wants this for her daughter or step-daughter.*

^ this

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 27/02/2018 19:59

No sane, caring, responsible, loving, intelligent mother wants this for her daughter or step-daughter

This is a reasonable comment ^^.

The massive issues with how women are valued and portrayed and objectified in our society are at a critical point. It's so bloody important that young women are not portrayed in a way that devalues them.

I would be bloody horrified. The 'Oh well, she's making good money,' comments are pretty depressing to me.

SparklyMagpie · 27/02/2018 19:59

Ahhh is it one of those threads ?

kaytee87 · 27/02/2018 20:00

She is gay so didn't feel she was being abused

I'm not questioning your daughters feelings on the matter but do you know her rationale behind her feeling different about it because she's gay?

Oldbutstillgotit · 27/02/2018 20:01

I would be devastated if either DD or DSD did this however I did some escort work many years ago so am in no position to criticise.

SparklyMagpie · 27/02/2018 20:03

Oooooh it's that OP with the dick head "D"H and the 2 DSD's, one being pregnant

I can't say I'm surprised by this then,but no who on earth would be happy about it, child or stepchild?

RainOnATinRoof · 27/02/2018 20:04

She will never be able to leave this behind.

It's no difficulty at all for men to record the sessions then post them online, which they do, sharing them on forums etc. And once it's online, it's online forever.

Your step daughter needs to realise that she will never be able to have a job in politics, teaching, entertainment, prominent CEO etc - any career in which porn of her will impact her credibility.

AuntFidgetWonkhamStrongNajork · 27/02/2018 20:06

I'm willing to bet you'll never return to this thread and it'll be like every other one you've started and never come back to. The advice is always the same and yet here you are.

Emmageddon · 27/02/2018 20:07

@kaytee87 she told me that getting her kit off for men, when she had zero interest in them, was like having a laugh at their expense. I am not condoning adultwork in any way.

Writersblock2 · 27/02/2018 20:16

I wish women would think more. No truly free woman would choose to do this. Fuck the patriarchy.

Namechanged17times · 27/02/2018 20:19

I did it.

Paid my way through a rg university and more.
I now work in a highly responsible and respected profession.
Am I ashamed?
No, it was a means to an end.

Would I do it again?
Never say never. I don't think I'll need to but the money is so easy.
Sometimes I even enjoyed it.

Would I care if everyone knew?
No. as far as I'm concerned it was a well paid part time job during university

Don't judge what you don't know.

Llanali · 27/02/2018 20:19

No I wouldn’t want it for my daughter. But neither would I be devastated, assuming she was legal age, and in possession of the facts, and of a mental capacity to decide.

If all the above criteria were met, then I genuinely would leave her to it. I certainly wouldn’t be doing «anything» let alone, illegal things, to stop her.

MadRainbow · 27/02/2018 20:22

I have a daughter also thanks and I was raised by a very strong woman that works in the adult industry. She CHOSE to do this, she ENJOYS her work and no it isn't all the glamour that most people believe it to be; but no one has ever coerced her and if you genuinely believed in feminism you would accept that everyone, male and female alike have a right to make whatever informed choices they like.

Also if a bloke decided to do all of this would he have the same reaction?? Men don't usually get paid any more than women in fact a lot of them are expected to do this for nothing. Why is there not a problem with this??

LadyDeadpool · 27/02/2018 20:22

@mummy2017 "In 1996 an American college student and conceptual artist, Jenny Ringley, created a website called "JenniCam."" the first cam girl site is only 22 years old.. Research your bullshit better before you spout it.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 27/02/2018 20:23

lap dancing/stripper/escort solicitor at oxbridge/rg uni now high flying professional.sure,aye
This has passed into urban myth and parlance as if everyone is at it.
Starbuck or sex industry?what job shall I do.lets see now...

MadRainbow · 27/02/2018 20:25

I had hoped that female sexuality had advanced beyond the whole "hush hush we dont enjoy this" mentality but clearly it isn't so

crunchymint · 27/02/2018 20:25

No not everything a woman does is a feminist choice.

crunchymint · 27/02/2018 20:28

Cam work is about doing things men watching and paying will enjoy.

LadyDeadpool · 27/02/2018 20:29

I've noticed a trend in a certain subset of friends of a very liberal friend to claim that sex work is empowering to women and that other women who show concern are jealous and petty that it should all be legalised including full scale prostitution. I've listened to their arguments and I can understand that perhaps for certain people it's empowering but it's not something I'd ever want for my daughter but her life isn't mine to judge and if women want to take back the sex industry then more power to them as long as they're doing it freely and safely with no abuse or coercion.
There will always be people men and women who want to view sexual content and there will always be people willing to provide it.

Branleuse · 27/02/2018 20:32

Its not what I would choose for my daughter, but I wouldnt go crazy either and I wouldnt be judgemental.
Id probably want to have a big talk with her and would hope she didnt go into sex work.

Namechanged17times · 27/02/2018 20:34

Yep.

I went to an rg uni and was a cam girl.
I couldn't have lowered myself to work at Starbucks.

Now, do you need help off of that high horse of haughtiness

Historicallyinaccurate · 27/02/2018 20:36

Gutted. Apart from all the psychological effects and problems it could cause for her in the future (jobs/being recognised, etc), she would be enabling men to pay for the sexual use of women and perpetuating the widespread misogyny associated with this. Another unwitting helper in the oppression of women.

NinjagoNinja · 27/02/2018 20:41

She CHOSE to do this, she ENJOYS her work and no it isn't all the glamour that most people believe it to be

Rest assured no-one thinks it's remotely glamorous.

Also if a bloke decided to do all of this would he have the same reaction?? Men don't usually get paid any more than women in fact a lot of them are expected to do this for nothing. Why is there not a problem with this??

Because men are not a subjugated group, they are not treated as a commodity by another group, their bodies bought and sold like cattle. One man doing this does not affect and contribute to how men are generally perceived in society. If you're asking would I be horrified if my son went down this route? The answer is still yes.

crunchymint · 27/02/2018 20:43

Women who do this do get recognised in real life at times. Would you want future kids to hear rumours at school that you did this?