DSD working as a cam girl

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How would you feel about it?

I agree with NinjagoNinja But I think age is important.

If she was an adult, and not a vulnerable adult, I'd be explaining to her what I thought and trying to talk her out of it.

If she was under 18 I'd be notifying the police.

I'd be concerned, mainly because I knew a girl who was a cam girl and she was recognised and blackmailed by a guy she went to school with.

And the OP is who?
Her STEPmother

Is this the pregnant one? (or has she had her baby?) Or the one with the older BF who wants her to come off the pill after 2 weeks?

I think my reaction would be entirely dependent on the circumstances and personality of the woman involved to be honest.

Oh yes, I forgot stepmothers aren't allowed any involvement on MN. There are however many hero stepdads who 'step up and love them like their own'.

In theory it all sounds great, loads of money all I have to do is roll around in front of a camera in the comfort of my own home, great pay taking advantage of sucker clients but in some ways I think prostution (the normal kind) is actually better than this. As a working girl she would have a number of clients but these would be limited and it could potentially be hushed up if she chooses another path later. With doing stuff on line it’s out there for infinite people to see, she won’t know who watches her which in a way puts her at a disadvantage and there will always be the potential that it will come back to bite her. It’s hard when young to imagine feeling differently in the future though so I doubt you’ll change her mind.

NC for this.

My eldest daughter was working as a webcam girl. She has borderline personality disorder. She told her dad she was working on the internet talking to lonely people and he stupidly assumed that meant as a counsellor/volunteer sort of thing ( he can see no wrong when it comes to her). Turned out that she did some girl on girl shows, did requests for cash and clothes. She went around actually bragging about it like it was socially ok and had the cheek to tell everybody I was a small minded hag and they all followed in my foot steps.

My daughter did this because she couldn't last 3 weeks in any other job. She ricochets from disaster to disaster and is not capable of making safe choice about anything. But she is not ill enough to get her sectioned and right now she refuses intervention in any form. So we had to make the choice to cut her out of our lives for now. We will help her again, when she is at rock bottom and has no alternatives.

I will say though, if my daughters or sons were mentally well balanced, and didn't fall for bull shit and lies, I would openly help them to make short term cash doing stripping/dancing to reach a long term goal like get out of debt free or being mortgage free within 5 years. And my daughter is beautiful, all bum length blonde hair and royal blue eyes. But the vultures spot her a mile away and as long as she is happy being the victim they will feed of her trust and naivete.

@Sourpatchkid why are you assuming mother? OP is in a relationship with the Womans father. Let him take the lead?

My friend did it 30 years ago and bought a house and a pub.,

They had cam girls 30: years ago??

dooby

I came on here as a parent of a boy to say I would be most unhappy. Young people can be very easily manipulated.

@mummy2017 the term "webcam girl" hadn't even been invented then

Honestly,I’d be so upset.no I’d no think she was empowered or earning £££
I think the mn forced nonchalance is a big ol act.acting all yea,she can chose
Well it’s not a choice I’d be happy with.id still love her,but I’d be worried and upset

Oh it's you. Is this the DSD who was going to move in with your pregnant DSD in the last thread of yours I read?

@TheQueef - I never said anything by about a mother? I assume OP is positing on behalf of her and her partner to be honest (when I post here about parenting, I write using "me" and "DS" but I wouldn't actually do something without my husband being involved too)

I would be gutted and very concerned. But then I understand this world better than many on here I suspect

Never heard this expression - what is it?

To all those saying 'her business', would you really not be upset/disappointed if your albeit adult daughter was showing her naked body to all manner of strange men for their sexual gratification? Really?

I think her DSDs age changes quite a lot, so even if she’s 25 now she could be 18 next week.

I would be devastated.

I'd speak to her to see that she understands that it will be out there forever. The clients can and do record it.

Her partner, children, future employers could all potentially see it.

I think I’d literally do ANYTHING including illegal shit to prevent it

My DD did some adultwork of this type, while she was at uni, for a few weeks. It isn't pleasant but it is very easy money. She is gay so didn't feel she was being abused, but I was really concerned. It was all conducted online and was run by a supposedly reputable company, the girls just had to be available to interact with their clients and got paid accordingly.

She is either the 18 year old pregnant DSD or the 22 year old with a new boyfriend who wants a baby, had problems with her car being driven by a friend and having to live with the younger one in a flat bought by teir father or something like that.